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Is it possible to have real (good and lasting) friendships with the opposite gender?

Someone told me that it isn't and that my guy friends are just going to end up using me..... I don't believe that soo I'd like some opinions. :)

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Phlorence_602

Yes....it's very possible to have a good and lasting friendship with the opposite s3x.
As a matter of fact, I have one right now.

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No problem.
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Me!! Shes talking about me!!
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Lol
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I've been friends with a guy since 7th grade, about 40 yrs.! We're very close! We don't live close anymore but communicate all the time!

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Wow! Lol thanks :)
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depends on the guy.

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Lol ok......
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Yea totally, I have had a best friend for 15 years and he is a guy!

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This "friend" that told you the guy would use you had no right to say that. I have plenty of male friends. Next time somebody tells you that, tell them that you can't be used unless you allow somebody to use you, and you aren't that gullible!!!!

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Lol ok thanks!
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You're more than welcome!!! And, now that I think about it, at one point, all of my good friends WERE males.
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Yes,I guess It could be possible.

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Mhm thanks lol
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Who ever told you that is a idiot. You can be really good friends with the opposite s3x. I have been friends with this guy for like all my life and he doesnt use me.

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Lol I know right!! My best friend is a boy and we've been friends for years soooo..... xD
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Lol yeah just dont pay attention to them xP
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thatoneguy97

Yes. It is, I believe my friendship with CaptainThorLoki will last quite a while. Although we can't talk in person, it can't change the fact that we're best friends.

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Lol awwww. Cool. Thanks. :)
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No problem, tic_tac.
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Ever heard of being "Friend zoned" (moment of silence to all my brothers who have suffered this fate)

It's a possibility, but if you are in a relationship the other partner might get jealous of the attention you are giving to the other person.

Honestly, I have no idea what to do, but I gave it my best shot

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Yes, of course. Not every single guy and girl will be attracted towards each other romantically. Plus, there are people out there that value their friendship a lot more than taking a chance in pursuing a romantic relationship. (Every situation is different.)

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Mhm thanks. :)
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Welcome :)
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hi violet i read what you said to andrew that was really nice i started following you if its ok if not i understand
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Yes!!! Indeed!!! I'am in one right now and it's going pretty good!! :3

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Hiii Justin :)
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Hi!! Sup?!?
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Sup? Lol idk I'm bored and hungry. What's up with you?
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Nothing having a bad headache and I'm in my bio class.
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Awww I'm sorry.................... :/
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It's ok. No need to worry. :)
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I'm soo upset. :(
My friend said I was a tease. O.o
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What's a tease? Sorry I'm kinda dumb today.
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Lol a messed up cross between a sl*t and a b*tch. O.o
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Lol. No youre not. That's just kinda mean. Well at least your not a stud.
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Hehe cuz I'm not a boy. ;)
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Lol! Well I guess I'am. My best friends ex I think likes me. But I'm not doing it cause of the bro code.
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Aww good for you. Lol :P
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Lol and I don't really like her.
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Well that makes sense. I thought you like your best friend? O.o
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Yeah maybe at friend not my best friends ex girl friend. And just out of confusion I like a girl not a guy.
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Lol ok. :)
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If a girl stares, smiles, waves, mess with you mean she likes you? I'm just having a bad headache
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It could mean that.....
Do you need some headache medicine?
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I'm good. I got nothing to do in Spanish so I'm just taking a break.
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Are you sure....?
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Yep! I think I'm ok now. Well a little bit. But drawing stick figures fighting helps.
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Hehe lol ok. :P
Don't make me worry about you too much. ;)
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Lol. I won't ;) you too don't make me worry to much
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I'll try. I'm bored. :)
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Sounds like being bored is fun! Lol
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It's a good day. ;)
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;) ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) I get it is!!! ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) ;)
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Lol. So how are you?
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I'm good! Just finish my test and our teacher lets us use our phone.
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Interesting. Lol
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Lol!!!!! I'm bored
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Awwww I'm sorry!! Lol what time is it by you? Jw :)
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It's 2:30 in here. And sorry I was in a class
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Oh! That's ok!
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Ok brb gotta go to farmers market with my best friend.
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Bye. :/
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Back!!! Well I just wasted $3 for a kettle corn. xD
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That's cool.......
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Lol. So whats up with you?
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The sky........
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So youre flying? :D
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Lol :)
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Lololololololololol
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I'm borrreeeedddddddd
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Same hereeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!
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Lol I sawwweeee. Wanna go to the mall with me? xD
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Uhmmm sure!!! I want benies!!! :3
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Benies?
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Beanie hats? You don't know them?
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Ohhh beanies. Lol yeah. I mean I own a whole bunch.
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Me too!!! Until my bro used it and lost them. >:"(
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Lol aww I'll buy you one for your b-day Friday. ;)
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Lol thanks, but isn't that impossibru.
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Why?
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You can't give it to me. No duh!?!?
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Lol you're not fun, Justin. :P
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Oh I see!!! Well I'm sorry :( it's just my headache came back.
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I'm sorry....
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Well it's gone!!! Idk why but I just feel better all of a sudden. *sigh* I guess it's just her. Lol :D
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Lol good luck with that.
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Lol she's the one that made me feel better.
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Aw well that's good.
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Lol yep! :) so how are you?
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Ok
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Ok is not good enough.
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Sorry
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Lol it's ok.
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Ok
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Brb I have concert today. And I'm on my tux.
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Bye
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Back just finished my performance. And it was awesome :)
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That's good.
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Yep!! I like how I'm still wearing my tux.
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I bet you look cute.
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I look like a skinny penguin.
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Lmao!!!!!! xD
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Lol. But I do kinda.
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Ohh......
I'm kinda upset. I need a hug. :/
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Um. Yes. Ever seen old couples?

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It's possible. :)

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Anything is quite possible, I'm sure, my friend.

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Sometimes, with the right person. I've been best friends with a guy since high school. It's been almost 35 years, and he lives in Japan. Love him like a brother. And I know he would do anything for me.

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That's cute!! Well in planning on living in Japan too!
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Awesome. They make great friends there!
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I know I've been there when I was little so now I consider myself a good friend.
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Yes you can!!!

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DEFINITELY I have a friend that's a girl and we have been friends since we started middle school

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Yes! Just make sure you're open about your feelings with them so they know that you just want to be friends. Treat them the same way you would a friend of the same gender- if they do something that makes you uncomfortable then let them know! If they're a good friend, their gender won't be an issue at all. If it becomes an issue, it's probably time to find a new friend.

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