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What do I do with my life?*** And how? If I have no hobbies and don't like anything? And nothing makes me happy?

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Live it.

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what ever you want! just go for it!

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Live it well!

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Well said.
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Thankyou
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dream like you'll live forever, live as if you'll die tomorrow. :)

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I dont know, im trying to figure it out too..

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Do what you do best! What are your hobbies?

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What do you like the most in your life? professionally speaking... think of ways to generate money from that passion. Work hard, extremely hard.... Success is Imminent. Then sit on your couch and help others by answering on Ask.com like me.. haha lol

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Have fun but don't make any bad decisions. Sorry if that sounded corny.

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Write a bucket list. Then do everything on the list. :D

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Your on my bucket list, just saying! Lol
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Experience things that make you happy as most as you can. I think that can be many things and only you know what that is and what it will take to make it happen. Good luck.

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Join the Army,make a difference.

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Make the best choices you can. And find something you enjoy doing. If you can find a job you enjoy, then you ever have to work for a living. Instead you get paid to play.

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Being happy is a choice.

If you are attracted to something, it will be attracted to you.

That means .. if you choose to be sad or unhappy ..you will be.

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No one's unhappy, just alienated to the point where a person doesn't know how to think or feel or be around other people.
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I can identify .. sometimes, I get that too. I always blamed it on being hormonal. LOL

In all seriousness .. when I was younger .. in my teens .. I felt VERY much like that. I never felt I fit in as much with my peers at school, mostly because I just wasn't a 'follower' .. Sure, I had friends, and as much fun as the rest..but, I was sooo shy and rather reserved as a teen. As I grew older, and of course fell in love, got married and had a family of my own ..that's when my self confidence really took hold. Mostly because, I let myself be 'happy'. We endured some really tough times in our younger years .. been through a lot .. But .. I never lost my faith in God .. My ability to appreciate and care for my family .. and I found that life had more to offer than I EVER anticipated.

Now that my kids are grown up .. and I am enjoying the life of being a grandmother .. I find imense satisfaction in knowing I found my niche. Besides working full time .. am still a full time mother, wife and grandparent .. I also find an enormous satisfaction in helping others .. both human and animal. I am very involved with animal welfare. That is what makes me 'tick'.

You have to find what makes YOU 'tick'. What makes you feel alive and a healthy and positive contribution to your community.
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Anyways...when you've had a life as unnecessarily bad as mine, where you couldn't even trust or depend on your parents to act decently towards you let alone give you BASIC CARE (And I know I'm not the only one which should be indicative of how dire our times are) when you had to live in 3rd world conditions even though you live in the 1st world...I've been wronged so many times by people and judged and seen others suffer the same injustices for so long... There's just no accountability or decency in our world...If you have even a little bit of an idea of what I'm talking about then you'll realize how a person can become so broken down and disenfranchised to the point where I could just lay here and die because I JUST DON'T CARE ANYMORE...
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It sounds like you have got some rotten parents there if I am reading you you correctly. I am so so sorry. I have one daughter and she is the reason I live! You must love and care for yourself in SPITE of your upbringing. Please listen to me, life has many great things in store for you if you will just let them happen. Leave the past in the past where it belongs and make a beautiful life for yourself. You want it or you wouldn't be talking about it. God wants you to have it also. Many blessings on you.
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I've been alive for 22 years now and nothing good's happened yet...Of course I want it, who doesn't...No one seems to understand that I don't know HOW to get this so called "beautiful life" God? Where was God when I needed him most? I don't know how many times I had to be super quiet when I was a kid or I would wake up my dad the meth monster and get accosted, even though it would be in the middle of the day he was always taking his drug naps... I don't know how many times I've been put into adult situations far too early that NO CHILD should have to be subjected to...Abuse, Neglect, Molestation, but no God...
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That's where your wrong, desperate .. you weren't alone. God is not a knight in shining armour to come an pluck you out of desepration .. He doesn't work like that..for any of us.

I admit, although I didn't have the greatest childhood, I grew up in the days where 'children were seen, and not heard' .. yet it seems to pale in comparison to living with abuse, like you have described.

I can understand your desperation, and even your tendancy to withdraw..but, you are 22 years old now. You are not a child being subject to THAT environment any more. It's now up to you to make the choices in your life. YOU are in the drivers seat .. no one else .. but YOU.

I know this may sound corney and distant but .. only YOU can change your current reality. Don't let your past define who YOU are. Granted, you haven't had an upbringing with two supportive and nurturing parents. Granted you haven't had role models to follow .. but .. I have NO doubt in my mind that you are an intelligent human being. Intelligent enough to know right from wrong, good from bad.

