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Would you forgive your partner if they cheated on you?

Would you continue to be in a relationship with them or would you leave them?

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FunnyLittleFrog

Depends...how long the relationship had been and how good in other ways the relationship was.

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Really? Depends? If your guy went and cheated on you with, lets say your best friend one night, you would tell him that its ok? You're better then me.
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Minji

I would never forgive someone that cheated on me. The moment I found out they cheated, I would leave them.

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No way!

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No because if they really loved you why would they cheat on you in the first place.

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Good question, but I sometimes think humans do have moments of weakness and give into temptation.
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well I have been cheated on and I gave the person a second chance and they hurt me again.
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I see. I don't think all people are like that though. A lot, of course, but all, no.
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it's your choice if this did happen to you but remember there are other fish in the sea.
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yes i would, but if you catch it again then i would end the relationship.

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If they really want to change I believe a person can change. If you can forgive and not bring it up every time you have an argument then by all means yes hang in there!

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No.. If they loved you like they told you they did they never would have done something like that especially when they knew it would hurt you....

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no i would not cause if he did it s there fault

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Nope, I'm not known for forgiving people. Known for trusting people even less.

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At this point in my relationship, absolutely not.

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Takes two not to tango

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But there is never an excuse to cheat. If they don't want to be with the person, the answer isn't cheating! The answer is leaving.
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Yes.

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No I don't think I could because I would always think it could happen again.

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No I would slowly creep up on them yell aha and they would say its not what it looks like and I would yell I know he's gay and stab then both to death with a small dull spoon then eat their hearts to gain their courage

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You have very deep issues that should be resolved before you consider dating...
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No, I would recommend this individual gets into novel or screen writing.
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Thank you
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I'm studying psychology at Msu
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Courage is good. Lol
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Delicious to
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I am inclined to say yes, but such an answer is premised that a relationship that I am in can actually generate such jealous passions. If I was dating Winona Ryder (Rowr!) and she cheated on me with Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise I suppose I would be capable of forgiving her. Even if I was fortunate enough to go out with an 18 year old minx that had the sex drive that I had when I was 18, I am realistic enough to know that she may have fantasies about being a groupie for One Direction or maybe Justin Bieber. If I was paying for her apartment it would be wise of her to not act on those fantasies unless she managed to convince Mr. Bieber or one of those fellows from One Direction to take over rental payments. But since I don't have such money at my disposal (or the sex drive?) that the aforementioned gentlemen supposedly have, then all I can do is fantasize myself.

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Lmao!!!
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No as soon as he cheats it would be hard for me to trust him again.

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No I'd dump them no matter what

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Even say if you had been dating for 5 years and they did it out of drunkenness but told you the next day?
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You can control yourself when you're drunk, if it's a guy who's cheating then he could just stop himself.
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I'd leave, no question about it. I'd forgive them in time, but I'd leave pronto.

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yeah i would.we have to forgive. but that doesn't mean that you have to get back with them
i would simply say " i forgive you but i dont want to be your partner anymore "

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I would never forgive my partner if he cheated on me and I would leave him.

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Nope

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I would never go back... There lost your win

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Who is "them" or "they"? How many people cheated?
And it depends--are you married? Engaged? In high school? College? Deployed in military?
It really does depend on many things---

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I personally would not get back together with that person. I was cheated on and tried getting back together and it's just not the same, the trust was gone and I couldn't feel the same as I did before. It depends on how much you guys love each other and are willing to work through it. It also depends on if you can really see yourself with that person in the future, if you can't Theres no point in putting your self through that especially if it can happen again.

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personally no cause cheating is very unhealthy and it causes stress on your behalf and you dont need to have all that stress from your partners bad decisions and poor judgment.

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HELL no! They are supposed to be in a relationship with you, then they are with you, not someone / something else

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Nooooooope.

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If they hide it and lie ,
Then bye ,bye ,
Personally , my self worth , is more than being lied to misguided , and , a dishonest person , well , they have no balls , so screw them , and some one else , can have all I have to give , and the cheater can , " lie in the bed they made "

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its depends on how long we dated and if they done it more than once !
i mean no ones perfect people make mistakes (: hope it helped you

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When they cheat, it's going to become a habit to them, which means they'll keep doing it, so no. I'd rather be single than be married to a cheater, ESPECIALLY if they lie to me.

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FL12

Never - once a cheater always a cheater.

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i did and im right back in the same spot... DONT DO IT

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If they loved you they wouldn't cheat but if you loved them you would forgive them

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australis

No/It doesn't matter if you were dating ten years or ten days.It hurts like hell but u have to ask yourself why did your partner feel the need to stray?Can u trust them again?will they compare u now etc.Dump them before you hurt further,

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i forgave my ex for cheating on me. i was a little too considerate of the situation -- 4 different girls at the same time, plus me. but i was with him for well over a year, it had been 14 months when i found out that he was cheating on me, but i did realize that i had been a little distant and that may have been why i did forgive him. but 2 months later, on our 16 month anniversary, i found out that he was still continuing said affairs, and i dumped him.
there are circumstances where you just forgive, and there are circumstances where you do everything but forgive.

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Cheating hurts the relationship to a very large degree - however, we have the option even according to God to forgive for such a "bad mistake."

Let us return to Jesus’ comment: “Whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” If a husband was actually guilty of sexual immorality but wanted to remain married to his wife, she (the innocent one in Jesus’ example) must choose whether to forgive him and continue sharing the marital bed or to reject him. If she is willing to forgive and continue with her legal husband, she is not morally stained in doing so.—Hosea 1:1-3; 3:1-3.

We are warned in the Bible how we can avoid such mishap or how to prevent such feelings to fester within us - Matthew 5:28 "But I say to YOU that everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.".

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No. Once a cheater, always a cheater

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idk

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maybe

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I would have to have the term word "STUPID" written upon my forehead in which anyways I think not because he would get slapped so hard across the face he would be getting his days of the week confused. And if the girl he was cheating with behind my back knew about us dating then she would get a not so pleasant visit from me. And NO my answer is no I would not forgive him at all for it he would get told "go stick it with the girl you were cheating with behind my back or somewhere else before it gets KICKED" and that's the fine exact words he would be told....

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Depends !!

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no defiantly not.

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It depends on the story. I cheated on my boyfriend once and never have again. It was the biggest mistake of my life. I know this is gonna sound insanely crazy but I didn't mean to cheat on him. It was a dumb drunken moment so anyways if they realy care about you and they realize what they've done wrong I belive you should give them a second chance.

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heck no what i look like being a secound choice:P

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if i love her i forgive and contain with her

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I did. I well NEVER forgive myself for it. because he cheated on me three more times :(

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well.. that depends if you really love that person if you love him/her and are willing to give
him/her a 2nd chance then thats totally fine. If you don't think that you could ever trust that
person again then that's fine too. and no one would blame u!

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maybe..

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Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

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Dependendo do tempo da relação e se eu amasse ele de verdade, perdoaria sim.

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