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My gf wants to go to las Vegas with her ex. She claims they are just "friends" and will sleep in seperate rooms after the clubs.

She told me i have nothing to worry about and to text her after midnight if i get worried. Should i.be suspicious?

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I personally wouldn't be OK if my hubby went on a trip with an ex of his or any other woman for that matter. I would be a major problem for me and I'm not a jealous person.

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I agree .. I feel exactly the same way. This is just overstepping a few of the unspoken boundaries we have.
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That's a really sketchy thing to be doing with your ex...

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Duh! If you believe that I have a bridge to sell you in Brooklyn.

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how about an ocean front property in Arizona!
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I feel so bad for him!
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I would be suspicious.

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If you love her, and she's given you no reason to doubt her, and if you've been together for quite awhile, then I would ask her to check in a bit more regularly, like 2 times a day, and just see what happens..trust is HUGE in a relationship if it's going to last, but only if they haven't given you a reason NOT to trust them!!!

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How many relationships have you been in? This situation has nothing to do with trust really. Obviously the x still has feelings or he'd find someone else to go with. The fact she's even putting him thru this is disrespectful to say the least. It's extremely inappropriate.
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I agree! She is up to something! Totally disrespectful of the person whom she supposively loves feelings! She is probably one of those females that believe men don't have feelings! She dont deserve him!
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Trust is vital if a girl can't go to a store without the guy questioning her that is disrespect . The girl could have been friends with this guy and catching up she might come back and nothing happened.
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Its all wrong for her to be going to vegas with and ex. Ley alone vegas is aka sin city. Yes, I agree her ex still has feelings for her and she is falling for exes trap. I really dont think she realizes how bad this looks because in her eyes it could be a free trip for her whilst her ex is trying to get her back by destroying her recent relationship with this man.
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You betcha !!
Don't fall for that one, or let her go & really let her go.

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I just realized your not going with her. no either she working with him on a business trip or she is trying to find an excuse to cheat. time to have a conversation with her.

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The fact she's putting him in this position says all I need to know about this relationship!
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Does your gf like her ex still

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I don,t know what you are asking.
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I wouldnt trust that

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Of course not. Hey, would you like to own your own bridge? I've got a bridge in NY for sale going real cheap!
Honestly it's not even a question of trust here. It's about respect. And it sounds like she has none for you or your feelings. This is not a casual thing one does with their ex!

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Even if you trust her fully this is skeptical. Especially if telling you that you have nothing to worry about. I don't see how or find it appropriate for someone in a relationship to go to Vegas with an ex. There is no reason. If you trust her to leave have her check in a couple or few times a day. I would also call her a few times when she doesn't expect you to.

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The fact she's putting him in this position says all I need to know about this relationship!
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Agreed ^
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she has no respect for him!
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Exactly. She is trying to play him for a fool. Hopefully he will be able to see through this crap. How can somebody do this to their bf or gf? This whole situation is wrong. I would tell her "yea, go to Vegas because we are done!"
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Good answer! she don't deserve him!
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Exactly. He needs to let her go and forget her.
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Maybe her ex is trying to get her back. He could have manipulated her too as well. Some girls can be so stupidishly rude
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There is no good reason or excuse for anyone's girlfriend going to Las Vegas with their Ex whatever! I would start looking for a new girlfriend.

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As much as I support full trust and disclosure in a relationship .. I just find it odd...that she would test YOUR trust like this...not too mention her own. ( Add clubbing, alcohol and being alone in big city can be trouble) ...period. Granted, you can not and should not dictate her choices .. but this one, just sounds too risky to take the chance.

As much as I appreciate being trusted .. I dont think I would EVER ask my husband to endure the obvious so I could go and have a good time with an EX, and expect him to just be fine with it, and trust me .. I just wouldn't do that to him. That is just far too inappropriate for my taste. But that's just me.

What I find suspicious is the risk she is willing to take with your relationship. Personally, something that precious to me, just wouldn't be worth the risk. There are unspoken boundaries in every relationship .. THIS is overstepping a couple of them.

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I totally agree. I see no good reason for anyone to even consider this. Some people's reasoning do surprise me to this day
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I feel compelled to ask .. Is the same person you were referring to in a previous post that tried to convince you that she will stop cheating if you give her an engagement ring?

Even YOU cant be THAT naive.
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Umm, peter35 is not the one who asked the question
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I realize that .. MY post was directed to our OP (the same as my original post).
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She went to Vegas and they blew all their money and are asking "Flash" to wire them money!!
The question, more of a statement, were removed!
Too funny, had to share that!
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Hey .. I seen that post too, and then it was gone! This question was asked .. then I saw the post that she was already in Vegas and was already out of money and after him for money cause she blew all hers.

