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my boyfriend seems to be ignoring me while i'm pregnant what should i do

how can i make him realize tht he needs to over with me supporting me and helping me ,he has his phone off and im alone pregnant here anything could happen i have no family tht can help me watch my two year old if i need to goto the hospital ,my boyfriend believes its not important for him to be here nd tht im just being need towards him , ..lately hes being a real jerk ever since hes being at his sister place , ive tryed threatening him ,beging him ,leaving him alone but he still continues to ignore me , what should i do ,he only calls wen hes good and ready ,nd i think his sister is trying to turn him away from me

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Sounds like he is being a dead beat dad already. I'm so sorry you have to go through this, but you should not be with someone like that anymore, he obviously does not care about you! Take him to court if he refuses to pay child support for his child. Good luck :)

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what if he dont work what can i do
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Take him to court anyway ! They'll get child support out of him somehow ! What a shame !
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He will still need to pay child support. If he doesn't work, he will need to start working to avoid being thrown in prison for evading child support.
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That's right , Jackie-san !
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i live Canada ,and if hes on welfare they can't collect from him , ive tried calling welfare fraud on him cause he collecting and not living anywhere paying rent ,but they haven't done anything about it ..
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but nomatter what i will go to court
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Thanks Mr. Wayne! And good for you kiwi, that is the way to go :)
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Ninja, now,... little quirk of a smile..wink, wink. I know it's hard for you to express how you visualize and feel, please feel free to open up and share how you see the components of the problem and find the solution... Great advice. Glad to see you back. In closing, you and I both know, If Mr. Wayne is in your corner, it's a good bet your "doin' good thar miss!" :)

I hope kiwi knows she isn't struggling out there by herself. With you, Mr. John Wayne, and clicketyclack, she may make it another day! :)
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Don't be too harsh on him, he may be a little scared or nervous. Just talk to him face to face and heart to heart and tell him how you feel and that (in your vulnerable state) you need guidance and support.

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ive tried but he tells me im just trying to control him ..
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Sorry to say, but he doesn't sound like a good boyfriend. Just try to get him to understand that you aren't and that you're just as worried as he may be.
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Well if you have that baby he has to pay child support and help you with the baby

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Did he want the baby?

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Sadly, you need to take notice of this behavior. I hate to say it, but no matter what you say or do, no matter how much you beg, or threaten, nothing is going to make him be a stand up man. That has to come from within him. If he didn't want to be "turned away", nothing or nobody could make him. It sounds like he is an immature jerk, and I don't need to add a bad choice for you, do I? You have a child to think about, and another one about to be here. Don't continue to dwell on him. Get ready to make him pay child support. I see the name "dead beat" in his future.

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i know what ur say ,i wish i could give what he deserves for treating me this way but it seems i can't do anything and he doesn't work
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Just because he doesn't work, doesn't get him off the hook. If you are forced to go on welfare, they will go after him, and he can either get a job, or get his license revoked (if he has one) and go to jail until he starts to pay up.
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Good Morning click~ You are so good at giving advice on these types of topics! It's great to see you & if we don't run into each other again, Happy Holidays :)
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Try to listen to her kiwi2323,
She does have a knack for helping people in your situation. I hope it gets better; but, listen and act. Good Luck.
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Hi Merlin and thanks! Happy Holiday to you as well!!!!
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CC, you are just the best at combining the present and future when answering these questions. The advice you gave here is so valuable.
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See? That's the problem with having a child with someone you aren't married to.

If he's acting this way now, you better start thinking ahead.

1 - Find a good lawyer ... you're probably going to have to take your "baby daddy" to court, to order him to pay child support. If he doesn't work, at least get him recognized as the father - so that when he DOES get income (even from the state) he has to pay.

2 - Start making friends, so you don't have to rely on him for support. Get to know your neighbors, to see if any of them are trustworthy - in case you need to leave your child with someone, when you go to the hospital.

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Thank you!!!!
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You should try to contact his family. Maybe they would help you. What ever you do please don't get an abortion. I will keep you in prayer :)

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i would get abortion , thanks ill try contacting his family , i tried calling him at his sisters but seems like hes being talk bad about me to her and if anything she try to turn him away from me
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Please I beg you!! Don't get an abortion!!!!! Put the child up for adoption!!! PLEASE!!!!!!
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It's a child...not a thing. :(
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oh sorry i meant i wouldn't **
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Thank goodness!!! Thank you! I almost just had a heart attack :)
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Good luck with his family :)
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FunnyLittleFrog

Can't make him realize anything. Need to be strong and ready to go it alone. Men are like this sometimes. Babies aren't necessarily their thing, although they love them the day to day care is not their thing. Have you told him how alone and scared you feel? Non-confrontational, just explain, but again be strong enough to do on own....:(

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OSantos

Looks like it's over. Dance to the music, pay the piper. Your only recourse is get a lawyer to assure financial support for delivery costs, and child support

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This man does not want a baby and is distancing himself from the situation. You will need a support network of other young mothers. Go to prenatal classes, parenting classes, programs at the library and make friends with neighbours. Talk to a family law lawyer about getting child support. Welfare can help you with resources. Next time you sleep with somebody, make sure they are of better quality.

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I don't know why... maybe it's your wordage and picture.... but, I just have this urge
to wish you,
Happy Easter.
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Merlin, the same to you and your family.
(I guess I just sound like me! R)
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tell him if he doesn't get himself together your gonna make child support a heck alot for him to pay scare him thats what i would do in this case and tell him to grow up he should have never put you threw this and you don't deserve this and try getting a babysitter or nannny or friends to watch you two year old and have a babyshower to get more things and invite alot of people so you have most of your supplies have your friends help you out by taking the stress off of you and getting you out of the house and eat and go looking for baby stuff and try talking to your boyfriends parents maybe they will help since its there grand child or maybe tell there son to grow up and be a man and take responsibility and respect you and his kid by being there

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