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I'm 15 years old, and my parents took me to a psychologist because I get frustrated with my them a lot. Read description.

apparently, I get Really frustrated often. They're taking me to a psychologist to try and figure out what's going on in my head. But I have some questions about the psychologist's methods. I've only had one visit. First, sheafs me draw a picture of myself. Then, I had to draw a picture of me and my family doing something together. She asked the time of when we all last did something together. Then I had to write a short paragraph about something that really grabbed my attention. I wrote about wanting to see La Sagrada Familia in Barcelona, Spain. Then we played Scrabble for 45 minutes. Immediately after we finished, she asked me if there was anything that I would want to change about myself. That's all she did. I'm not sure i understand what she was trying to accomplish. Any help?

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She is 'reading' your reactions and your responses and is assessing you psychological process. Simply put .. she is getting feel for how you think. That will help her detect if, in fact you do have a psychological or emotional problem.

It's hard to judge with such limited information .. but 'being frustrated' is common for someone your age .. Its nothing out of the usual .. You are in a transitional period of your life where you are transforming from child to adult. It is a VERY frustrating time .. especially with all the crap young school age kids have to deal with these days.

I'm thinking .. What they may be after is trying to find a way to help you to cope with it.

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We all have this problems with are family and the Psychologist is just trying to help you little by little

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I think she was trying to get to know the inner you without you feeling pressure.

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every teenager gets frustrated often, so the one thing you should do is tell your parents that you do not need a psychologistt, you'll get over it yourself.

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that drawing stuff gives her clues about how you relate to your family. let's just say for example , if you drew yourself tiny and your father larger...she may theorize that you feel overwhelmed by your father's influence.....anyways stuff like that.

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I get what you're saying. But I don't do stuff metaphorically like that. I would've told her that as I was drawing it.
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I'm assuming I you are your parents first child, or your older brother or sister was abnormal in some way, if the psychologist hasn't figured it out already, attitude and frustration is perfectly normal for a teenager and your parents are high strung. The psychologist is just doing random tests to see if you get frustrated or angry with something, plus she is getting paid, so she needs to do something

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I am the oldest of five. But my younger brother, Justin has gone to her before. He was diagnosed with Borderline Aspergers.
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They are not used to teenagers, and they are paranoid because one of your brothers is not right, just remember that there is nothing wrong with you, I know how it is, I have full blown aspergers, but I haven't seen a psychologist in over a year because I'm fine, I just renew my meds with my regular doctor, but it sounds like you are just being a teen
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sounds like a waste of your parents money to me

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shes trying to learn the best way to help you. its perfectly normal.

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All methods, psych 101 but she needs to gather info on you in an informal way. You'd be surprised by how much you reveal going through these basic procedures.

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Next time, tell her you don't need to do these activities (which are usually done for young children) for her to get to know you and you are 15 years old and are perfectly TELLING her what's on your mind. Tell her what you need are some coping ideas for when you get frustrated like journaling or hobbies and then it just needs to be done with. She will have you going there forever. It could very well be a FAMILY problem (which is why she asked you to draw the whole family) and not YOUR problem. I have seen these things backfire so many times. If there is violence going on in your family, then yes there needs to be help. But otherwise this is pretty normal behavior. It doesn't mean some of your behavior is always RIGHT, so work on that part yourself. You know what to do to make things easier. Also, if you're having trouble at school with frustration, it would not be normal to be screaming at teachers or kids like the hulk, but if you are having no problems in school-are you having problems in school AND family?:

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I'm doing fine in school. Above average grades. No violence in family either. My parents said they're not trying to fix me. They're just trying to figure out what's going through mind when I'm frustrated with them.
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Well they sound like great parents and I have raised 3 children and all my children did this from age 13-19 or 20. It's frustrating growing from a child to an adult and it's also hard on the body. Your body is going through so many changes that it affects thinking sometimes and also there are a lot of hormones going on at the same time. It's hard. And it's also hard on the parents because if you are getting so frustrated at home, good parents will stay up at night worrying that they have done something wrong. That's the way good parents are. They worry and worry and worry themselves because you are their child. They love you more than ANYTHING in the world . You are all they really care about though it may seem they care about other things but bills have to be paid and life has to be taken care if. If there is a way you could think about where they are coming from on this it may help you to see how much they love you and maybe you could journal your feelings or exercise or start a martial arts program to help you get your frustrations out. There is someone on here who is s few years older than you only and he says martial arts saved him from getting so frustrated. Once your exercise session is over and you learn how martial arts teaches calmness and peacefulness it may help you. All you need to do is channel your feelings through some other way. Your parents think channeling your feelings through a psychologist is the way right now and this person seems nice and maybe she could help you too. I can tell right here there is nothing wrong with you and you're a good person and there is nothing to change about you. You just need to channel the normal anger of a growing teen into something else. Some say that would be someone to talk to like the psychologists and some say it would be hobbies and martial arts. I know how you feel. It's a scary thing to think your parents don't like you as you are, but I can tell they like you and love you too. They are worried. That's what parents do is they worry . Give them something
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less to worry about by trying to guide these strong feelings into something else. You can learn to do this with the psychologist or you can recognize it and do it on yourself. If you don't think you can, you can work with the person and get some of your feelings out and she will help you learn his to handle them. But this is the thing...you know how to do this at school and how to act, so that means you know how to do it at home if you tried just a little harder. Sometimes teens think they can just "let it all out@ because it's their own family, but it upsets the parents and family deeply, just like it would upset you if they were expressing all their frustrations out loud all the time. They are worried you may grow up to becoming an adult who will still act this way, so they love you and are trying to keep this from happening. But you need to help too. Realize they are worried and no one will ever love you like they do ever and treat them like it. It will help a lot with your feelings because it will turn into a good habit instead of the habit of getting angry easily. My first son did this and I can tell you it worried me almost to death. Anyway, I hoped I helped you see it from both sides and that this helps. :-)
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It might be better not to know.

Of course if she asks you to do something that is wrong or disturbing, you'd tell your parents.

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