It's what you do from NOW on that counts. You can make a choice .. You can choose to stop being a victim, and start taking control of your own life. I don't know you, but I can only empathise, and advise you to get help .. talk to someone...(even your doctor) who can point you in the right direction, and perhaps help you hone your skills to help you get past such a traumatic childhood. This may also be a good time to ask God for help .. Help .. not miracles. Having faith in God provides you strength to endure .. and gives you hope. Without hope, you have no chance of changing ANYTHING.

No question about it, it won't be easy to overcome your past .. but, what's the alternative? You have a life in front of you. look FORWARD ..not BACK . It's time to make a choice to either live it .. or let it continue to torment you.

You will find your way .. the only person holding you back .. is you.

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Let's just put aside my sordid past for just a second. Because after all, that's not the whole picture. First of all, there is no God, Period. And If you think there is, then let me ask, Which is the right one? Where is He/She/It? Did you know there are over 85,000 registered religions in the world? In other words, there are 85,000 deceptive, cult institutions operating under the guise of righteousness, and salvation, When what's really happening is people are being taken advantage of and duped with age old propaganda, to the point where they can't even make basic rational decisions. I wouldn't want any of these people voting in my country...who knows what insanity might ensue... These outright mythologies are allowing people to exploit others for their benefit... As if being brainwashed by religion wasn't bad enough, instead of people living human lives, we live fake artificial lives how the Government tells you, another system that fools people into supporting the very things that are destroying them. How can 1% of the world own the majority of the wealth, therefore effectively owning the world? Do you know what the Fed is? The Federal Reserve? And how it was set up not once, or twice, but is now in the third installation? Or how 97% of all money are digital debt loans and not actual physical currency? Banking has become one of, if not the biggest scams on Planet Earth and all these people are getting loans and think credit is good and America and its dream are still perfect, well they aren't anymore...or were they ever? These people are criminals in the highest regard, but is there any justice? Only if you can afford it...The peasants have fed and taken care of the nobility since time immemorial, always have and probably always will...I used to consider myself an anarchist towards government. But here in America we have all these laws and the capacity to live and govern properly, if people weren't so corrupt, greedy, and hedonistic then people wouldn't be so fed up with this absolute nonsense.
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So I'm trying to tell you, how people like me, with all the potential and talent in the world have just been leeched of all desire. How people like me (or everyone really, we're all in this together) can't in good conscience simply live and enjoy life because these catastrophes are scourging our planet, our people... And I can't stop thinking about it... There is absolutely no reason why we cannot as a civilization all get along and live in harmony I don't care what anyone tells you. If we just get rid of what divides us...But I know that's quite a tall order for a species as rudimentary as humans to do anytime soon or ever, so my hopes aren't exactly enthusiastic. It's like Jay Leno said: "You can't introduce a technology before its time" I don't want fame or riches, no big house, no garage full of cars, no 200,000 dollar yacht. I just want to live before I die...But they're robbing us, killing us, poisoning, controlling, they are actually trying to dumb down our kids, and if you don't believe any of this than watch these links if you can stomach it. It pains me to think that it could possibly get any worse, that there could be more than this, yet I know it has to be true. Imagine if this is what we do know, then what about what we don't?
Slow Kill Holocaust
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dtCpMilUtdI
The Story of Your Enslavement
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xbp6umQT58A
Schools are prisons
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_8RulhBVzbk
The Deliberate Dumbing Down of America
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BHT3q2zzqUc
Rothschild Family
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onWb_ripZ3c
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DYCCB0Q7xUw
Banks
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JZGiwNJw8E8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G9IH-XKQpOI
The Truth About Your Birth Certificate...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cfnJ1rOFK7o
MEET THE ROCKEFELLERS
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_mDNlftoOeU
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Can't say I totally disagree .. We could compare notes quite civily about what is wrong with our society, the present and the past .. but .. I also am able to see the blessings and the goodness there is all around us. I've seen people, out of the goodness of their hearts reach out for no other reason but to help and uplift. I, myself, have felt how good it feels to do that. I've seen the beauty the globe has to offer. Does that make me less of a realist? I don't think so.

There are many aspects of the world 'out there'. We live in a bad, indignant, immoral, even ambigigous and complacent world for the most part...however, there still exists goodness, elation and hope. I, personally, live in a very small aspect of thaworld .. MY world, which encapsulates me, for the most part, pales incomparison.

I surround myself with family of course, and the people that can provide me with a positive influence. That's how I control MY reality.

