My sister had a stroke and was dying 6 months ago. There was no way to save her . The nurses and the doctors in the intensive care said something very powerful. They said they've seen people die alone in their ICU room and they'd seen people die with family and loved ones around them, and that there was a big difference in the patient and how they passed and most always had more peace than others because they had someone with them on their journey through the end of their life. They had a lot of experience with this. ( I had asked them what families did when their loved one was dying, do they stay? Should they leave and let them alone?) anyway, this is about my sister having a major stroke and dying 4 hours later, so I don't need any controversial comments. I am just telling you what we were told in the hospital. They could have just told us we could leave and let things just happen, but they took the time to explain what they had seen and the difference between going alone or going with loved ones around them. Again, I'm not religious so please no rude comments. I just think this is an important perspective and has an educational as well as philosophical aspect .
guys who have a wife tend to live longer. mainly because the wife makes him eat her vegetables and go to the doctor every once in a while and stuff like that. also, people who have pets tend to be more stress-free and live longer.
Being alone is not the same as being lonely. If you are content being alone, then be alone. As for dying alone, everyone dies alone; no one can go with you for that one. It's not that scarey, at least not to me, but it's something each person does on their own.
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Consider any aging couple. No matter how much they love each other, one will die first leaving the other alone. So, even for them, there's a 50/50 chance of dying alone.
Nobody says you have to have a partner, and you shouldn't put yourself into a relationship you don't want just because you're afraid you might one day be lonely. All of us, no matter how good our relationship, are faced with that possibility.
But a relationship, undertaken for the wrong reasons, can be torment. In hang gliding circles there's a saying that "it's better to be sitting on the hill wishing you were in the air, than to be in the air and wishing you were sitting on the hill". Relationships can be like that. Too often they can be turbulent.