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Planning on leaving my Fiance

So we get in a small argument, for my next, I'm going to Ireland with my family (mother, brother, stepfather) even though I said I wouldn't. I invited her and offered to pay for her multiple times. She told me it was fine (in a vindictive tone). Then told me that she would be going to Vegas with her mother. When I asked to come along she refused. I'm 23 and am looking for something serious. I'm tired of the women I date to play games and mess with my head. I won't ruin her vacation, but I am leaving her afterwards. If she wishes to test my patients and play with my emotions, she needs to go.

My question is... When would be a good time after? Should I do it right away just for the initial shock... or argue about it so she can come to acceptance that she messed it all up?

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Separate before either holiday happens so that you both have recovery time while away with family and are busy with things.

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i wouldnt stall .

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But why?
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if you stall it makes your emotions of not wantiing to be with her worse then it will make it obviouse you dont want to be with her and make things alot worse in the end were as if you do it asap it will shock her and wont drag it on as long>
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so when you wanna visit family its ok but when she wants to you wanna break up with her? yeh i dont think you are looking for something serious

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On the contrary, she's going without me, she just wants to spite me... this isn't the first time and chances are she's not going with her mother. It's most likely with her friend. It's never a sober moment between them. Likewise with her mother. Either way it raises suspicion. I wanted her to come with me to Ireland. I see my family once, maybe twice a year. Our situation, although complicated, is not for you to understand. You're also off topic.
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i was pretty on topic


but if she is going behind your back with friends then you should just dump her


(kind of important to add that part)
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The quest was How I should go about leaving...
That's the plan.
(neglected to say what my suspicions were)
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well if you do it before theres a risk she wont enjoy her vacation but at the same time if you do it before her vacation might help her cheer up.

or you can wait and giver her time to think on her vacation and she might break up with you
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That's the thing. She shows no intention of leaving me.. no matter how shady she acts. I for one am tired of B.S.
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I would bite the bullet and get it over with when she gets back.

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Any particular reason why?
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just leave don't think

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Were it so easy... lol
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For a 23-y-o MAN, you certainly are full of the dramatic.
Just dump her.
Quit calling (texting, emailing, skyping, etc) now. Ignore her: don't answer or reply to her calls (texts, emails, etc).
It's time to move on, dude.
Right NOW.

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Drama is an art, sir. Haha, more or less she may have rubbed off on me. I was very quiet before meeting her.
Thanks.
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Ok. Dumping her is a good idea. But, definitely not like that. At least give her common courtesy and inform her of your feelings. It's just plain rude to ignore her. It really hurts and it's confusing to not know why or what happened. Don't do that. Be a gentleman and treat her well during the break up.
Also, she's probably mad that you changed your mind about Ireland and is trying to pretend that she isn't mad about that. She's trying to be strong, while you'd be gone.
Ireland is amazing, by the way! Visit Blarney Castle and kiss the stone! It's so scary, but it's worth it.
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I'd break it off before she leaves, so she can let loose in Vegas.

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Good point. No sense in making her suffer.
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You may be surprised she doesn't get that upset.
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Does she do this a lot? Or more like certain times of the month? She sounds annoying... But just making sure.. Was she PMSing? Also, talk to her about it before you guys leave for your vacations also,

She's your fianc? Was she like this when she was just your girlfriend?

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I wouldn't prolong it, tell her your moving on with your life ASAP, You definitely don't need to waste any more of your time with her.
Best of luck!
Enjoy your vacation too!

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Well this is a toughie. If she is jealous about you going to Ireland then really that is her issue with her insecurities, & jealousy. I can understand her for feeling left out about the whole Ireland situation, but thought it was very immature of her to throw it in your face that she is going to Vegas with her mom to make you jealous out of spite or what not. A true keeper would say it be like "oh have fun hunny send me pictures on your phone and keep tabs with me" even though deep down she may be upset, but isnt going to get jealous over it. Just shows she isnt emotionally stable. I was the same way when I was 23 and still very much immature as her.

In my honest to God opinion, if you are still in your 20's...i wish i never had relationships in my 20's and just focused on myself and just casually dated with no strings attached. Seriously, i would have been able to have fun with me and my family. (Everyone is different though.) Work on building your career and be 110% finacially stable so then you can have the woman (not girl) of your dreams when she see's you have a really nice house, car, job and etc. Hate to sound shallow. Just saying because this man i am dating is a keeper he has already offered to help me out by buying a car for me to use and is working very hard to move from Atlanta to PA in a month. So excited I am!!! If we work out (which i hope) I would never do anything but to keep him satisfied in anyways lol...i am old school like that.

So whats the deal with the fiance?

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well things happened. I have pride issues and I'm old school with a bit of fusion. I've been hard on her, and I was really angry and immature when I asked this question. I wish I could take this question down. The truth is, I'm just stressed. She ended up choosing not to go. I'm not leaving her anytime soon.
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