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My dad all of the sudden doesn't like me ..?

by the way, Im using my brothers account. thanks! but anyways, it seems like my dad doesn't like me anymore. when I was younger, he called me his princess and we would always jump on the trampoline and he would take me to the candy store. but now he just doesn't like me. he always makes fun of me, complains about what I do. he's hardly ever nice to me. and it's mostly around my mom to try to "fake it". I mean sure he buys me stuff, but only when my mom tells me too. my mom doesn't know how I really feel, but my friends do. they're the only ones I can really talk to. I just turned 14. ever since I turned.. around 12, this started. I just feel like he doesn't care. at all. that's why when I'm 18, I can't wait to move out so I don't have to see him anymore. I have a brother but he's in college, so it's just the 3 of us in the house. I mean I know he loves me but... I don't know. I just really want him to accept me for who I am. I always feel like I'm not good enough, or he wants a better daughter. what should I do?!

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You are not his 'little" girl anymore. You are growing up and it most likely scares him a bit. You are a teenager, and liking boys. That can freak out a dad. You should talk to him and let him know you miss the time you spent together. If you aren't comfortable telling him, then tell your mom. Avoiding it isn't going to make it go away. Since you are growing up you need to do the more mature thing and face it. Believe me he misses you as well.

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Minji

Maybe you're just interpreting his actions differently than what they really are....But, since it bothers you so much, try to discuss it with him. :)

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I feel the same way about my stepdad. I just let all my anger out quitley. Then when I turn 18 I'm out. So you will probably have to just deal with it or tell your mom.

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no ur dad loves u

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Mabey he just wants you to be strong I am sorry what you are going through it must be hard mabye he is going through a tough time hey the economy is kinda bad write now so it could just be stressed hope this message helped

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Tell your mother how you feel. She'll tell him, though. He could be having a problem personally...it's impossible to tell. Maybe your brother felt the same way.

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Why don't you ask your dad to go out to lunch and talk. Communication is key to any successful relationship whether it is with your friends or your parents. If he says no, write him a letter stating your feelings and address in the letter how it used to be between the two of you and how it is now. "Written" words seem to be "heard" more than spoken words. Best of luck!

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he just doesn't want to we you getting hurt. when you were a kid, he treated you like a princess but now he's being tough on you because he has to train you for the real world. he still loves you obviously and he always will but he's just giving you a hard time because he loves you. i know it seems like he doesn't care about you anymore but if he truly didn't like you, he would've disowned you or something. he just doesn't want to see you getting hurt when you do enter the real world because people are going to be much worse.

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Try sitting your mom and dad down, and have a serious conversation with them about how you are feeling.

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I've had a similar situation with my mom, one day I counted everything she said to me and 90% of what she said was telling me something to do or to do better, I even ran away from home for a day but now I love my relationship with my mom. She was just really really stressed, I think that's the problem with you and your dad. No matter what he loves you and of corse he likes you :) I'm sure he's just having a rough time now, just give him a little time and be patient with him and he'll come through. You can always tell your mom or even your dad how you feel too, that will help things :D Good luck

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oh come on, I'm sure your father doesn't hate you.
I think he just doesn't want to see you grow up.. that means he won't be able to do all the stuff he loved doing with you as much anymore.

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It's hard for a dad when their daughters begin to grow up. They feel awkward too. They used to be able to do all sorts of things with you and play around and cuddle you when you needed it and now it's not considered appropriate behavior to do this anymore. He has to pull back showing his affection as openly but believe me he still likes you. The both of you are going through "growing pains" and he loves you very much. My dad did the same thing. I do wish he wouldn't have felt he needed to say those things though because I still remember those things so I suggest you follow LivingInPeace's advice because it could prevent a lot of hurt feelings in the future.

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Try to talk to him. When I was younger I felt that way. He's your dad just tell him how you feel. If he works a lot that could be y to. My father worked a lot so he was always tired. If that doesn't work talk to your mom about it.

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