That's not to say, I don't pay attention to cruelties of the world around me. I do. I watch the news, and it pains me to see what is happening all around this globe. Unspeakable cruelties and down right evil.

But .. I don't let THAT define MY world. I also choose to see the good in the world...and hopefully continue the struggle to keep MY world in balance..If I couldn't .. It would consume and destroy me.

For all the bad .. there is good. Ying and Yang .. You just have to be willing to see it. I have a feeling you refuse to..It's not because it doesn't exist, it's because you choose to do so.

As for God .. It doesn't matter what the world thinks what or who God is .. it only matters to me. I choose to believe .. I feel the teaching in the bible have some sustinence when it comes to principles of living in such a reched society. Monogmany, family, honesty and integrity, the power of positive thinking .. THOSE are the motos I choose to live by .. because quite simply .. it works. Am I fooling myself.. perhaps .. but like it said .. It works at least for me.
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We all need to find a method to help navigate through all the crap we are surrounded by. There are benefits and rewards .. as well as sacrifices to be made. It still comes down to choice. The choices you make, will determine the path you take.
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Did you watch any of these at all? Even 1? Because if you did, you'd no longer be fooling yourself.
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I could provide you with my own about global population control conspiracies...powered by pharmaceutical companies .. Our so called food chains, and numerous political top secret conspiracies .. It is enough to keep you awake at night.

I am not as much an idiot as you think I am .. I am fully aware of the crap that is going on in the world we live in .. But, I choose to live the way I do .. Because I don't want to live in constant fear... And and I most certainly don't want to watch it. Suck the life out of the ones I love.

As a matter of fact, there isn't day that goes by, that I am not thankful for the life and the quality of life I DO have. I am fortunate enough to have people around me that are a positive influence and we make the best out of what we have to work with. Sure, it's not always 'a day at the beach' .. But there are more opportunities to smile believe it or not ... It would astonish you.

I am not wealthy, not interns of worldly riches .. But, I have a life filled with very loving and supportive people .. Who I choose to be in it. Health, love as well as hope and appreciation are very important components in MY life.

You call that .. "fooling myself" ... I call it "putting life back into living". I seem to be doing just fine.



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and .. I don't understand why you " can't in good conscience simply live and enjoy life because these catastrophes are scourging our planet, our people... " .. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

So instead of pulling your big girl panties up .. stepping up to help make a difference in the world .. you choose .. EMPHASIS ON 'CHOOSE' ... to wallow in such despair. Give me a break.

If you are not part of the solution .. YOU are part of the problem.

I empathise with your upbringing .. yes, that was a horrible experience. Granted. But THAT does define who YOU are .. unless you let it. You want to wallow in self pitty and despair .. Go ahead.. fill your boots.

I will continue to do what I can for others. I give to charities, I volunteer, I smile at people passing me on the street, I say thankyou to people who take the time to politely hold a door open for me, I work and pay my dues (I refuse to live off "the system"), I spend time with my family, I make the effort to keep in touch with my friends, If I see someone slip and fall, I help them up and show concern ... I know what I am doing to make MY world a better place ..

What are YOU doing?
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That should have said .. "That DOESN'T define you, unless you let it"
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HA HA HAAAA, I love it! No I'm not kidding you, I'm just not phony. It's not like I'm out partying all the time and living a life of excess. Quite the opposite really. I laugh when people talk about giving to charities, as if it's hard to give away money and then "oh look at me! I helped!" Most of these problems if not all are probably man made anyway. If these people weren't screwing us over and causing all this madness we wouldn't NEED charities, we wouldn't NEED to volunteer. We wouldn't NEED people trying to cure AIDS (manmade) and autism (manmade) and all of these cancers (obviously caused by human intervention often, sometimes willfully) because they wouldn't exist in the first place. What am I doing? Actually, I have one or two good ideas as of recently. Do you REALLY care? Do I think you're an idiot? No. Do I think you're too trusting, naive, and maybe even a little gullible? Possibly, I'm only going by what I read. But you sound very much like the majority of people in this cesspool where I was born, raised, and live in called the American South. Am I trying to be insulting? No. Am I trying my best to be honest with myself and the world? Yes. Hell, you have a computer, all this great information is at your fingers and some people around here are still living in the 50's or even farther back... Which in itself isn't a bad thing. It's just mind boggling that we live in an age with such ability and technology and people still blindly reject it FOR NO REASON AT ALL... Don't you think if I knew what choices to make I would have done so long ago? I posted this question in hope that someone could help me with what I could specifically do with this thing called "Life" I guess that was too much to ask. I'm sorry.
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Somehow, I get the impression that you couldn't see 'help' if it bit you in the butt. My guess you already have an agenda .. and that is to stay where you are, in the very cesspool of despair you are complaining about. That is your choice .. fill yer boots. If you are expecting this so called "help' to manifest itself as a magic wand that could magically be waved and all the bad in the world would disipate and we would be restored to harmony and serenity .. hate to break it to ya, but .. mine's busted.

