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Me and my bf broke up last year right after I got pregnant. We talk sometimes but why do I CONSTANTLY dream about him and what we once had?

We broke up because he had a lot going on with his family back home and I was away from my family with him in cali. He was really stressed out with getting his big run together and I being scared and hormonal kept nagging, crying and complaining about everything and it pushed him away. It's been a year since we have seen each other in person. He hasn't met his daughter yet but I'm planning a trip out there for them to meet. I'm just so confused as to why I'm dreaming about him and the great times & things we did almost every night now.

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Have you consider that you are still in love with him? or maybe is just that because you are planning a trip, your unconscious is working on that... now, if he left you because of the hormonal thing, let me tell you that he probably doesn't love you like you love him... if you were pregnant he should stay with you, no matter what... and maybe he just was looking for excuses... take that into consideration, and you really want your daughter to meet him, how old is she now...? and he never show willing to look for her... think about it...

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Yes, all sad but probably true.
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She is about to be 5 months on the 11th. I just got out of the service and he just got nfl into the country so it's been difficult for us both to see each other. However the breakup was more mutual than anything.
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You must still love him

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I think I do. The more I try convincing myself I don't, the more I'm starting to realize that I do.
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Talk to him & tell him how you feel.
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I have and he says he has feelings for me still but isn't sure what he what he wants anymore.
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because your having his baby has much to do with it. I'm sure he knows he's got a little girl. he may not admit it but I'm sure too, he's had dreams of yawls situation.

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He has admitted to having dreams of me as well but he acts like it's nothing.
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What's confusing...it's either a wish fulfillment dream or just what you are thinking about.

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You are probably still in love with him, it's a big possibility since he's the one who left you. Those dreams might just go away eventually, pray to God, he'll help you out on this, also make sure you plan that trip pretty well, the fact that he left when you were pregnant makes it look like he didn't want the child but remember not everything is what it looks like. Best luck to you on this matter, you'll need it.

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He didn't leave me, it was more mutual. But I he admits he misses me and what we had but acts like it's nothing.
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Well, the main thing you should focus on is your daughter meeting him, if anything goes wrong it's obvious there will be problems. your're being a good mother by getting your daughter to meet her father, any child needs to know who their real parents are. Don't worry about the dreams, they'll go away eventually just pray to God that meet turns out fine, but i believe it will be ok. good luck and nice job on being a mother.
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Thank you so very much.
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You share something special and thats your guys kid together so it may be hard to just forget about him when he has parts in your child that reminds you of him and you never know things maybe different when you guys see each other its obviously you love him and want your family to be together and work out i would keep the faith you never know what may happen things could really go good with you to or he maybe missing you the same way you are to

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Dreams are our subconscious desires
But dreams have classes ,
Dreams / visions/blah blah

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These sound like anticipation dreams, and since you have a child together you will always be linked. If you could not make it as a couple before, what has changed to give you a shot at it this time?

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We both have grown up a lot and still care for each other. We were WONDERFUL together before I got pregnant. But once I got pregnant I changed. He told me that with all the complaining and nagging I was doing, I made him feel unappreciated with all he was doing for me. I pushed him away and I can see that now. So it's mostly my fault.
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You may have learned, and it may be time to give it a try again.
Nagging a man will indeed push him away. It's considered one of the 8 things women do that feels right to them, but is destructive of bonding. You may wish to review the list (it's popular): http://yeahshesaidit.com/2011/03/17/8-things-women-do-to-ruin-a-relationship/
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Thank you so much. That link was a very good read.
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Because you constantly think about him

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Because you are constantly reminded of him when look at your child you see part of him. Try to stay focused on your future without him, and if its meant to be he will come crawling back to you.

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