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How to maintain a friendship with a guy who is engaged without getting in the way?

I have a friend that I care for quite a lot.. he recently got engaged and now I feel kind of funny about talking to him because I don't want to get in the way of his relationship. ( I am a girl)

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With all due respect, if you are not friends with his fiance, walk away. If he contacts you and you are not friends with his fiance, walk away. It is disrespectful to her if you both continue a "secret friendship" unless he introduces you to her and you become friends with her as well, not acquaintances.

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i have a lot of friend who are in a relationship or married and were still best friend its okay just as long as a stays a friendship

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If he and his fiance are truly in love and you and he are good friends you will soon become good friends with her. If not, something in the above equation is not true, in which case that should be a red flag on either their relationship or you and your friends relationship.

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I think there must be something missing form the statement above. Like she has feelings for him more than just friendship; otherwise it would be a non-issue. I have guy friends.....Hubster was not worried in the least.
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dont be alone with him or suspicions may arise. you know to not even give the appearance of wrong doing

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This is a hard question to answer because we have to read a lot into your question. By the way you said it I would 'guess' that you are in love with him. Am I wrong? Don't lie, to me or yourself. Don't feel bad about being his friend if you can still be one.

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I have a very good male friend that I have known for a very long time, in fact, we nearly got married. He married someone else, as did I, but we remained friends. We stayed friends through all our marriages and divorces, but were always honest with our respective spouses, and introduced each other to them. Because you are married or engaged does not mean you can no longer have friends of the opposite sex. HOWEVER, having said that, if you feel romantically inclined, stay away and only speak once in a while on the telephone or internet. You are wise to be very cautious about interfering with his relationship.

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He is engaged / he isn't married , if you truly are in love with him , you have to let him know clearly , honestly , bluntly . If he isn't or doesn't , have those feelings for you , he will tell you , and it won't hurt friendship , as honesty will gain respect , if he is , or does have those feelings , then it may save heartache for eryone involved ,
I have always heard that you couldn't stop true love , . in my opinion , you are very wise , very respectful , and very admirable , for considering , other people's feelings as well as your own ,
much respect , :-)

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I agree. Unless you are equally good friends with his intended you need to just step back.

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