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how do I stop my two year old from screaming.

my two year old son screams all the time. when he is mad, or hurt, or just wants something he screams. I have a 4 year old daughter also and her my son, my husband and I all share one bedroom right now and my son wakes up for his sippy cup 3 to 4 times a night and screams bloody murder for about 5 min and it always wakes my daughter up. how do I get him to stop doing this? also when we are out he screams extremely loud and also gets very violent hitting pinching biting and everything inbetween. I can't set him down in fear of him hurting himself and nothing calms him down he will do this for 45 min without any sign of giving up. it is so embarrassing I have tried to talk to him but he gets more upset. when I discipline him or speak sternly to him he gets louder and more violent. I took him into the bathroom yesterday during an episode and some lady came in there and just stood there staring at me and didn't even use the bathroom it was humiliating but I couldnt leave the store because my husband had dropped me off to do a little shopping while he went and ran a few errands so I was stuck what can I do about all of this im about to lose all my hair from this its soo stressful...I just want him to be a happy little guy. and I don't understand the violence because he has never seen any sort of it before. my husband and I do not yell or argue around the kids. I do not know what to do PLEASE HELP!!!!

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My Little brother used to do the same thing unfortunately what he craved most was the attention and as mean as it may seem they did there best to ignore him if he wanted something they'd calmly state "you can get it when you act like a big boy and until then I'll be ( where ever they were going)" and simply walked away but still kept an eye in him he eventually he stopped screaming for everything and started asking politely

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Dont give in when he screams. He probably just thinks "oh.. Since im screaming, they give me what i want to shut up" so he'll continue to do so until you stop that habit. Dont give him anything unless hes on his nest behavior, put him in his room for 5 minutes, if he continues to scream, tell him hes gunna have to stay in there longer

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When he starts to scream, sing 'Under the sea' really loudly. He'll just want to sing along.

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He might have what McBenjamin said, but if not you can always do what my granddad done to me about that age which was spankings.

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The synapses formed during early childhood help relate the child from action to reaction. Giving a screaming child a bottle will tell the child that screaming is the way to get the bottle and that is what they do. It is a hard process to reverse but with patience, time, energy and a lot of stress you can teach your son better ways to get what he wants eg. By doing what you want him to he will be rewarded. But this is just the opinion of one childless biologist so do take it with a grain of salt.

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Do silly things , jump around... Sometimes you have to be louder than them so that they have your attention but be loud in a funny or crazy way. and like the other comment , it might be a disorder, take him to the doctor, also, if he isn't speaking, he might need speech therapy before his speaking goes wrong or he might have autism . my brother has autism and lately (he's 16) for the past 2 1/2 years hes been screaming just so he can get what he wants and my family is starting to thing that he's gaining OCD from this because he always wants to turn off the light once someone leaves the room but needs to go back in there and he wants to shut doors... it's annoying , we barely take him to church now cuz we stay there a few hours before service starts so since he's been there for so many hours he starts to have a tantrum during service , it's embarrassing at times.

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Has your family looked into IVIG therapy? There now seems to be a correlation between increased screaming events and a rise in infflamatory process in the brain. Taking a kid like that to church is similar to putting you in a bell tower with constant ringing bells and no ear protection.
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It is going to be difficult for a week or so. Send everyone away, then tell him you don't work with screaming. Tell him here is your time out spot, when your finished tell me what you want. It will get hard, the screaming will get louder eventually slow down. It's a game you have to out wait him. If he does it in public you have to be willing to go home immediately or take him to a quiet spot and sit. Again, you have to let him wind down. It will take sometime before he realizes he isn't getting what he wants. As a reference look up the Super Nanny show.

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Hi. Everyone here has really good advise. Allow me to add my 2c worth, ok? First & foremost, have him checked by his pediatrician to rule-out any health problems. Make sure he can see & hear adequately. Then, it's off to the races! I agree with the 'naughty chair' concept. Initially, explain to him what behavior is expected from a 'big boy'. And tell him what happens if he screams. Two minutes in the chair, no exceptions. Put your ear plugs in. After he settles down, calmly explain to him WHY he's in the chair, and what would've been a better way to handle it. Be firm, loving, concise. While he's in the chair, the least contact, the better. Outlast him, because you can. When out, remind him BEFOREHAND what's expected of him. And what will happen if he acts-up. Toss it right back at him. How he acts will determine if you stay, have fun, or go home to the naughty chair. Good luck.

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