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A women I am seeing is asking me to buy her things We just met about a month ago and it started on the first date. does she likes me?

She has mentioned a future relationship between us in the future, "like asking when your my man will you do *This* for me. She has also invited me over to come see her new dog. None of her friends knew about me, and she did not introduce me. She however does not have any problems of me introducing myself to them. Once talking to her friends on the phone she referred to me as her "friend".

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If she is keeping you a secret from her friends and only wants the things that you can give her this is a red flag, she has no interest in you, she's more interested in your wallet...

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Yup!***
Heya sarte, how's things?
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Hey Witte, things are good...)
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Aha, can see that... Got me vetting you now aye? Lol!! Did!!:-).
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Keep up the good work, you're doing great, I need all the advocates I can get...)
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Eeh, looks like the beautiful Shelly will have to be admired from afar..
Remind her you are just looking for fun Ask friends!:-).
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Plus you've got competition!!lol!
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I think she knows I'm just having fun, my heart is surprisingly not broken...)
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Smiles!!! And Hugs! Thanks for that:-).
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Witte I will tell you sincerely that I truly love and have a passion for women, I love romance and I love the seduction, I love to look into a woman's eyes in a room full of people with my arm around her waist pulling her closer, and we make it feel like we are the only ones in the room...
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Ah sarte, you are such a romantic!:-)
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Call me John...
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On a roll...:-).
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I didn't mean it like that, you've had to many Rum Runners today, ( I love those things, they make me forget where the car is parked )))
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Sorry bout that, just kidding, John.
and,no rum runners...just Dengue fever.
Been lying down, about to have some soup Hubby heated. Catch ya later:-).
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Be well...
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Thank you.:-)
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Good morning John!:-).
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Btw, didn't you mean the rum runners make you forget where your space ship is parked?? Ha, ha.:-)
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Oh you're a funny one, ha ha, how is life Easter morning in the islands ?
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Oh yeah, almost forgot, happy easter! Don't eat too much chocolate!
Do you celebrate the Holiday, and if so what traditions do you all celebrate?

It's pretty much same as every day has been for the last 2months.. Sunny, DRY& hot. Bad drought continues.. The Ocean is beautiful Shades of Blue, that view never tires!:-).
Your end?
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It's just me and no traditions, it's a little chilly here, about 45, going up to about 60 today, I'll just kick back and watch some movies and have a couple of Klondike bars, happy Easter to you...)
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Sounds like a perfect way to pass the day!:-). Still a bit cold by you.. Brrrr.
Although right now I wouldn't mind so much; the Dengue rash is like having Measels!Itchy!!!Actually turned the Air on last night just so could sleep! Lol!
Got that Klondike Bar ditty stuck in my head now!! Aargggh.
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She started asking you for things on your first date?

Once upon a time ... women like that were called "Gold diggers" ...

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still are! those types peeve me to no end!
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Still.
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Sounds like she is just looking for a sugar daddy.

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She's using you!!!! Run away as fast as you can!!!

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Sounds like she's interested in your money not you. You're being used.

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She did not tell her friends about you because she is playing you. She called you a friend because she probably has more than one male 'friend' she asks to buy her things. As others mentioned...sounds like she just wants a sugar daddy. The way she is treating you is wrong!

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Spoken like a true lady...)
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ty. i dislike women like that! i buy what i need and feel guilty when a guy buys me something! except on my birthday and valentines! lol...and then they darned well better do something! but women like the one this guy is talking about...they give us all a bad name and then some men treat all of us like we are just like this woman!
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I am a natural giver and fortunately I do not attract women like this...
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learn to hold back early on! wait and let them show they are worth it dag nab it!
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And I do, don't misunderstand me, I'm not trying to buy affections, I will give them something meaningful to their lives, like if they have children something that is symbolic to them being a great mother, I like to touch their heart with something that will make them swell up with pride...
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And to let them know that I understand them...
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i get it.
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You are really a sweatheart sarte!:-)
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Shelly, listen to Witte, she knows what she's talking about, lol ;~)
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This was my first relationship and i am 18 years old.she is 20. i really want to be with her, but from what everyone is saying she is a gold digger. How do you suggest i stop contacting her?
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lol @ sarte ...what good does it do me? ha ha ha not like you live in my town and are gonna be taking me out and some day buying me stuff. ha ha ha lol...

