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I went on a date with this guy this past weekend, and I was just wondering how long I should wait before I should expect a second date?

I work with this guy and he seems to really like me as I do him. we went on our first date this past weekend and I was the initiator. so, I was just wondering how long should I wait before I should expect a second date, and I he does start to take a while to initiate the next one would it be okay, if I did it again? we kinda know each other to a decent degree since we work at the same place, but we do tend to work opposite shifts.

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You have already done something I have always had a rule about, and that is dating a co-worker. Just because I have seen it so many times not work out, and then it is so awkward for both people involved. (Not saying you and he won't work out) But, you shouldn't "expect" a second date just because you had "a" date. If you have already been on one date together, I think I would let HIM initiate the second one, if there is to be one. Otherwise he might feel obligated to say yes, because you do work together. But that's just my opinion. I am not trying to be negative or say that this is the case with you, I am just saying what I have seen from experience with other's I have worked with in this situation. Did he mention another date while you were out together? Has he brought it up since? These are things I would consider.

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No, he didn't mention a second date, and it was only this past weekend that we went on a date. And he is VERY shy as well.
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Okay, well I would give him some time. If you want continue to talk to him, and perhaps he will ask you....Good Luck.
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Yall should talk more over weekends or freetime. Since you dont talk alot now, you should ask each other questions and stuff. So maybe wait a month?

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Well, we text each other all the time. Every day actually throughout the whole day. We always say goodnight to each other, and good morning. It's very obvious that we like each other a lot. We are both aware. But do you think I should still wait a month before I would think about pushing another outing?
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well i think ok maybe half a month then? Really its whatever your comfertable with. I mean if you to talk that much and like each other A LOT then yeah half a month. Maybe hang out at your house or his?
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lilTUNCHIE: I think she is asking a valid question....I don't know WHAT you are trying to say.
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Okay, thanks!
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Well no one asked you ClicketyClack. SO mind your own business and stay away from mine..Oh and btw "smart one" Dont put so much of your personal info on a website like this...You have your state, zipcode, name....mm mm mm did your parents/guardians not teach you anything?
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Thursday. If he doesn't ask on Thursday, you can ask if he is doing anything this weekend on Friday.

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Okay, yeah that's what I was thinking. If it's nice outside or something I was going to see if he'd want to take a walk in a park or something.
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And that way we could talk and get I know each other better too.
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Hi, Allyson. I guess I'm kind of old-fashioned. This time I think I'd wait for him to ask me out on the second date, especially if you do get a chance to talk some. When you do talk, tell him what a great time you had. I would think he would make that move first if that's how he felt. I don't think there's anything wrong with a woman making the first move, but I personally wouldn't make the second also. But, like I said, I'm old-fashioned and I'd want to make sure he had a good time and felt the same way I did. I'd wait for him to make the next move. 8-)

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I agree totally Sissy!
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Okay, thanks so much! I really like your response.
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Grow up lilTUNCHIE
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You're very welcome, Allyson, honey.
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@lil Tunchie. Just how "lil" are you? Or maybe mature would be the correct word or classy???
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@SissyMom. Ikr? "lil" has written that same phrase on several comments. hmmmmm makes me wonder what SHE might be wanting.....
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I think we all know that.
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If he's extremely shy I would ask him again this weekend. if he's not, I would wait until he made the next move

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He is a VERY shy guy actually, that's why I am kind of undecided on what to do and am wondering that if since I started it he might think that that I would help continue it more, I don't know??
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Then I would call him. Say you're going to the movie Sat night to see.... And ask if he'd like to see it too. Make sure your choice is something he'd like, not some chick flick. If he says no, then let him make the next move.
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Over this weekend call this "guy" up and ask to see if he is going to do anything. Don't wait for him to break the chain. If he don't call you Wed. or Thurs. then call him. Guys don't like to be pressured to doing ANYTHING.

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If you both enjoyed the date, I think he will ask you out again in the next couple of weeks

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You think? Even if he is very shy?
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I think so
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a week or two..be cool about it and don't rush it or jump at any invitation..enjoy it just taking its natural course. since you initiated the first date let him make the next move.

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Shy is cute in little girls; in adult men, not so much.
Shy = no balls.
If you prefer to get involved with a guy that's not gonna "be the man" ... go for it.

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Way to go again, Smitty. I know a man who is a freakin' Marine that is "shy". You wanna tell me he has no balls? Sometimes your answers just amaze me. Shy definitely does NOT = no balls. Of course, unless you're speaking from experience, I don't know...
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Wait around a week, if he doesn't do anything he might be expecting you to start things again. Make sure you talk with him, communication is good

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