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Is it permissable by God's standard to have more then one marriage mate? (according to the Bible)

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Technically if you go by the Bible... it is permissible for MEN to have more than one wife... and to have sex outside the marriage for procreation purposes... Women can not have more than one husband however. There is no where in the Bible that says marriage is between one man and one woman. And if you read the stories many of the most prominent figures in the bible had multiple wives and even slept with women they were not married to in order to have children if the wife/wives had not produced any.

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1 Timothy 3. Look it up.
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You can't read half of a book and understand it in its entirety.
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1 Timothy 3 just says those who would be overseers should be faithful to their wives. It doesn't specify number nor is it talking about the general populace.
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"Let the deacons be the husbands of ONE wife."- 1 Timothy 3:12
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It also never says wives when talking about marriage. This seems to suggest something.
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1 Timothy 3 says all throughout that one man should have relations with and be married to only one woman.

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No, it just says be faithful to his wife, not how many wives. It also isn't a general rule but one of qualifications for "overseers".
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Same as above.
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The Ten Commandments, which are found in Ex. 20:1-17, never address the issue of polygamy and polygamy was part of life in the Old Testament. The New Testament teaches that Christians should honor God through monogamy (1 Cor 7:1-2, 1 Tim 3:2). There are scores of examples of monogamy being God?s preference for man:

Adam & Eve were designed monogamously (Gen. 2:24).
No polygamy existed until 7 generations after Adam (Gen 4:19).
Noah, the last righteous man of his day, had only one wife (Gen 7:13).
Qualification for an elder (Tit 1:6)
Qualification for a deacon (1 Tim 3:12)
Qualification for a worthy widow (1 Tim 5:9)
Every New Testament command for a husband or wife assumes monogamy in the commandments (Mk 10:12, 1 Cor 7:3, Eph 5:33, etc.).
The comparison of Christ and the church to a husband and wife relies on a monogamous design for marriage (Eph 5:22-23).

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The bible is full of examples of polygamists who were "blessed by god". There is no verse anywhere that says only one spouse.

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as stated by jho there are a few verses but they're not applicable to everyone
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None of those qualifying deacons or overseers specifically states one spouse- they state you must be faithful.
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No. GOD never intended for man to have more than one living wife. God also instructed Moses, should a man leave his wife only after he gives her a letter of divorce, because of mans unrighteousness.

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Adultery is the only excuse for a divorce.
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how is adultery the only excuse for divorce?
are you suggesting that abused spouses should stay with their abusers, or that the victims of cheating spouses should stay married and simply accept whatever venereal disease they're given?
And what about when their are children involved? should spouses allow their children to be abused or see a dysfunctional relationship and assume it to be normal function?
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ignore the cheating part lol I started ranting and got carried away and forgot what the subcomment said
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At creation God intended marriage to be one man and one woman. Man, more to the point Kings took more than one wife to justify their adulterous life style.

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Solomon had an insane amount of wives, David had multiple wives, the list goes on ad nauseum.
JHO listed the only people the Bible specifically commands to be the husband of one wife

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1 Timothy 3; 2, 12 says: "The overseer should therefore be irreprehensible, a husband of one wife, moderate in habits, sound in mind, orderly, hospitable, qualified to teach. Let ministerial servants be husbands of one wife, presiding in fine manner over children and their own households".
1 Corinthians 7:2 says: "Yet, because of prevalence of fornication, let each man have his own wife and each woman have her own husband".
Therefore, a man should only be married to one woman.

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From the comments I read, it is well known that Solomon had many wives as well as concubines. But not everyone is aware that, in doing so, he was violating God's clearly stated commandment that the king "must not take many wives, or his heart will be led astray." (Deut. 17:17). It should also be noted that, because of the influence of his foreign wives, Solomon turned to the worship of false gods and
" And The Lord was angry with Solomon, because his heart had turned away from the Lord, the God of Israel; who had appeared to him twice,
and had commanded him concerning this thing, that he should not go after other gods; but he did not keep what The Lord commanded." ( 1 Kings 11:9-10) Revised Standard Version
Solomon's sons suffered the consequences for his actions in later years, you can read further to answer
what happened to Solomon's Kingdom. So, it was not permissible according to the Bible. The ones that did it were going against God, and did what they wanted. Just like today.

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