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Is this a bad reason for breaking up?

My now not bf anymore cheated on me with his ex. He always called me 'the one' and 'angel' so I'm not sure if I made a good decision of breaking up...

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Its the best reason for breaking up. Now, I personally dont believe in second chances, but I do believe in staying friends. Not like we can still be friends way, but like I want to be friends way. If he doesnt want to, he s not worth it. Gby.

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You made the right decision.

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Not a bad decision at all

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If you feel you cannot trust him anymore and you feel he can't be faithful then you made the right decision. You can always forgive him also but can you trust he won't cheat again?

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The past doesnt matter, butif he is still the same in the present as he was in the past, then that matters.
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What? Of course the past really matters. The past is what determines if u wanna stay with a person in the present
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No, the present is what determins that. Just because in the past, you played with mud, doesnt mean you still do in the present. And you might not believe this, but one person really can change from one day to another, and also can take years. But also can take hours. Just because someone was sick with a cold, doesnt mean they are still sick with a cold, but if you see the present i still not healthy, then by the present, you know. The past might matter, but not really that mutch.
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Did you not read my last comment? You can't compare a common cool to infidelity dude. Some things are unforgivable or there wouldn't be divorce. When it comes to cheating that's is why the person decides if he/she wants to stay in the relationship because of his/her past transgression. They make that decision in the present after the fact(past)
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Actually, the only unforgivable thing is to not own your soul. Anything can be forgiven. And people do that, but they shouldnt. If a person has been faithful all their lives, and they decide to become something else, will theiir past save them? If you think not, then you shouldnt think that the past has that much importance in the present. What affets the present and the future is what is important. Not the past by itself. The Bible says that who doesnt forgive wont be forgiven.
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Common bro you're speaking religion to me. It's all good if you wanna go that route cause what you say about forgiveness is true and I believe in the word of God in the scriptures. The bible does speak of that bro I agree but the bible also says, and this is a commandment by God himself to his people that the way a person can divorce or be free of his/hers obligation to merrage is if the spouse comits infidelity or dies. As a Christian a person should forgive and let it go and try again but God gave us those two options. Nowadays people don't see it like you and me. People divorce all the time for stupid reasons and the law of the land says you can part with the relationship for irreconcilable differences. I believe you brother about forgiveness but god gives us the right to part if the trust we had with our partner Is lost
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Amen. But we must remember, that even if we part from our spouses, they are still thy neighbor. Still gotta love them. Of course, doesnt mean you re gonna please them in their injustice, but still pray for them and want them to be good and give them help IF they ever need it. Well, here s our commn point of view: She has the right to leave him, IF she wants.
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Amen brother I'm glad we came to some agreement
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me too. Gby :)
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yepper, you did right by kicking him to the curb. he is a playa.

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Get back with your ex, see if he likes it.

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If you were 'the one', there was no need for him to cheat.

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Not a bad decision its the fact that he cheated them words are lies how can you trust him?

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Break up!!!!?

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Yup.
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Monogamy is not inherent. It is something ever-learned never-perfected. Young people's expectations of such things are unrealistic. The understanding of such things should b realized b4 engaging in sexual relationships. Only time can tell if any man will ever come to strive at it or not. In time he may prove to be worthy of the type of relationship neither of you were really ready for yet.

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You made the right decision. A guy who cheats once is one who will almost certainly do it again, and lie about it.

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I believe in second chances to a point. something like cheating is not acceptable to me. I have never cheated, and most of my.relationships ended with them cheating on me. yes I believe you made the right decision.

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You didn't have a commitment from him in the first place.
Obviously.
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I'm not certain what constitutes "cheating" in your mind; WTF did he actually do? Talk to her? Have a Coke at McDonalds? Did they do the hootchie-coochie? (How do you know anyway?!)

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have a coke at mcdonalds? o.0
and no none of that (even though i dont know what hootchie coochie is)
i saw him kiss her and grabbing her... breasts >:P and also my friend said hes cheated in the past too
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Cheated?! And u think it was a bad decision for breaking up?! It was the best decision! Especially because it was his ex! That means he still loves her and misses her! Don't go back to him!

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