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Is It Bad to ask A co-worker out?

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It can be. It honestly depends whether or not your company has a police against it. And well...it also depends on how you and a co-worker are in a relationship.

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Well It seems A ton of people I work with are together but work separate , Her and I don't exactly work together,
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Pleasure and work don't mix.

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that could get awkward really quick don't do it

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If it wouldn't prejudice your work or her work, no.

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Only if you are both of the same sex.

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not bad, but unwise. Work and pleasure do not mix.

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It's not bad. It's just a bad idea. Although most people do meet at work.

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My husband and I met at work! At that time I was a medical assistant for him. But I didn't start dating him until about 7 months after I left. He tracked me down! ;)
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Yeah. Like I said. That's where most people meet. Smart move by him waiting until you guys didn't work together anymore.
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I wouldn't. It makes for an awkward situation if it didn't work out.

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Good morning... That morning sunshine is a beautiful thing!
Hope your having a better week off :)
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The best. Still (and I guess till I'm through with this), have that metallic taste in my mouth!
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Yes that is a nasty side effect.. I'm guessing you got your nausea meds straightened out? Its so good to see you this morning:)
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But if it does work out .........
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Ah! I actually met my husband at work. I was his medical assistant. But I didn't go out with him until 7 months after I left there. And he tracked me down! :)
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I read your question of a few days ago... worst thing that has happened.. that was such an inspiring set of answers!
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I would have loved to see more answers! It was amazing how everyone just opened up!
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it really is cool... I think we all forget at times
what other people are going through..
it was a great question! For those who are ready to share
it provides a place to heal and enlighten..
was really great! :)
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Thanks Blades. Maybe I, (or you), would ask it again but just at a different time....
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That's an idea :)
Love your pic too.. I know ive already said that.. :)
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Gibbs Rule #12

Never date a co-worker.
http://www.gibbsrules.com/

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Sometimes it depends how close you guys are and if he or she even likes you back, But honestly I say go for it you can't go through life wondering how it would be if I did do it, You have to go through life wondering what if I didn't do it...

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I mean I make her laugh all the time , always see her smile when I'm around just really don't know if I should or not. We even were talking and she flat out told me that she was single.
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Well get to know her more, Sometimes you just gotta take a risk.
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I hope all ends well....
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I have tried the friend thing only for it to back fire
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What do you mean??
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You guys are friends right
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I have an idea why don't you and all the people you work with plan a movie night or go out to dinner and tell everyone it was cancled but not to tell her so it's only you and her at the movie or dinner so it's then considered a date!!!!!
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or just ask her on a date
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I mean Like I'm always told that they don't want to ruin the Friendship stuff but will date other friends, It's confusing. I was going to ask if it would be bad to ask her out to dinner
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Well yeah but don't scare her off with all the lovey dovey stuff do you know her favorite flower and color???
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What do you mean by scare her off?
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Well some girls not all but some kinda get a little scared of the feeling or thought of being in love or being in a relationship expecially if they really like the guy or if they just met him Take it slow she just might be one of those girls.
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I was thinking what If I made it seem like I liked another Woman, and Ask her advice on what she likes then I'd just do that ?
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Maybe that may help?
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Yeah that's genious you are very clever my friend
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Well I think this calls for...........
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Lunch
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Lunch already ? Lol I know She loves Hockey, and Her Nephew loves Wrestling like me So I would be good help there,
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No I ment I want lunch not take her to lunch sorry if I confused you
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Yeah so then take her to a hockey game but please for the love of love don't make her pay oh yeah and don't throw yourself out there too much like by saying Oh I'll get that, No don't sit there, Or oh I'll do that for you. Yes it is good to help her and be nice but you have to remember that she isn't helpless and some things she can do on her own.
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Oh and don't compliment her soo much yeah we like to be complimented but not like Oh I like your eyes, Are you wearing perfume oh I really like it, Umm you look soo good tonight and lots more. Yes you can compliment her but please be a gentleman
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She already told me She don't like people paying for her , I was not going to go that far Id mostly open the Door
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Ok but don't be stingy you know what I mean
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Yea but tell me anyway to see if I'm right please
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right about what
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Sting? I'm nice but Im not that nice all the time lol
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Well neither am I it's ok just don't be rude and put her before yourself ok.
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so what are you going to do ?
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Well yea I won't be rude to her of course
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Good but you also have to put her before you ok but not too much just have fun, lay loose, Enjoy it, Be a better you, And be a gentleman.
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Just calm down and be you but nicer and more of a gentleman ok
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How did it go or did anything even go??
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Hello did you succeed how did it go? Are you ok?!?!?!
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Don't dip your pen in the Company ink! Haha just kidding, I married a coworker :-) It's nice to always have that in common, we can always talk about work and understand what the other is talking about. When I was single and dated outside of work, they'd have no idea what I was talking about if I brought up my job.

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Yea I know people at work that are married, Just they work In separate areas
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it depends if it is against the rules at work because some jobs have rules about dating a co-worker but no don"t feel embarrass

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lol, my best friend continues to try to ask our co workers out. and trust me, it never ends well... when they stop talking, it gets awkward for everyone.

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it depends upon the situation....and what are your reasons for asking him/her out...

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It was not something I could ever do.. but that being said I saw employees have mixed results doing so..
Its all in what one can handle if a problem arises

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If the relationship goes sour, the work enviornment isnt going to be pleasant anymore. I'd keep it just as friends and if you guys are both mutually really into each other and think its worth an effort, find another job. Other people will get into your business too and even if you split, who knows whos going to be the one that starts drama or spills secret information that was meant to be secret. I guess that would depend on your age group and if you work with mature adults. It could only be a good thing if you guys could stand working together say if it ended in marriage. Some people love working together and others need their work to be seperate because if you see each other too much then you will get tired of each other fast and start fighting. Then work/pleasure would be combined and you'll be up each others butts all the time and stressed out. If you're just looking for a hookup, then its a definate noooo!!!!!! You could also ruin it for her and make her lose her job.

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I'm not looking for A hook up at all. This Person and I don't really see much of each other, I did the whole friend thing before and it back fired on me because I was told we were to good of friends
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I guess the first step is to let her know that she has an admirer and find out for sure if she would even be interested in going on a date. Find time at work at lunch break or whatever to talk for a while for a couple weeks and see if you can keep a connection and have anything in common before you take the relationship outside of work because that is where it will get much more personal and change everything.
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work ettiquetes/ethics would tell you to ask or not to...

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Nope, I married a co-worker.

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There's an old saying, "Don't get your meat where you get your bread and butter."

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No, but it might get awkward when they break up with you, since they work with you. If it's a boss, possible loss of job?

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I met my husband at work. We've been married for 25 years now. Just be mature about the situation. Does the co-worker seem interested in you? If so ask away as long as your jobs aren't placed in jeopardy. If not then don't ask, it could make for an awkward situation for the person. Good luck

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What if I make it sound like I like someone else, and ask her opinions but, really I'm asking for her?
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Well, if she is interested in you then she may not be really forthcoming in her replies because she may feel hurt that you're not interested in her. I assume you are already friends with her? If not then there's a good place to start. Find out what her interest are. Her likes and dislikes about things in general. Just be yourself and ask her out.. It's not that complicated if ya don't make it such. Good luck and keep me updated ;)
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I just read where you said you had done the whole "friend thing" before. Just ask her out... she will either say yes or no. You really don't have a thing to loose and maybe she is waiting on you to ask.
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Would be awkward if it doesn't work out, because you will always see that person at work.. and it may cause issues down the line.

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