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Is it ok for a 13 year old girl to date a 16 year old guy?

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Be careful, at that age boys are only looking for sex. If he really loves you, he will wait till you turn at least 17 or 18, and if he ever ask you for having sex, then just get away from him.

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He says he does and he'll go slow so I don't really see why it's 'bad'
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--because you are too young- you are a kid- that's why sex is "bad" at your age.
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honey, let me tell you something... Is not bad... but also is not convenient for you, maybe right now you don't get why everyone is saying a flat NO! But when you get our age (I'm 27) you will understand, and also I don't think that your bf is a bad guy, is just that he is 16! His hormones are working at 200%. He told you he wants to go slow, ok, but he wont say that in a different situation(being alone) neither you...
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XD that paragraph made me laugh haha nice paragraph
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imfunny: why??
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Ignore theses people. Best thing to do.
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don't think just do

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It depends on how each kid is. If they are both mature then yes. Because, studies show that girls are more mature then boys so they tend to date a boy 2 years older (this case you add an extra year.) Boys tend to date girls 2 years younger (another year as well.) But I do believe that the boys should be kept a close eye on because boys that age tend to have one thing on their mind.

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If the 16 yr old boy is mature he would not want a 13 yr old girl.
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Well what if the girls 14/15 :p
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15, maybe- 13 is way to young. That's like a 13 year old dating a 10 year old- it's just gross.
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8( not really if u think about it. Cause if u like someone u like someone. U can't stop it. I think that if u really like each other it shouldn't matter.
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Yes, but you're a kid. Just slow down and enjoy other things- grow up before getting into dating and feelings and all that other "junk".
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P.S. He's a 16 year old guy- he's (most likely) going to try and talk you into doing "adult things" (whether he says so or not, you shoudl know what the majority of adolescent boys think about almost 24/7).
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..I don't even know why I asked...
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You asked because deep down you knew something may be wrong and you wanted to be sure.
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It isn't gross. If you like someone you like them, as said above. You can't really hide love for someone if its true and if they want to be together they will be together. It's not like she is gold digging because let's be honest teenagers don't have that much money personally.
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No, it isn't okay.

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No. First off a 13 year old shouldn't be dating at all. Second a 16 yr old should only date someone 1 yr older, or 1 year younger. So it is a double NO!

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I think if u love someone it shouldn't matter the age
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You're a kid, you don't know what that kind of love is (with all due respect). I'm 17 and I'm no where close to knowing that kind of love.
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But how do u know. Mabe I am. Mabe other people are. U could be. U just have to find the right person.
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Believe me, I was your age once with a boyfriend- I've been there and done that and looking back you realize that you're a foolish kid who was merely infatuated. The media and society has changed our outlook on love and has "tricked" many of our youthful citizens into thinking they know and have experienced real love. Give it some time and you'll see.
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I don't care if ur 5 years old or 100 years old. If u love somebody u love somebody. Okay. It can happen.
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Yes, you can love someone, but not in the way that you're describing.

A five year old can love his mother but that's not the same love shared between an old couple.
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Ik but.. Ugg never mind
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At 13 you don't really know who you are yet. You can't love someone until you know who you are. Come back and talk to me when you are 18. I can guarantee you will be amazed at how naïve you are at 13. I am not saying in any way that you are a true adult who is done growing at 18 either.
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:'( just never mind. Since everyone has to be agents me about it..
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True wisdom there, thank you @gatorblu.
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@horanhugs

We aren't trying to attack you (sorry if it comes off that way) we're trying to help you.
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But it's not the same. the feelings I have for him and the feelings I have for a family member.
No one understands. Your all just agents me so forget it.
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The last thing I'm going to say to you is this (and I hope you heed these words):

