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I am a nerd and want a girlfriend. Help!

I am 13 and what everybody would call a nerd. I just want someone to share my thoughts and emotions with. I tried asking a girl i liked out and she said she wasnt looking for a boyfriend at the time but a day later she asked my out, and i said yes. she said that "this isnt working out" 5 minutes later. I just sometimes need someone to know is there for me and I would do everything in my ability to please them and be the best boyfriend i could be. I am very nerdy and technical, but like generic things like pop music, reading, and soccer. I only have 6 real friends I can relate to and actually talk to. Looking back at all the failed attempts to get girls is really discouraging and I know that I am young for this but I see so many 8th graders with girlfriends. I don't know what I should do. Please help!

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First off I'm sorry that girl was a jerk a didn't even deserve you for five minutes . If by "nerd" you mean your smart then being smart is not a bad thing . Calling yourself a nerd has a negative connotation . I'm sure your a very smart , caring , and loving guy and any girl would be lucky to have you. The worst thing you could do is feel sorry for yourself and say things like "she's out of my league ." First off no one is higher than anyone else we are all equal . I don't believe any girl is out of my league and neither should you and nice guys do not finish last . The guys that finish last are the ones that sit around and hope a girl will magically fall into there arms and then complain when they see a pretty girl with some guy. You just have to keep looking and have confidence in yourself if a certain girl doesn't like you then oh well that's her loss . Good luck man keep looking you will find someone .

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FunnyLittleFrog

You're on the right track, just keep looking. Nerds are cute. It's ok if relationships don't last. You don't want to get married to the first person you are ever attracted to and in a relationship with, anyway, more often than not.

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Again, middle school relationships never last, it'd be smart to wait til high school. I'm in high school and I haven't kissed a girl either, yippee! (I'm on a comment break.

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But what do I do before then, watch everyone else have girlfriends? I haven't even kissed a girl yet!
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Omg Were you from... @thatoneguy97 truee
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You're really courageous to post this :)

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thanks. I just want other peoples opinions
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im in the same situation! Just try to act confident or find a nerd girl! Ive dated 3 nerdy girls, and they lasted longer than the not nerdy girls ive dated.

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Just keep looking. You'll find someone :)

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Go to a lot of group events and don't worry about girls. Wait for high school and just be yourself. It doesnt help to be a poser so let them come to you. Good luck in high school!!

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what do you mean be a poser
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Just make friends with girl, trust me, it's much better than worrying about dating them.
Then if a friendship goes farther so be it, but I would wait until high school.
As a girl, my best guy friend and I talk about emotional stuff all the time, and we aren't dating, so if you want that kind of relationship, I can tell you that you don't need a girlfriend to have it.
Good luck:)

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You want a girlfriend, you don't need a girlfriend.

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Meow!
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Find a girl who is a nerd also.

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If you were a triangle, I bet you be ACUTE triangle!!! HAHAHAHAHA no don't do that, she will never talk to you again. You have your whole live in front of you, no rush.

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Dang I'm going to have to use that in math class (x
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Jk phhh (:
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Haha or you can say. I love to until
The End of Pi. (teehee which is never)
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Haha how clever . What a pick up line pro haha(: pick up lines are so cheesy (:
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You could try going to an anime or comic convention. There are normally very cute girls of all ages at those and they may even share some of your interests.

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1. Be wise. All it takes is to say the right thing in the right moment. The beggining of wisdom is God. Now, Ik what its like to see everyone with gfs and want one, but not having a gf givces you self value. Wisdom will give you more value. Being calm will give you even more value. And your loving and caring personality gives you even more value. Really, what you re missing is wisdom. Get that, and if you remain calm, the girls are gonna want you. But remember that not having a gf gives you self value. Gby.

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Keep looking. Finding a cute nerdy girl is the perfect couple. Good luck! :-)

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You seem like a very smart person and i think u shouldn't consider yourself as a nerd. If ur smart Awesome but that doesn't mean ur a nerd
If u want to out with a girl
U don't have to change for one
And don't worry that special someone will come
Not today or tomorrow... Soon... Soon
Hey I don't blame you
I'm 13 too and I want a BF but oh well
I'm just gonna wait for that special someone like u :)

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Buttercup_

the girl you liked...you can do better, I'm actually surprised you don't already have a girlfriend, a lot of girls (or smart ones at least) like "nerdy" guys because they can be trusted, and stop putting yourself in a category, just because you like computers and such doesn't mean your a nerd, people often rush into a "relationship" with out actually knowing what it means, having a girlfriend means never being able to talk to your friends about other girls, the whole dating thing seems like way to much of a hassle, and as for those six friends...guess how many trusted relatable friends I have...0 so be happy you actually have someone to talk to, that actually understand you, who won't judge you or compare you to their other friends, or imply stupid things, and stop looking for "love" it's not something YOU hunt for, just let it find you

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Next time you see a girl everyone treats as the outcast or the punching bag, go up to her and talk to her, be her friend, and dont even bother going after the popular girls or the hot girls because they will end up using you like everyone else, go with somone who resembles what you feel and help eachother be happy :)

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Look for a girl whom most people wont approach because she wears a lot of black, is labeled by her peers, or always seems in a bad mood. often things like that are just filters to find someone that sees past all that. girls like that want to find someone who isnt shallow, is intelligent, and that respects them. Also remember this for first dates: the girl sets her own rules. Her space is her space. Dont feel like you have to become a man. dont feel pressure from your friends or yourself to "preform" (or whatever you want to call it).