Do I wish we could live in a world of peace and harmony .. ABSOFREEK'N LOOTLY! Who doesn't.

But, I am also a realist. I don't define myself by the reality of this cesspool you so elloquenty put it. I like you, don't like the atrocities of this entire globe. BUT .. I think the difference is .. I am trying to make the best of what I can't control, by doing proactive things to enhance what I CAN control.

The world isn't the way it is because of ANYTHING I have done. The world has been this way because mankind is stupid, generally speaking. As a whole .. we are a stupid, greedy, self indulgent, egotistical, greedy, ridiculous .. (did I mention) stupid .. race. You know the expression of war .. Divide and conquer .. Well, WE .. as a human race have done exactly that..We have divided ourselves into sects of religion, of race, of control over natural resources, of countries .. just to name a few. We are our own worst enemies and are doomed to fail .. Thus the inevitable 'end of days', 'armegeddon', 'global warfare' whether it happen by a natural disaster or by our own hand. I have no doubt in my mind, it will be the latter. In our lifetimes, we have already witnessed what WE have done to this globe and what we CAN do to it.

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However .. Until 'the end' arrives .. I will make every effort to make MY world a better place for me, my family and the people I care about. I give to charity because it makes ME feel good to give as a show of support. There are people in this world that suffer unspeakable despair. My charitable efforts are not only designated to people .. but to animals. I am fully aware that what I give will not even remotely be minimized by MY feeble attempts. There has always been, and will always be a unsurmountable need for basic life sustaining food, medical supplies..not to mention comfort. That's why it takes so many, to send even a little that results in actual improvement. THAT's why there ARE charities. To make a difference.

My intention is not to be insulting, either. My intention is to shed light on what even YOU can do to rise about this cesspool, and make a difference for not only YOU but the people you care about.

We both live on the same planet, we both see the world from different perspectives as we come from very different environments (geographical and emotional) yet I truly believe attitude is the difference between me and you.

Our world is comprised of both good and bad .. I acknowledge both .. Do you?
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Why would that be "my agenda"? I'm not asking for a magic wand for the world, I was asking with what I could do to survive day to day. You've shed light on nothing and continue to do so. If you're not going to give me any real helpful advice then stop talking, you're confusing attitude with mentality. Do I acknowledge both? What a silly question. What good is it for me to be in the driver's seat if I don't know how to drive, or where to go?
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Ok .. you win. I give up.

I have given you a little insight into things you CAN do to that may help you get your motor running. Things like making a conscious effort to change your state of mind by changing the influences in your life. Surround yourself with positve influences like the people you choose to spend time with, by volunteer work that will provide you with some sense of accomplishment and emotional satisfaction. By giving to others .. so you in return can receive so much more.

The things I did not mention would be make better choices in terms of diet, exercise and getting enough recouperative sleep .. not to mention maybe even a check up with your doctor. Your obvious unwillingness to respond to any motivation may be a sign of depression. THAT can be remedied. BUT.. Like the rest of my list of suggestions .. The fact remains only YOU can make that first step. No one is going to do it FOR you.

I wish you well .. and believe it or not .. I have enjoyed this little dance.
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You enjoy my plight? that's not very christian of you. What if I can't afford a doctor? what do I do then?
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Don't be putting words in my mouth .. I didn't say THAT .. I most certainly didn't even suggest that I "enjoyed your plight". Good Grief, already.

I said I "enjoyed this dance" .. given our conversation and banter on this thread .. which to ANY ONE else on the planet would be contrued as a verbal engagement...not enjoyment of your 'plight'.

If you intended to simply end this conversation by pissing me off .. Mission accomplished. Goodie for you.

If you can't afford a doctor .. then I don't know what what is available for you or where you live .. If you are social assistance, only THEY can give you some advise on where to seek help.

Good luck with that.
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I'm just saying, there was nothing positive or to enjoy about what's been said, yet you got something out of it somehow, apparently. What was so enjoyable about it anyway? Does my misfortune bring you pleasure? That's pretty sadistic.
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You just don't get it, do you? You really really just don't get it. Now, that is just sad.

Your choice, I guess.
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be contented with your life and make the most out of it...along the way you might found the things that will make you happy...

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Happieness comes from with in you can not look for it with out .You will be disappointed

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