How do I tell my daughter (9) that her stepfather doesn't want her to live with us anymore and she has to live with her dad full time?
I remarried 4 years ago, my daughter was 4. Her dad and I shared physical custody...in a half week there and half week with me and my husband. In the 4 years that my husband has been her stepdad, she has been unable to have a true bond with him. She will ignore him at times, not say hello, ignore his questions. She will pull away from physical contact with him and is generally very disobedient to him. My husband has the added pressure/issue of having PTSD. Well, the other day he snapped and told her to go to her dad's house and not come back. Their relationship, to me, is no longer healthy. He has too much built up resentment to love her as she needs/should be loved. But, I still love her very much and want to remain in her life.
My only options are to either be a mom from afar or to leave my husband.
I don't know if I can forgive my myself for hurting her like this. I'm also unsure if I can forgive my husband for doing this.
Right now though, I need to know what to tell my daughter. My husband wants me to pack up all her stuff and take it to her father's house.