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I met this girl today and i was flirting with her and making her feel real special. There was attraction by both of us. She has two 11 year old kids though. Im 20 years old, and i don't know if i should leave her alone because of them kids or be her friend and work up to her man. This is hard. Help me out? By the way, she's 28

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Run away and run very fast.

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FunnyLittleFrog
Haha ...voice of experience
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Oh yeah!!
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Follow your heart. Sounds like you made a connection. Take it slow but I say give it a shot. Love is an important feeling to have in anyone's life. Good luck.

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id say no .

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FunnyLittleFrog

You like her a lot. Get to know her and see. Things you are worried about now may turn out to be nothing.

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trustandbelieveme

age doesnt matter in love, as long as you have feeling for her, go to first base.

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DukeCityMuscle

If the 11 year old kids are less than a year apart in age it suggests she has unprotected sex on a regular basis. Besides diseases, babies are another hazard of unprotected sex. And if she's 28, she probably got pregnant when she was around 16. Do you want to get close to someone with that kind of poor judgement?

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Because of the age gap, the fact she has kids, and you're so young, I'd say just be friends with her. I mean, you're only 9 years older than her 11 year old....

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jsm36

Dude, you're not ready to deal with pre-teens, at 20 years old. You are only recently a 'post-teen'. If you are going to have a relationship with this woman, keep it sexual-

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Dude, do you like her, my stepdad married my mom, shes 36 with five kids and he's 31, I'm 15, and my sisters are 19, 10, 10, and 8, go for it

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If you just want some nookie find it elsewhere, if you intend on building a relationship with her go for it, but dont forget the mother isn't the only one who can be hurt if things go south her two kids can be hurt to.

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Been there!! Done that!!! Let me tell you something.. Not a good idea!! I was involved with a 36 girl while I was 24!! Oh yeah it was good and I liked it a lot!! I was a man taking on man responsibilities! She had 2 kids and couldn't have anymore!!! I was in heaven if you know what I mean (skeet skeet)!! ;-) but she had a dark side! Most women that have children early are looking to regain what they loss while taking care of kids! I don't remember anything thing between the ages if 24 to 28! 4 years lost!! I believe you are out of your league! Hell with that chick!! Do you!!! Don't miss out on your blessing trying to be something you're not!! Oh yeah you hit a nerve!! Please leave it alone and chill with your friends! Real friends buddy! She did something wrong not you! Let her be! Hope you make the right choice!! Love you! And be strong!

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No it's real!
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I am a mother. U r 2 young to be a "father figure" to an 11 yr old. At best you would be a "big brother". She needs a man in her life not another child. I know you feel like a grown up. But you are not. The fact that you feel the need to ask what we think about your situation tells me that you are not ready to take on the responsibility. Relationships are hard, trying, messy and complicated. If you aren't sure if you are ready, then you aren't. By the way, I am not trying to attack you for your age. Or the differences in your age. These kids are simply too old for you to help rear them responsibly.

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dustee

runSheaDiggsrun... like forest run

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Stop and 'smell the roses' first, then run!
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lmao
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Oh, Darlin! This you don't need. Go find someone closer to your age with no children. Life is too short.

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