You need confidence! Are you so shy that you're scared to talk to anyone? You need to consider yourself of what you need to change. Just don't waste your efforts on comparing yourself to other people around you. Place yourself out there and walk up to someone who looks friendly,start a conversation. Talk to random people,even though you don't know them.Be friendly and don't forget to smile. :)

Jorge1007: 2 months ago

Thank you!! ill do it

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Graceful_Lolita: 2 months ago

You're welcome!

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Jorge1007: 2 months ago

Thanks too u and jolinweb i made new friends at school today thanks :D

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Graceful_Lolita: 2 months ago

I'm glad you're able to make new friends now. Anytime. ^_^

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It has been my experience that one cannot stop being shy. It's in you to stay, I believe, though it will probable decrease slightly, as you mature.

DrBrian: 2 months ago

On the contrary - you CAN develp your self-confidence immensely if that is what you wish. Read Dale Carnegie's great book "How to Win Friends and Influence Peope" - it will transform your life! Go to classes that teach you how to speak in public that will boost your ability to get things done immensely.

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craigsmom: 2 months ago

I am shy, so I have some personal knowledge. It's ingrained in us. Yes, maybe those things you suggest can help somewhat, but they are not a cure.
Also, not being self-confident does not always equal shyness.

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I am so pleased you are shy - it is painful to be around brash, over-bearing teenagers! You will gradually build your self-esteem as you develop more social skills, but for now - mix with more people and do more things. The BEST was to overcome shyness is to learn to speak in public - this will push you out of your 'shell' and give you the ability to take change in any situation. And to get started,read one of two books from Amazon on this subject. Such as “The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook for Teens: CBT and ACT Skills to Help You Build Social Confidence” by Jennifer Shannon LMFT, Doug Shannon and Christine Padesky. Also “Confident Teens: How to Raise a Positive, Confident and Happy Teenager” by Gael Lindenfield.

Just talk to them and not think about their reactions. If they get mad or be rude to you, be aggressive back to them and you will feel more confident because they're the ones that started something in the first place. Most of the time people aren't going to criticize you right in front of you and people always want to talk instead of sitting doing hw or reading a book. And also the "you only live once" concept helps people.

im not really shy...my friends are, but im one of the most popular though. i just be myself and laugh at everything. if someone gives me something funny, a normal person would chuckle at, i would start crying cuz im laughing so hard. also i am really funny and i make people laugh. just be yourself and if you are shy just try to do crazy stuff. fof my friends bday i stole my moms maxy pads and gave them to him at school. i also sold condoms to little 6th graders for 5 bucks each and they are expired. just do things that normal ppl dont do

I would suggest self-help books such as the ones DrBrian suggested.

Some people are fortunate and are born into large families were they have plenty of kids they can practice their social interaction skills. For the rest of us, we have to do it the hard way. As kids we have no fear of being embarrassed, but as we grow up we are more aware of the opinion of others and thus we tend to "think" our way through human interaction. Thinking is too slow a method to handle the fluidity of conversation. Thus you need material that you can use in advance. People like jokes so i would start there. Read every joke book you can get in he library. Then join a sports team. Sports force team players to socialize. This process can take years, it might even take about 10 years before you become somewhat comfortable with people. You will most likely NEVER be a master at social interaction so you need to focus you energies in other things like sports or science. A little balance goes a long way. Just experience talking.