1 year ago
Last edited at 9:27PM on 3/22/2013
One time about 10 years into my marriage I was overwhelmed . Three children with the first child being from a cruel ex husband and me teaching elementary special needs full-time, laundry, meals, girl scouts, cub scouts, baseball games, just to name a FEW things, but just the same all a part of everyone's life...and I just began to cry. I was trying to explain to my husband all of it and I just gave up and sat on the couch and cried and he went on to bed. A few minutes later, he had come back and I felt him stroke my long hair very gently without saying a word. He had come back and didn't need to say a word. He just needed to take that extra bit of time. It was then I knew he understood and we were in this together. It's the special little things that end up being the big determining things. Like Blades said in his answer is so true.
Respect each other. Be yourselves; don't put on fake personalities to impress each other because you can't fake it for all your life. When you can't agree, be willing to compromise. When you hit a rough spot, hang on and get over it.
Always have "your time". Me and my bf have our own hobbies we do separately. I have horses and he has cars. That way you aren't always in each others space and can enjoy relaxing by yourself some. Also understand the true meaning of love; it's a daily choice to love someone through their mistakes and bad days
Learn to be selfless; give freely without expecting anything in return; remember that sex means different between men and women; Understand that sex out of marriage can complicate a relationship, not make it stronger.
Let go of high expectations if possible... and look upon your partner with much compassion when they struggle with the ups and downs of life. Always keep your promises. Give big hugs like you mean it. Keep adding to, and filling up, each others "love bank" so when you mess up every now and then you don't overdraw an account :-) Remember to keep grounded.... grow in your relationship w higher power.
Mutual Respect (this is the most important thing), Honesty, Conversations, understand the fact that no relationship is a 50/50 equal deal, it is 100% from both people involved, 100% of the time, it is not based in equality, and it would be foolish to believe that it is.
Be yourself. Always be honest and encourage your significant other to be as well. Trust them until they have done something bad enough to not trust them. And talk to each other. Communicating is huge. Respect your significant other and their feelings. It takes both partners to work hard to make a relationship work.