I believe it's *against, not "agents".
I know it's not the same and it's you who does not understand (yet). It'll take some time and wisdom to realize this, I hope you can at least realize that and slow down a little bit- you're a kid, live life as carefree as you wish while you still can.
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We do understand. We are just wiser about it. We are not trying to bash you just trying to let you know that you have a lot more to learn. I look back at who I liked at 13, and now I wonder what I could have possibly could have seen in him. Sure he was cute, but that is where anything positive ends.
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Ik it's stupid auto correct.
And whatever just forget it!
:'(
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Well I'm sure I kno a lot more than u think I do. Anyway just forget it. If u all think its wrong then whatever.
I don't have anybody 4 me 4 anything.
No family no friends. What else am I suppost to do? Shoot myself? I mean seriously
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Calm down there @horanhugs, no need to get all anxious about this. You asked our opinion and we gave it to you in attempt to help you find a solution. You, obviously don't believe us (or have yet to believe us) so we'll leave you be. Just remember what we said and heed our words, that's all we ask.
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Well I understand but seriously I don't think it's THAT bad. So u dont need to keep going on about how 'terrible' it is.
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Just never mind
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I stopped that, like, 10 comments ago.
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Just whatever.
*shoots self*
Like anyone would care..
Don't comment on that
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Just because people don't agree with you doesn't mean they don't care. it is usually the opposite. Because they care they try to help you understand what is really going on.
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Ik but seriously. No supports me for anything in my life so I don't really c the reason for being alive
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I know they say those things bcuz they care and don't want me to get hurt but it feels like they don't
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Other than the boyfriend thing what are they not supporting you in?
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My family don't. They say they can't stand me.
People at school hate me and its not like I can just meet new people cuz my school Is VERY small there's only I think 210 kids in the whole thing pre-k to 12.
The only person that does is him.
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They don't support me in anything.
Literally.
I say I wanna b a singer (cause I do) and they just say "uh hu" or ignore me.
They only support my brother.
I was in chorus and they don't even bother to come see me during a concert.
I don't really have anybody
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Don't listen to them. They aren't you so they can't possibly know if your in love or not. You can be any age and know what love is. People think because your young you have know idea. But don't listen to any of there negative comments. If you believe your in love then you could be. I have been in love with one person for 11 years! I am 18 and I have been married to that person now for a year and with him for two. He is older then I.
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eh, depends on the kids in specific.

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You're 13, you're FAR too young to be dating no matter the age. It's good to date an older boy, due to the maturity gap, but right now at your age that's just wrong. Wait 'till you're (at least) 16 or 17, you don't need to rush into these things, you're still a kid.

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I don't like most of the answers here so... As a fellow girl with an older man. It is okay. Age is nothing but a number. And now a days girls are dating much younger then you. So if your happy don't listen to what others have to say. Don't even ask what they think. Because there answers will always stay in the back of your mind. I'll I say is be happy but be safe.

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Thanks. I feel like everyone's agents me about it
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Against gosh.. Haha
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People can be so judgmental. So it's nice to have people who understand. I always get people who don't understand anything and are to closed minded to see that what really matters is the two people. I have been unloved with one person for 11 years and we have been together now for 2 years and married for 1. I couldn't be happier and he is 17 years older then I.
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In all honesty, girls that age actually kids in general at that age shouldn't date. Its too soon, they're not mentally mature enough to deal with a relationship and boys that age are very hormonal and just want one thing. However I'm not saying all boys that age are like that. Most are though.

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No. Too old.

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Ya

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XD if ur happy stay happy but look out i know wut boys r like cause im one

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Uhmmm, I was put in the same predicament a few weeks ago, I'm 17 and the girl was 15, everyone disapproved so I dropped her. I was also curious about laws on dating, most boys that age are really looking for one thing like the majority^ said, but if anything be careful. You can get him into alot of trouble, for things such as statuary rape or I forgot what its called, but the main idea is like taking advantage of the youth, somewhat like he goes for the close minded. it just depends on your state google it. But its mostly a year or two younger is okay, but never more. Good luck.

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yeah its ok

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age is just a number <3

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siesieu

its wrong. u should be 14 2 start dating. 13 is 2 young. if u were 14 & he was 16 that be okay.

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Well I'm almost 14 an he turned 16 not long ago so.. Ya..
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siesieu
ok that sounds better .when u going 2 be 14?
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if ur almost 14 ur old enough 2 date.
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but if u just turned 13 then no
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lol
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yes im 13 and im dating a 16 year old he is a vergen and so am i but we are going to wheat till im 16 17 18 to have sex. but if the guy u like is pushing for sex get away ASAP

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