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How to stop a toddler's temper tantrum?

Gah! I really don't know what to do anymore. Felix started throwing a tantrum because I told him he couldn't have a piece of candy until after dinner...He's been throwing that tantrum for about 10 minutes...I tried telling him what he was doing wasn't appropriate but he didn't listen. *sigh* I've been searching the Internet for a solution but I haven't found one that's worked yet. I'm seriously about to give him the candy so I can get ready for work. How do I stop the tantrum? Please help! DX

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Whatever you do, do NOT cave in! He will forever throw tantrums if you do this! Put him in time out, seriously, it works. Do NOT give him ANY attention until he calms down. If he comes out of time out, you walk over to him, pick him up (with NO eye contact) and put him back into time out. When he sits there, quietly, you allow him to come out. Put the candy out of sight.

Out of sight, out of mind.

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Minji
Thank you so much! The tantrum stopped! Yay! :D
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Tantrums are tough! Set your boundaries and stick to them, but try to do so in a calm, fair way. Be a broken record and just make sure they understand your standard, "Dinner first, then candy." Don't raise your voice or lose control! That shows them that their tantrum works. Unless they are hurting someone/something, it's ok to let them continue their tantrum, even though it's annoying. Even in public where it's embarrassing, you can't force a child to stop, so just set your boundary and be patient. For young kids, emotions are often more important than reasoning so they just need to express their emotion before they move on. Talk to them later about the incident and help them find positive ways to express themselves. Good luck!

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Minji
Thank you! :D
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do what my mother did with me, take a switch to that azz of his or where ever else it strikes

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You shouldn't just give him the candy. It will reinforce the tantrum. It shows your child that he will get candy if he starts throwing tantrums. My daughter has autism, so her tutors told me that if she starts misbehaving, sometimes not giving her any attention will make her calm down and that includes staring at her. Aprilj1992 is right: use the "if, then" method. "if you do this first, then you can do this."

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Thank you so much! :D
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CALL SUPER NANNY!! ...she will help

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Hold him in the shower under cold water. He will stop pretty quick.

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I give my daughter time outs for tantrums..whatever they r throwing a fit over do not give in to them, if u do u will create a monster!

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if there crying act like your crying to ,they freeze cause they dont know why you are

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lol thats what I do all the time. it really works
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If you give in to the tantrum and give him the candy he has successfully trained you. You must be willing to deal with the chaos in order to stop it. When my son would throw a tantrum I would get very calm and centered and remove myself from his presence. He would follow me into the next room. I would again remove myself. Kids are smart, they soon realize cause and effect. Use it to your advantage but you must be calm and consistent.

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