How do I/can I build up the courage to talk to my mom about this? (Details.)
ok, so for a long time now, I've been needing to talk to my mom about issues I've been having with my dad. My mom is usually pretty good about helping me with my issues, but sometimes, she'll act exasperated and extreme, and give harsh looks and ridicule me. I usually avoid discussing conflicts with my mom, because she can get very intense, I never know which side I'm going to get with her. I certainly cannot tell her if I'm having issues with her; my mom can't take constructive criticism of any kind, or ever accept any idea that she might be wrong, but if I have an issue with some else, it's usually ok to discuss, however, lately, it's been sketchy. I'm the type of person that tends to shy away from conflict, and my mom hasn't been very graceful about things lately, but this isn't something I can just not talk about, I need a resolution. This is something I feel shouldn't be avoided, because I can't bear this issue alone and my mom is my only resource right now. I also need to discuss moving out: that's been something I've been wanting to do for a long time, but I've put off asking. I have the finical means to move out, just not the help and assistance getting there, and even if I did, it's not something I can just get up and do without discussing first. But it's not an iffy "maybe sometime." I want to move out ASAP, like, my next semester break. It was "yea, that's a possibility" last time I asked, but I don't want a possibly: I need to do this as soon as I can. I can't go on living in the same roof as my dad, it's too much, and I need to learn to be more independent. Anyway, help? How can I build up courage to talk to her? I want to, I NEED to, but I always loose my nerve, anticipating what her reaction might be, and how I should say it. thanks in advance. No simple answers please. I've grown quite fearful and weary, and it's become difficult for me.