but cool she speaks highly of you! @wittepier...all i have seen of him here has been a gentleman in action!
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Just stop, if she contacts you and asks why you haven't called just tell her that you've been thinking about it and that you're going to pass...
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Just stop, or if that makes you feel wrong, tell her you've found someone you really like and want to spend time with, not usually a fan of white lies but if it makes things easier for you... Just get out of it.:-)
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Yes shelly, sarte is a true gentleman!:-).
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@vsay...she will keep contacting you even if you do not contact her. this type of woman will contact you as soon as she needs something. you deserve better. take her number out of your phone or alter the name in the address book to 'Don't Pick up' as a reminder that she is bad news! just walk away. if she calls, don't answer. that simple. won't feel simple but the best bet. if you tell her why you are walking away...she WILL lie to try and keep you coming back to buy her things. if a woman does not introduce you to all her friends as her boyfriend...she has no respect for you. so, it is up to you to protect your own self respect on this one!
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Shelly I've been to almost all the places that you have lived or traveled to but yet it makes no mention of where you live now, how will I know where to send my pilot and the G5 to pick you up, lol...)
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Agree wholeheartedly with you on this Female, Shelly!! Bad News!:-(.
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Thanks everyone for your advice. She just texted me sayigh "U should come to school today". I am going to block her number and put an end to it :P
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@vsay, smart move! Lot's of other much better things will come your way!:-)
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The true man defines his life by his integrity vsay, good for you....Now let me get back to making my moves on Shelly, lol...)
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lol sarte, this is the only site where no one knows who i am or has enough facts to find me. i did that on purpose. i deal with people too much and this place..this is my hiding spot! CLAPPING FOR VSAY....HE IS BLOCKING HER! smart man!
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Shelly I broke my relationship so i can be with you. Forget sarte and choose me.
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Oh,oh...dog fight...lol!!:-).
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Shelly I respect your privacy, besides I would have to break too many hearts as I traveled the road to your destination...)
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Lol!
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lol...what did i miss....ha ha ha
@vsay, i am old enough to be your Mom!
@sarte I don't do virtual relationships!
@wittepier...if only they saw me without make up on! snicker
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Shelly I don't do virtual relationships either, I just try to have a little fun mixed in with some innocent flirting just to keep myself in tune for the dress rehearsal should it ever come, give me credit for having at least a small semblance of depth...
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lol...you got it sarte!
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If you start out that way, make no mistake, you will get what you are asking for. Anyone who starts out that way is using you. Have mire respect for yourself then to get involved with that.

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sorry buddy. I see so many red flags here, I think I must be in a parade.

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Clever, Patricia, and dead right.
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Ty, dodgy
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Don't be naive dude, she wants your money not you. And don't let her seduce you.

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Drop her like MySpace

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Run away, dude. She's in it for the money, not you. You're just fooling yourself. As a matter of fact promise her the moon then bang her, then leave. You do that and I promise you, you'd be every men hero. You couldn't go into a bar and pay for your own drink for the rest of your life.

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Breaking her heart will be forever more potent than any insult. Thank you.
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It may be true about some people but if a person asks you to buy stuff while on the first date then that person sounds like she doesn't have a heart to break. Nah, bang her then leave. She'll remember the insult longer then the breaking of the heart.
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Sorry to add to all the bad news; sounds like a User to me.

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Pretty nervy.. To start asking for things right of the bat! Not even a Smart User! Psaaagh! Agree with Shelly about women like this!! Big Thums Down!!!
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No but she really LOVES your wallet.

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Hi Neanderthal!
He allready blocked her...:-)
See under SunshineShelly....
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Sounds like she may just be using you....

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