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Okay, you and me have WAY TO MUCH in common, anyway. I didn't get a girlfriend till late first semester of 9th grade, don't feel pressured to get one in middle school,

Until I got a girlfriend I just used the whole "I had a girlfriend once, but either a) I screwed it up, b) it was terrible, or c) none of your business" sure they might not believe you, but they can't prove you wrong - just say that you met her at a summer camp or something.

Someone probably likes you, you just don't know it.

I tell myself that often, VERY often.

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Just be yourself, im 14and i know how it feels if someone really likes you you wont have to change.

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Just be really friendly with girls and than you learn to trust them and people will end up liking you for you and see how wonderful you are. And i am sure a girl will fall for your personality and you will end up with a girlfriend

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hi buddy ,I think that is absolutely awful what she did to you. Don't take what she did personally she has problems with her own identity. She's not even deserve you or anyone to be blunt , don't worry you are only thirteen you should not be worrying about girls right now anyway in my opinion . But if you think you are truly ready you will have to face many heart aces, girls can be mean sometimes. If you keep your grades up and get a good job when you are rich all the girls who did not pay attention to you in middle and high school would suddenly make time for you through FB or twitter or what ever social network regretting not paying attention to you . Again don't worry please you are so young you will find the right one and she will love you for who you a
This is coming from a teen girl

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If your like that one fat computer nerd meme then you might want to improve your appearance. If your good looking then forget the last sentence. Being smart is not really a bad thing. Girls probably wouldn't want a guy that can't count to 10. You just have to meet new friends (that are girls) and be funny and awesome. Don't be creepy. Eventually girls will realize your a fun and cool guy.P.S be careful with the friend zone.

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That girl doesnt deserve you. Its sweet that you just want help. Be yourself someone will fall for you!

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First, in my opinion, there's no such thing as a nerd or geek. Second, I know kinda what that's like. Something similar happened to me once. Bad joke. I used to be like your describing. I would just wait some time. There was nothing I could do once people labeled me as a nerd, except wait for my "nerd" image to disappear. First, don't ask the girls out, they might just laugh. For that "nerd" thing, if I got teased, I always just said to the people, "Nope, you're wrong" or, "No, you lose" or, "Youre pathetic if you really have nothing better to do than laugh at me. Your just hiding the fact that YOUR a loser. Nice try, loser. Now get a life." It's easy to tell someone off without doing it the wrong way.

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@Kronie ..yess there is. But listen boy nerds are so cute. And they'll be the most successful. But don't even bother with that girl she doesnt even deserve you boy. she wants to play you like that ..ahh nahh i do not play that ...my advice dont mess with her ( she prolly a hoe anyways) your girl will come at the right time i promise. God always has a way.
ps. i know nerds are cute bc i love my nerd friends im friends with people from every crowd from emo to most popular and nerds totally cool

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for one nerds are like really hot and s3xy as hell and 2. wait for the right girl she'll come around and high school omg you'll love it more friends and gf's lol i really hope i helped lol

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first of all ................ get ur ass to the GYM and build some muscle,

try to quit games and mmorpg it will not be that easy,

get a hobby maybe

and have faith in your self,, you are not different from other cool guys.. believe in your self

and stop letting idiots call you nerd

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be yourself bro nerds are the new jocks

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Ask your parents to take you to see a psychologist or psychiatrist. You might have a social anxiety disorder that can be treated. Work on your self esteem. Girls like confident guys. Be proud to be a nerd. Nerds are ruling the earth. Act the part. Don't try to "force" a relationship just to have a girlfriend. She's out there and I'm pretty sure that if you just continue to socialize and be yourself she will find you.

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if u think Ur the only 13 year old 2 not have a girlfriend? they're r a lot of guys who have had Ur situation,not only u. don't get so worked up about it, u will be able 2 get a girl just Ur type, all u have 2 do is be patient. i'm also in the 8th grade, but i don't care about what other people have, i don't have a boyfriend, but i'm also waiting just like u, Ur not the only one, Ur never the only one. and who cares if Ur a nerd,that may mean Ur really smart, i like nerds sometimes,and when i say sometimes its because in my school they get weirder by the second around me. if u were in my school u would understand,trust me!;-)

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be a bad boy for a week or so then get a girl then go back to being your self becaus my boyfriend and I have been dateing for what 3 mounts and I am a popular girl and my boyfriend is a neard but I don't care because I love him because he is a nice guy and he is funny and he made the first move and yep but be your self
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InterestingNaomi

Speaking from a 13 year old girl's perspective, TALK to some girls. Really. It's that easy. Be nice and try to talk to the shy girls, they might share a common interest. Maybe try doing something that they like. You can also listen to what they have to stay about other people.

If you need more advice: mysteriousnaomii@gmail.com

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I love smart people ^.^

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