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What should you do if you have a controlling friend?

my friend is always telling me what to do. She always tells me what to wear and how to wear it. She says that I dress like a hippy. She also tells me that I should eat less to be skinny.

now i have another friend who is always pestering me about my weight. She always says that I'm too skinny for skinny jeans.

I don't know what to do! I want her to stop controlling me but I can't!

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What I've learned and discovered about people, is that you cannot change other people, you can only change yourself. People also only change if they WANT to change. What I would do in this situation, is distance myself from these people, and find new friends. That's the great thing about people that aren't family: we get to choose the ones we want in our lives. The question is, what kind of people do you want to have in your life? Friends are suppose to love and respect each other in their differences, and lift and bring eachother higher, and be there for each other. Sounds like these friends aren't doing that, they're bullying you into becoming their idea of what and who you should be, but friends already like you for how you are. They're bullies, and trust me, you don't want "friends" like that. I don't want to tell you what to do, but I think the best thing and only thing you can do, is to dump these so called friends, who truly aren't worthy of you or your time.

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I've actually told my other closer friends who don't bother me at all, they tell me that they don't like them either... but it's just that we don't know like how to get rid of them. They don't realize that we don't want to be their friends.
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I know what you mean. I had a friend that all of a sudden turned mean, and secretive. I didn't just drop her completely, but slowly branched away from her, and hung out with new friends, as I was fortunate to find an acquaintance whom I really enjoyed talking to and spending time with. We started hanging out a lot, and I just slowly stopped hanging out with the other one. She got the hint.
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So sorry you're dealing with that btw! They sound really mean.... My friend was mean but not like to the point where she insulted my style and appearance...
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Thanks for helping me out. I really appreciate it. And she is. I'm like happy-go-lucky and she's like "How is that even funny? Because its not."
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Wow. She sounds rude. I'm the same with my friends, and I had one friend who actually said basically those exact words, or she would say stop trying to be funny. Some people are just joy kills that don't know how to have fun! They have to drag everybody down because they're so insecure within themselves, or they're just plain full of it!
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She is rude, but I manage to put up with her somehow. But yeah, she is a joy kill. Thanks so much for all the advice :)
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Np! :)
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Simple... Just don't listen to her you are your own person

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Tell her you are you, and you will be who you want to be. She needs to quit projecting herself on you. That is not a friend.

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Sounds like you need to find new friends. They all have problems.

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I'm trying to get rid of them but they can't realize that.
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Just ignore them and keep doing what you are doing.. Don't worry about what they think as long as you like your clothes you are wearing then that is all that matters it doesn't matter what they think they aren't the ones wearing it.

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I try telling her that but she goes and says "You need serious help." I'm like "woah, where did THAT come from?"
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Tell her to quit trying to control you, and tell her that if she doesnt stop your friendship with her is over, and if she can't except you for you, then she not worth your friendship. :)

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I've tried, but she just ignores me anyway.
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Ditch her, forget her, she's not worth your company, i had a friend like that, didn't end up well, so leave her now.
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Okay, thanks
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Your welcome! Tell me how it goes, she eventually realize that she should have changed for you and bot the other way around. =^---^=
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*not
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Okay, *ask power*
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Good Luck :)
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Id do the complete opposite she tells me to do to piss her off ahah she's probably not a very good friend or maybe she's just like that if you don't like it you shouldn't have to deal with it. :)

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i actually have but she looks at me like I am a worthless piece of trash. She looks at me like she has higher power over me.
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Look at her likes she's a worthless piece of trash. She doesn't have higher power than you. Tell her that what she does hurts you . Be honest but don't freak out or yell. I've had this happen before and I fixed it. Hope it all works out :)
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Thanks for the advice! I really appreciate it.
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