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He Cheated On Me Now What?

I've been dating this man for 2 in a half years, I just found out yesterday that he was contacting a girl that lived a few towns away on facebook. He works off shore and until now I thought he was a very upstanding man with morals. I found out he was cheating when I got suspicious that he was hiding something. when I asked for his phone and he immediately locked it and didn't get back on it for the rest of the day, I logged into his email because I had something sent to his address because I couldn't log into mine, in his sent messages were many messages from him to women giving them his number so they could exchange pictures, I also found inappropriate pictures of a girl I noticed her face because she had added me on facebook and she texted him very often she was a "Friend" of his. I confronted him and he told me she randomly sent him those pictures so in a blinding rage I wrote her on facebook and it turns out she sent me the facebook messages between her and him. he was planning on going to meet her and calling her babe he was even calling her from work which now makes sense because he always took way to long to call me. we've talked about this and I'm torn apart by all of this. I have never pegged him as a cheater but I was proved wrong. I love him to death I really do. I want to try to work past this but I can't help but to keep re reading the messages between them in my mind at night and when I look at him. I need serious answers. how can we mend what is now broken?

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Why would you want to make things work with someone who lied to you and was doing things behind your back? You're a pretty girl. Find someone who will treat you right and dump the loser!

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no prob.leave him

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Tell him you saw his emails

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Ask him if he wants to get through this together or if he wants to break up. If he wants to break up, then break up. Get over him.

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My mom always told to never trust a man who's cheated on you. How can you have a relationship with no trust? I know it's hard, but it might be best to just move on. After the first time they get caught, they get craftier, get better at hiding it. Unless, they don't think you're going to leave them.

I hope you can move past this, and he either mans up, or you find love elsewhere.

Best of luck to you.

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He isn't committed to you / a relationship with you.
You're NOT the "one" he wants.
Break it off, move on.

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get over him ... he is not worth it

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Ask point blank if he wants your relationship or one with her ... If he stays with you he needs to be an open book... Computer, phone etc. if he won't do that then you need to leave!! but I believe "once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater

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I was dating a girl for 4 years and I just found out she was cheating on me

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:( good luck and know not all women cheat...
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Well in honestly u can't always trust a guy that's what happened to me when I was going out with my ex, he asked out one of my friends and she told me. So when I got home I had to make a decision and it was to leave him. Boys are like that n it's better to forget about him like I did with my ex and I'm so sorry

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girl,this is comming from a 40 yr old man.I cheated on my wife and it was facebook related..she forgave me but things were never the same...ill regret doing that till the day i die.I remember the look in her eyes when i admitted to it..ill never forget it...she left me a year later...cheaters are unworthy of your love.U should move on unless u know for sure u can forgive,but it will always be in the back of your mind.

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So true .. You never look at the cheater the same .. Heartbreak changes you..
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if he wants to cheat on you and by the look of your picture you are beautiful than he dont deserve you our any girl

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Want to know how to never get hurt? Don't trust anyone, period.

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RedRose
that sounds painful.
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Accept the action, accept the consequence. He didn't care enough about the possibility of losing you. Judging by your content I'd guess you will never be able to fully forget or trust. Every time he was late, or didn't call your mind would spin. It's not worth the agony. He sounds busy, he's gone, let him go. Find someone that loves enough to be faithful. Good luck!

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Now you dump the loser.

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cheating is a deal breaker ....sorry

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Now what leave him... You will never ever trust him .. And your young still don't waste your time on a loser...

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RedRose

No. He's a cheater and liar and the worst kind of guy. I'm sorry. what happens now is you leave him-you dump him hard so he regrets what he did with every fiber of his being. then you begin the process of getting over it, and find yourself a real man.

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you tell her rose lol
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ok i posted it tell me what you think
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you can't. Even as bad as you want too make things work, you'll be suspicious of everyhing. questioning him because you can't stop your mind from wondering. You'll drive him away doing this anyways. If you don't want to lose him forever than its your life. but if I was in your position is give myself along break.! after that break see if this is still what you want.

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tell him that you saw the messages and you are fed up and he has to choose between some one else or you. i think that he doesn't deserve you after what he did. my brother had the same thing happen to him. so ya funny how people are some times.

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hes a chater once a cheater always a cheater they never change you need to leave him and move on hes not worth your heart ache

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srry cute one, thaz juz wayy too long for me to read.....juz kidding i read it, ight i got three words for him "GET A LIFE" u may still luv him alot but if i were u n i heard he CALLS A DAMN FUKKN GIRL HE ONLY MET ON FB id play ball wid him till the night, bb is my thing...

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He should be the one trying to fix this cus hes the one who f*ed up!! if he loved you he wouldnt have done this;/ Im so sorry.. hard pill to swallow to think the person you care for and trusted has been lieing to you and hiding from you.., the only reason he cam forth if he even did is cus he got caught!, he doesnt know what he wants.. and personally i wouldnt stick around for him to try ma and her to pick who he likes better.. for what a nether blow!!? If you respect your self then time to move on... dont closes the book just turn the page.. new chapter.. ps. trust is to be earned!! & not given lightly, and he has lost all trust.. if your willing to forgive him then he needs to prov himself to be trustworthy, and right now hes not. good luck babe;*

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i read your profile very interesting
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If you get back with him he's going to think he can get Away with it. Someone else makes him happy. He's not happy with only you, so someone else can and hopefully you'll let them make you happy.

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Don't leave him just yet. Give him another chance, everyone makes mistakes. That's stupid to spend two years with someone, they make a mistake, & You just leave. Keep an eye on him, don't become controlling or obsessive, or anything like that. If he keeps acting like he's cheating then that's when you break it off. It will be hard, & painful, but it'll be even worse if you stay and let him keep hurting you.

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