Submit a question to our community and get an answer from real people.
Submit

Ive been living with the same man for 6yrs and cant ever get him to spend time with me, can anyone HELP?

Ive been with my bf for the past 6yrs and we now have a child on the way but for the longest time i have always been there for him suppored him with everything and anything I do everything he ever ask but if i ask him to spend time with just me, he wont he always has his friends over everyday, I cant even get holidays alone with him and Im beyond frusterated!!! Does anyone have any suggestions or good advice????

Report as

Tell him how you feel, it seems like he cares a lot about you from what you said, he may not realize how upset you are about it.
hope that helps.

Helpful (4) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Maybe you should try getting him at his vulnerable. In bed. Or hang out with your guy friends to get him jelly to spend more time with you. Or tell him

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Spend the weekend with me. That will get his attention. Tell him you will return as soon as his friends leave, and he can find time in his schedule to devote to YOU

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Tell him that other guys see you by yourself everywhere you go and theyre constantly hitting on you, at the grocery store, the park, everywhere. He might wanna be around you more if he gets a smidgen of jealousy on his mind, lol.

Helpful (2) Fun (1) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

He mostlikely works among other things and you need to understand that in these hard times its tough trying to work and be romantic at the same time.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Sounds like he's using you and he probably has another girlfriend.

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Point out the ovis to him what you just said.. and ask him while not judging, be prepared for anything.. dont have to like or agree with him but respect him and listing to what he has to say and his feelings..let him know you want to understand ,and let him know what you need out of this relationship..'' maybe you try something different, if hes not spending time with you go to a yoga class or something.. change things up a little.. people get bord of the same ruteen over and over, or try a date that's different from you guys norm or make a date nit if y'all havent gone out in awhil..get him to cook with you or , get your hair done and nails do a nice treat for you.. then give him back rubs and lots of love.. or mayb he feels crowed and needs space.. talk to him.. Just be reall.. dont have to be perfect just be real.. have an honest talk with him and about whats up..

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I agree tell him how you feel us men don't think like women we see what's in front of us most of the time and not beyond that deeper into our significant others feelings plus we get too comfortable aswell so let him know and wine and dine him and treat him like a king he'll love it and hopefully return the favor .

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

tell him that you heard something about him and when he sits to listen to what you heard.....then you start telling him how you feel....

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Im sorry your going through this, i know how it feels but dont make the situation worse by yelling at him, he doesnt need another mom, you can get your point across by talking to him. Tell him you need a "date nite" with him maybe once a week even if it is at home having dinner together watching a movie or take a walk at the beach, hold hands, NOT JUST SEX on your alone time . However if you try these things and he doesnt care then maybe you need to reevaluate your life, you deserve attention love and happiness, dont waste time waiting for a man to pay attention to you, he might just be immature and inconsiderate but i dont know your full situation, only you know details, think about whats best for you and your baby on its way, dont give up without a fight at the same time dont let anyone use or abuse you. Most men like to have their friends around, its normal but some men overdo it and it gets boring fast. if he wants you in his life he def. needs to respect and love you...Good Luck hope it all works out for you =)

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...
Do you have an answer?
Answer this question...
Did you mean?
Login or Join the Community to answer