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ok i wear eye liner, well my girlfriend uploaded a pic of us on instagram and i don't mind. But my sisters boyfriend called me fag and gay for wearing makeup. Now I've been called that nearly all my life and it no longer bothers me, but my sister got mad at me for getting her to try to talk to her bf and said he was just messing around. But she knows i don't like that. So my sister is mad at me for bringing it up, what should i do? just let it go or try to talk to her about it?

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We live in a very 'reactive' social environment, driven by typical or even stereotypical social expectations. We as children are encouraged to 'find ourselves' and 'express who we really are' .. problem is, if that means it doesn't fit typical social expectations, then you are considered a 'misfit'.

If you want to step out of the box (so to speak) you have to expect a 'reaction' and like in this case, ridicule. That may mean you have to 'grow a thicker skin' so to speak .. and don't let it bother you. You have to 'find yourself' .. and if that means wearing a little makeup, it's harmless enough .. You are not hurting or affecting ANYONE. It doesn't define WHO you are. Your actions defines WHO you are. So rise above it .. and consider it as 'his own voiced opinion'. Big deal.

Just how much does "his own voiced opinion" mean to you?

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Im just upset that my sister took his side, instead of her own brothers. It makes me feel like she is embarrassed of me
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I hear ya .. and Yes, she could have been more supportive .. but, my guess is, she is stuck in the middle, and really doesn't know HOW to take a stand over something like this.
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yea thanks(=
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If you normally wear eyeliner, then i don't see why it should bother anyone now. If your sister got mad at you, that's her problem. I don't think it's that big a deal.

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I think I'm just mad at the fact she took her boyfriends side over mine, she knows that i can't stand it
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unresolved personal inner problems?

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What?
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just saying, you are a boy who likes to whare make up? (not that their is anything wrong with that) :)
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If you have any unresolved issues about this, you should go directly to the source, your sister's boyfriend. She probably just has a fear of rejection from her boyfriend, and will eventually get over it. When someone calls you a fag that is more than just joking, it is flat out mean.

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yea, like i said I've been called that all my life and it don't bother me know. but I'm just upset that she took his side and not her own brother. It kind of makes me feel like she is embarrassed of me
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You do crazy things for love you know? Sometimes you hurt others, at the risk of losing who you love. But please don't ever change who you are for the sake of someone else. I would say it's not about being embarrassed and more about being insecure in her relationship.
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I understand you are upset that she sided with her BF instead of you. The problem is though that any significant other will come first before anyone else. In any argument that person is going to side with their significant other. It's nothing personal.

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alright
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I'm sorry I couldn't give you a more positive answer, but I wanted to give you an honest answer.
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its ok
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Don't be offended if someone calls you a fag. It's used to make fun of anything, it's just another mindlessly tossed word thrown out there.

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Don't worry, she's a huge spaz.

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