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A friend of mine has very sickening fetishes and just thinking about them makes me naucious, and he thinks I'm oblijed to accept them and act like everything is normal and okay but that is inpossible. What am I supposed to do with this?

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Well, the sad truth is that some people have a hard time being able to overlook things they NOW know about a person, which makes it, as you said, damn near impossible to move past.....if you really think you can't put these things outta your head, then you just might have to not be friends with the person anymore.....sadly enough.....but I just don't understand one thing....is he attempting these things with you?? Does he constantly talk about these things??......maybe you should just realize that this is part of who he is and just accept it and move forward as friends. I must admit, I'm quite curious as to what you are deeming to be so offended by......

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He has cannibalism, necropheliac, bestiality, and blood fetishes. He doesn't talk about it or try doing that to me, he just told me last night randomly and It makes we want to starve to death
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I out what the fetished are here but I think it got removed. They're horrifying and they make me want to starve to death.
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Nvm now i see it
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As for eating humans, he would actually have to have try it before saying he's into that.....necro-phelia is not really as bad as it seems, look it up.......beast-iality, well, that's just sick, but if no women are trying to get with him, then what's a guy supposed to do???? 8) That was KIND OF A JOKE, but the reality is that if no people of your own species are interested in you, then your options are quite limited as to where your "satisfaction" can come from. Blood is kind of sick, I'll admit, but unless a person has a LOT of blood at their disposal then that too isn't all that bad. How old is this dude? Has he told you that he's been "involved" in any of these "acts"?
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He's 19... And he only looks at porn with those fetishes in them but I mainly asked this for help for my own sanity, like I said it makes me suicidal and completely disgusted and I just can't accept someone who gets turned on by dead animals eating eachother, I'm VERY suicidal about this
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How on God's Green Earth does him having these fet-ishes cause YOU to feel as though you should take YOUR own LIFE?? Sorry, I'm just not seeing the connection of the two.
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It just does, I HATE that he likes that and I hate living being exposed to that, I really need help on this
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Well, the world is FILLED with horrible things.....whether or not YOU choose to concentrate and dwell on those things is completely up to you.....and besides all that, taking YOUR LIFE isn't gonna stop these things from happening......
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I can't help it though, I get SO enraged and disgusted and I just feel like I want to kill him and myself (but I wouldn't)
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I know, I hear ya.....the best thing you can do at this point is tell the dude he makes you sick to your stomach and that when he finally realizes how silly these things he likes are, that he can try to get a hold of you then...
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I have tried that but he still says I need to get over it and I really want to but it seems impossible because of how much pure hate I have towards it Dx
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OSantos
It is really sad that someone who behaves in a deviant manner needs to gather a following. Get clear away, and tell your dad.
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What kind of fetishes exactly?

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if you are the same gender,its okay to close one eye,if not,stay away, these people are gonna rape you one day.(Personal)(happened between my friend and his classmate)

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It's ok to be friends with future rapist if you are same sex? Stupid...
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Tell him how you feel. If they are really bad, tell him to consider counseling

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What he said
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lol Kira, that's a she
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haha Thanks prep
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Zoe500

What are actually sickening fetishes ???

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What type of thing are we talking about here? If it's nothing that really concerns something about you, I wouldn't worry too much, though if it is a guy who might have psychological problems, I would consider carrying a weapon if I were you.

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dustee

Maybe suggest counseling.

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keep your distance..

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Really most of the time a friend like you can't really help a person who is like this out. Instead you might want to appoint them into taking some counseling classes while being there by their side with them every step of the way support from somebody always helps out a whole lot too. It gives them the thought that people actually do care for and love them even if their fetishes are in the way of this ordeal. Anyways try talking them to take classes or have one huge stern discussion with them. And hope your friend starts to come back around too feeling good....

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Rose please I don't want you to worry about me. Are you still there ?
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Talk to him about it.

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You either accept it and continue to be his friend, or quit talking to him. If it's illegal, notify police. If it's just weird then you have to decide on whether or not to can remain comfortable being his friend.

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If these fetishes are disturbing u than keep your distance and you are NOT obliged to accept them like he said,just saying that is enough for me to dump him.

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your too sweet Alexandra to be poisoned by this guy your above this sickness .... time to get new friends

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And not to snoop but i read your conversation with nafta and ( your friend ) is sick disgusting guy whos appetite for misery is just going to grow ...somebody who does this must of had a very dramatic thing happen to him but you wont be able to change him...
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OSantos

Harry Truman stated this.. "If you can't stand the heat; Get out of the kitchen."
They're his fetishes, not yours. Wave good bye to him.

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Not your problem, let your friends be who they want, they do have a mind of their own. Stop be so judgemental if you want to keep your friends, love them unconditionally, you know, the way you would want to be treated. Have a nice day.

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Duh.
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Your opinion on this is useless. I asked how I could cope with this on my own
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You didn't specify that.
The way you cope is just accept "him" as the friend you've always known him to be, over look what you seem to think is fault in him. Otherwise your just being judgemental.
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