What do you do when you have a disabled husband that wants to control my life because he is insecure?
He blames me if he is in pain and can't get help. He doesn't want me to go anywhere. If I get really mad, he acts real sick to get me to feel sorry for him. He doesn't care about what I need and want. He is selfish. He is hateful to me and when I get upset he says that I am bitching. He then says that he didn't say anything wrong. He gets upset when he is not feeling well and I can't stay out of work. He said that everyone else's wives stays home if the husband is sick. I work and take care of him when he has Dr. appointments. I can't be everywhere at one time and I have to work. He doesn't think logically. Oh, by the way, he orders me to get him a drink and serve him. I believe he tries to keep a tight hold of everything and me and he has sucked the life out of me. I am normally a very happy person but I am so unhappy. The only problem is that he is on disability and can't afford to live on his own. He is not close to his family and his parents have passed away so he would be practically alone. What do I do? He really needs counseling but doesn't think he is doing anything wrong.