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How can I help my Girlfriend get away from her parents? Shes abused.. and she cuts..and she has tried over dosing to get "out" please help..

My dad is in the airforce, Chief Master Sergent. As her dad is too but he's a master Sergent. We live on a Air Force base with some navy rules. Im 16, Shes 15..How can I help her?

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hun just know reporting it to a naval officer is right but could make things even worser at home for her so i would tell a school counselor and have them talk to her and notify protective service and let protective service handle it because involving someones job can make things alot worse plus she still has to live well go back home to her parents and you need to simply go to the counselor why im saying this is because i went threw the same thing and im just being honest or you could try asking her if theres any relatives or friends that would be willing to let her stay with them would also be good or see if your parents would let her stay with you another thing is you should still and immediately talk to a adult like a counselor im telling you its way better to talk to a counselor at school or have her do it they will report and get the help she needs for dealing with abuse you could also try saying money for the near future when u guys both have a job to move in with each other but thats in the future for now tell a counselor or your parents and explain to them your concerns and everything thats going on with her and simply when shes crying see if you can go over and see her or call her and talk things threw and be there thats a way you can help and complimenting her so she doesnt cut herself and tell her not to overdose cause you need her here and you care and wanna get threw this with her or try taking her out to the movies to get her out of the house or out more would also help too

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I would take her out but she's grounded and not even allowed to leave her room, and as I said to another 'Answer' she did try to tell a coun person but it ended up worse as you said telling someone.
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Also I just finished my conversation with my parents on the subject. I will need to get lots of proof in order to help her.
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She..Said I was her best boy friend... And I want... to be the one that she remembers for the rest of her life.. Thank you everyone for supporting me.
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your welcome but if the counselor makes it worse either way hun shes gonna half to go threw worse in order for things to get better it sucks but i went threw the same thing i thought i could handle it and honestly i did but i think you can help her threw this i didnt have help i had to go threw this by myself and i feel knowing she has you and you being there for her will help alot
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Try having her to record her parents yelling at her threw her cell phone or a tape recorder as proof and have her take pictures of her bruises and have her explain the story to you so you can explain it to your parents
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also if she cant leave her own room tell her to save money up for a phone of her own cause if they bought her a phone they will probably take it away so its best she has another phone as a back up plan and even if she has a computer skype her witch is a video chat so you can talk to her and see her and another thing its also good to have a friend nearby she can run to and talk to and stay the night with and set her clock to come back home before her parents get up
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It would help if she had friends that would be willing to let her stay the night and that are nearby or wouldnt mind picking her up when her parents are sleep and she can walk down the street and stay at a friends house but let her friends parents know the situation a head of time and i think there are abuse hotlines she can talk to someone for help on anything
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You can inform the security department that is based in the air force about the abusive parents your girlfriend have. They can be able to take legal action against them and ensure her security. You can also talk to your parents to go talk to her parents and find a solution.

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Assuming you go to school together. Talk to a counselor. They will help her and if they find out about her abusive parents. There could be punishments for them.

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She's tried before, and they acted like perfect loving parents.
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Report the abuse to a naval officer. Her father will get called in to explain his actions and if what you say is true, he will be in big trouble with the Navy.

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Please talk to a school counselor immediately. The authorities will take it from there.

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Your girlfriend is troubled and disturbed and unless you have witnessed this "abuse" be very careful. The perception of abuse to one may not be perceived the same in a family court. Speak with your parents and seek their guidance.

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I've seen her bruises.
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Unless you have witnessed the abuse the only thing you can do is encourage her to report it.
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tell a naval officer, he will have to explain himself while the evidence is still present, then he will be in huge trouble. Or talk to a guidance counselor at school somewhere.

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Call the local cps.

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