Yea, It IS kinda funny .. but mostly very sad that someone could be THAT naieve. I hope our OP doesn't fall for it.

DON'T DO IT FAVOURFLASH! DON'T DOOOO ITTTT!
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Hm.... Something's fishy!!!

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Why would this even be a question? Good Morning Missy, hos that cold treating you?
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Hows*
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Hola. A little better.
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Were you out hasin the dogttoday?
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Chasing?? Yup
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Were you out chasing the dog today?* dang my spelling stinks today lol
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Ya huh.
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Lol it wasnt me, it was the letter gremlins stilling my letters again! O.o
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I'm gonna go do some homework and take a nap... :o
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I see you put the cake up, but not the donuts! I like when you add the commentary and the little funny pics and stuff, make the blog informative and entertaining.
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Awe, ok bye Missy!
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Three words...L O L...

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Text her after midnight, yeah after she's had a half a cup of throat yogurt...)
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So tasty! (yucky yucks...)
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I just threw up...
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Best Answer Yet !!!
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Thanks Fred
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What's up Miss Dane? I see you just commented...
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It's completely inappropriate. There are boundaries with relationships that are unspoken and just part of the rules. Trust is a big thing-it will be tested so many other ways. This one is just plain impolite.

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Wow! She really is ballsy! How would she feel if the tables were turned and you were going to Vegas with your ex and she was ALLOWED to call after midnight IF she got worried!?!?!? She has no respect for you!

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that,s uncalled for.
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I can't come up with any good reason why she'd go to Vegas with her ex.

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It depends what your girlfriend is like. Be honest do you trust her? Does she look like a girl that would cheat on you? Would she lie to you about this?

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heck yeah i would be suspicious!! heck no! if my gf ever told me that i would say its over I bet you if you told her you were going to hang out with your ex's there would be all kinds of screaming and fighting every were, leave that liar bro and find yourself a faithful women

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I think you need a new girl because she is going to do something with that guy if you know for sure she cheats cheat on her just grab the hottest girl and kiss her in front of her that will teach her not to go out with an ex

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youre joking right?

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what,s the point?
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Be man enough!!!

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How's is this even a serious question? The answer should be no, if she argues fuses and fights you over I leave her and get a better girlfriend.

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Seems suspicious. Even if you trust her things could happen

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I wouldn't do that to my woman and I'd expect she wouldn't do that to me. I wouldn't even consider it. I don't see anything good coming from that

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Don't be a fool!

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Why don't you accompany her. No question of suspicion or taking the risk of loosing her.

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Thats sketchy and weird and you should stop date someone who deserves you cause thats really awkward you rather stay in a hotel room even though its seperate bedrooms and shes spending a trip with her ex let me guess his girlfriend isnt there or he doesnt have one you shouldnt put yourself threw this even having to think and worry about someone who should love you enough just to do the right thing maybe you should surprise them both and go up there to see whats really going on up there cause thats ridiculous

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Why are you still with her? Just how hard do you have to be kicked in the balls before you get a clue?

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Ouch...8)
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well......................it's just the truth.
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Ha ha, love your comment!
Like Ron White says;
" you can't fix stupid "
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THAT'S GOOD!!! Like Judge Judy says, "Beauty fades, stupid lasts forever."
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WOW!
Are you suspicious?
Or just ignorant!
Separate rooms my a$$
Tell to go and have a good time and not to bother come back, or wait like a fool to see if she does!

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Hilarious update,
she went to Vegas, blocked him on Facebook, they blew all the money and are asking "flash" for more money
Be Wise Flash, don't send a dime!
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that,s inaproprate.
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You are a tougher person than me if you put up with that stuff. I couldnt do it. Good Luck

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This is a touchy situation. You have every right to be uncomfortable with this situation. I mean I would be too and very suspicious. Why not go with them? If she respected your relationship she wouldn't do such a thing to you. I hate to say it, but its wrong on so many levels. Like what if they got drunk and one thing led to another. I wouldnt trust this idea at all. Like the saying goes, "What happens in vegas stays in vegas!" So if she does decide to go break up with her. She has no respect for you. And for the love of all things please do not get back with her when she comes back. You will miss her And forgive her but still she disrespected you and the relationship. And its pretty obvious she still has feelings for him.

