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Is it normal for a 14year old to have a crush?

i'm 14 and i have friend who is a boy (just a friend .we're not going out or any thing) he's really smart and nice but not nerdy . we've been friends since second grade. but now i feel a little different around him. when we're talking i get a little hot and queasy. and when i look at him i become happy. this might sound weird. is this normal? do i really have a crush? should i tell him? am i too young to have a boyfriend? will this ruin our friendship?( sorry for too many questions.)

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Love has no age, yes maybe you've feeling for him more than a friend , & it;s not weird, it's normal, & you need to make it more clear tell your feelings but before it try him & see how's his reaction
Good Luck :)

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It's normal for anyone to have a crush really .

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Yup it's pretty normal .. Telling him umm idk.. won't hurt to try I guess .. Good luck!

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Totally. And I'm 14 too and already had a boyfriend before. We're teenagers so this is the" right"age to date.:) and I think you should tell him and you never know,maybe he feels the same way too. :)

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Yes it's normal lol im 14 and have a crush on a 13 year old

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yes, normal for ANY age.

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Yes! My sister is 9 and she has one!

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Obviously

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I had a crush when I was like 5! Haha! It's perfectly normal to have a crush when you are 14(:

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Absolutely love doesn't start at a numbered age

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this will not ruin the relationship and yes u can :P

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u 2 a day ago :P
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It is perfectly normal!:)

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Girl, you're going through normal changes, you're maturing! This is very normal, but telling him is a risky thing. That could either go downhill, or uphill. But what I do, is I go straight up to them, yell "hey, I like youuuu" smile, and run away. This always works, and doesn't make anything awkward :D...I only would recommend this for people you're close with, as it is harder with those crushes you really like, but don't really know.

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girl...honey...i had crushing in like 3rd grade!!! YES its normal!

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Yes i had my first crush when i was 11 years old.

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Yes of course, I had my first crush when I was like 9 years old

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Mine was seven. Beat ya!
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Man, I had crushes starting at age seven. No doubt, your twice as old as I was. People start dating around 12-13, so it's definitely normal.

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R you kidding!? Totally normal! I'm 12 and I have had crushes

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you will be liking boys throughout your entire life , and liking someone is typical in that age . so no problem , you can love who ever you want (; age is just a number !

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You can date now. 14 is the youngest age for any1 2 date in my opinion. If you were 13 no way.

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It Normal . You're Not A Weirdo ! Talk To Him About It First It Might Ruin Your Guys Relationship ... But Just Go For It ... YOLO ! (:

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Its perfectly normal, love has no age

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OMG gurl...... of course it is.

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i had a crush when i was 12 so yes its normal..good luck =)

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Yes it's normal, I started having crushes on guys when i was like nine or something. It's not wrong. :3 It's a-okay

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duhhh you can really have a crush any time

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its normal

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No that isn't weird it's normal for you to have a crush you just like him :)

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oh sweetie he is not just a friend he is ur future husband

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yes its normal to have a crush and it may or may not ruin your friendship if you are really friends and you really know him than you know you can trust him and no you arent too young t o have a boyfriend

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Yes!!!!!, I was 8 or 9 when I got my first crush, that is totally normal. But if I were you I would keep it a secret don't tell anyone. Not even your best friend because if you guys get in a argument and she gets really mad at you that is the first thing she will do. You might try to express it and I always tell my mom everything but if she is one of thous people that say " No you can't have a boyfriend until your 30 than dont tell her anything well I hope I helped you out good luck. Bt like other people are saying telling him could go uphill or downhill but you are changing in so many ways at your age just be free.

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I had my first crush in Kinder (5-6)! It happens ALL through your life until you find the right person :3

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yes

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It wouldn't be normal not to

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Girl I was already kissing boys in preschool!!! You`re TOTALLY old enough!

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haha same here (:
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Its pretty normal to have a crush on somebody it comes in our lives and your old enough to have a crush and no it wont destroy your friendship or anything

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if you want a relationship, play hard to get. seriously, drives me nuts. don't let up. ever. makes it so much more interesting if you have secretes he feels he needs to find out. don't lock him out though. and don't you put him in the freindzone.

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lol (: my first crush was when i was 12 years old it's just puppy love until you are an adult

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Oh yes. It is quite normal. I had a boyfriend in kindergarten until he moved at the end of second grade. Dont did me about that -_- .... And mmmm. I'd say wait about a year. And yeah, you should either write him a note or have a friend break it to him.

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yes.

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Of coarse. I do and I'm 12

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ya I've had crushes since I was 3

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Yes, for a 14 year old, it's completely normal to like people. To me, you shouldn't be going out at that age because you should be focusing on school. Not just that, but the whole point of dating is for it to eventually lead to marriage, which probably won't happen, just saying. NO, DO NOT TELL HIM! The only time you tell a guy you like him is if you are 99.9% positive that he likes you back, otherwise, it could potentially ruin your friendship with him. Glad I could help! (And before you say it, no, I'm not an adult. I'm actually around your age)

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YOLO!!!! just do it...

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Girl, you need to hang on to him! Whether its as a friend, best friend, or boyfriend. It definitely sounds like you have a crush on him. My suggestions: watch to see if he acts like he thinks of you the same way you think of him, if he does start dropping some hints you two could be more than friends... See where it takes you. About the friendship, if your friendship is true, you can work through anything. Trust me, if this turns out to be a good healthy relationship, don't let it slip away! The longer you wait until the future, the shorter it will be:)

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thanks a lot!
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sorry i'm 8months late...
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definatley i had my first bf in thrid grade

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Yes I'm 13 and I have had a crush on someone since I was 10

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sure you can have a crush, but if I were you, I would wait until I was older to date. Saves a lot of pain in the long run.

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Yes it's totally normal to have a crush!!!!!!!!!! i agree love has no age but you also should wait till you get married to someone to say you are officially in love, But yeah it's totally normal to have a crush and you should try to hang out with him and maybe when the time is irght tell him you like him

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: ) Yes, sweetheart. This is completely normal. Any age of person can have a crush. Whether your five or sixty-five.
These physical feelings your experiencing are are normal. Though, they themselves do not indicate you have a crush on him. That is for your mind/thoughts to decide. The reason that you have not experienced these feelings until now could be because you are just or about to go through puberty. Though, if you do like him, and have been friends since you were younger, from what you have described I believe you do have a crush on him. Most do not date until they are at least sixteen. However, mind you, it ultimately stands upon your authorities decision. Talk to your authorities about this. In-stead of asking this on ask , perhaps, you should ask your family about it. This is what family is for, honey. If you tell him how you feel it is possible it could ruin your friendship. However, if you have been friends for a long time, even if he doesn't feel the same way it is possibly he may still want to be your friend.
Before making any decisions, keep in mind, you are still young. Talk to your authorities/patents/family about this. Hope you found this helpful.
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