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Yes you should be suspicious , can you go too! I would tell her that you would prefer that she not go . This seems to be quite suspicious to me

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Tell her, "It sounds fun! When do WE leave?"

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if she is telling you to text after midnight than you have every right to be worried and things... it would personally piss me off if my fiance asked to go and hangout with his ex with me not being around.... there are a lot of people out there that i personally dont trust and exs are on the top of the list... :)

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lol that last line... AGREE!!^
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So, what's the question here? Why aren't you going and why is the ex in the picture?

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it depends on how much you trust not just her but him as well

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no i dont think so she should have no reason to go anywhere with her ex there is a reason why he is her ex i wouldnt go for that or tell her to take you along

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i will say hell naw wat u think dis iz

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There should be no reason she is traveling with her EX when she has you now.. suggest that you go along too... see what she says.

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excily my thoughts..
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She'll get so drunk she won't even remember that she shouldn't sleep with her ex.

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i personal would say NO because you know the saying what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas

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She shouldnt even ask if this is okay? what!? I wouldnt be okay with it being someone of the opsit sexys, and exspashliy not with their ex., I would dump that person for even asking me such a dumb question!?!?!? She problie not over the ex's im sorry to tell you.. ''you already know this is not right.. why are you asking if its okay for her to go? you know the answer is NO!! ,Tell her no, and is she goes anyways then deflinal dump her!! cus if she ask you for a yes or no and does the opssit then she never really care for you she just want cake and eat it too..

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i wouldnt be ok with it at all. why would she even want to go with him in the first place???

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but the true question is, do you trust her?
if you trust her, then you should not have an issue with it. i hang out with my ex all the time, i spend the night over his house, and we go on road trips together all the time. my boyfriend has no issue with it, because he has complete trust in me and i have given him no reason to do otherwise. they could be really good friends as i and my ex are. she might be telling the truth. and the main thing about this trip that might make you want to consider it, if you give her the chance and she does cheat, what makes you think that she's not already cheating with him anyways? you have to get to the bottom of this and figure out if you want her to go, if you want to test your relationship, and if you actually trust her.

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It's not about trust... it's principal. You sleeping over your exes is out of line.
Trust
Faithfulness
Loyalty
Commitment
Honor

All of these must be at full game to make a relationship work. He may be ok simply because he doesn't care if you do or not.
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inapproprate.
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Ya know, it all comes down to whether or not you trust her, and if there is any cheating history with you guys. And what about this guy? Is he respectable, will he put her in any kind of danger or predicament... Also if you don't feel comfortable with her going, tell her. Honesty is the best policy. But, if it's something she really wants and you are on the edge bout letting her go, then think back to that trust and how strong it is. If she says they're just friends, then let her go as friends.

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She shouldn't be with her ex. she shouldn't go anywhere with her ex and they really shouldn't even be friends I think something might be going on.

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duh! There are things called feet and people can sometimes use them to travel from 1 room to another.

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in love and relationships its abuote trust and some mor thing so i think you kan let her og to las vegas

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Wow...........you need to tell her no.....just.......no.......

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Best Answer: Show her this question and page. Then show her my answer.

I had girls like that before. None of them are faithful, nor loyal. Her situation is that she is still loyal to her ex. If you two were serious, she would be smart enough not to do this and to bring you instead or not go at all.

She doesn't know how to act. She is not ready for anything serious. Your jealousy is warranted friend but not needed. I feel your pain too. From my personal experience, she isn't worth your time. All the excuses and guarantees won't make this right.

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HELL NO. The Ex is called an EX for a reason

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I wouldnt trust her at all

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that's a big NO!! NO!!... You can trust your GF but not the EX, there is not such a thing like being friends after break up...where I came from we used to say: Where there was fire, ashes remain... and it means that if there was a previous attraction it can still be there, with the help of a couple of drinks, anything can happen...

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theyre defiantly banging , JERRY! JERRY!

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if she really chated on you,do u think she still would tell you she would going out with her ex?well if you want to be happy just trust her cuz you guys in a realitonship

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I trust my fiance more than any other person on the planet and I still wouldn't be OK with it. Even knowing he would never cheat. It's just inappropriate. Now if you all were going together as a group. That is acceptable.

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yes. they are going to a club where these is booze. even if they don't mean for anything to happen you never know. plus HE'S HER EX!!!

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Yes its Las Vegas

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it,s unxceptable.

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If you love her then you will trust her but if you find out she cheated... then it's your decision
should i leave her or i love her too much to let her go and i'll give her a second chance.

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