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why do I always feel left out, or replaced.?

my friends, their.good friends.but... sometimes I feel left out.or.replaced by this.girl alex. help.?!?! is.this.normal for.middle.school.?

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VanillaCalm

This is the time to weed out friendships but also build good solid ones. I say this because as you get to your 20s -30s and start working, real good friendships would be hard to find. This is the time to not whine but get into hobbies and activities you enjoy and MEET people. The more you get out, the more you meet people and people with at least one thing in common with you. To maximize your chances of meeting more friends and once you establish some outlets, start to plan in your diary date nights with friends. Ask people to bring a friend or two and they will bring more people. Your goal is to keep the friendships rolling and not spend too much time with any one person. Once you do like certain people, spend more time with them but keep inviting new people every 2 weeks.

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Continued: (This could be a coffee night or cinema with friends and go in 4 to 10 people groups). Remember the people you invite may hardly know your friends never mind know you (could have met them in the last hour!) but you're main aim is to be create social networking. The main thing is to keep having night outs or day outs with friends. Once you do this, people will keep inviting you places. The important thing is to never ask if someone 'Would like to come' ...simply say ' You should come...and bring some more friends.'
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Of course. School is always going to be that way. I was always the outcast and quiet girl in school. I did have a few girl-friends, but they did leave me out of a lot of things. I have always had guy-friends, but I hung out with the girls instead. In grades 9-11, I started to hang out more with the guys, because I could fit in more with them, plus there was less drama. They did accept me for who I was, and what I looked like. Having guy-friends were so much better than having girl-friends.

It is extremely normal though and if your friends leave you out of a specific activity or group, then you should find new friends. Those who leave you out, are not true friends at all.

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im quite "popular" its just the group of.girls I hang.out with sometimes. but thanks tho.
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And what makes you popular? Listen, I'm not trying to be mean, but if you just call yourself, " popular," because you're hanging out with those girls, then you are labeling yourself, which is a bad thing. The girls in your group only care about boys, being perfect, and they can really care less about other people. Some popular girls are very nice, but it seems like that group of girls are not being nice at all, and you need to ditch them. Don't be like those girls who are absolutely stuck-up. Plus, there is more drama between them than with anyone else.

You seem like a very nice and caring girl yourself, and those girls will only change who you are. Don't let that happen. If you want to continue to hang out with them, don't let them change who you are as a person.
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no, they really dont care aout boys, or makeup. their just girls. i am popular. but i only hang out wih those girls. i just moved here like 2 years ago, i made other fried. but they are kinda my best friend. but i really dont know why. and what makes me popular is that i am nice to people. i stick up for people. i help alot of people...and thanks.!(:
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Well then, you shouldn't have trouble making new friends. You seriously do not need friends that will make you feel left out in specific situations. Honestly, they won't care once you're out of their group. You can say that they will care, but they won't. They have their own lives to worry about. They're not your best-friends if they don't treat you right... and leaving you feel left out, is not what a best-friend does. You need to listen to me, or else you would have to deal with your own drama. Also, make sure that you talk to your, " best-friends," about how you feel when they leave you out of certain situations.
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Yes. Middle school is hard and lonely. The only things worse are high school and adulthood. Sorry. ;0

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ya girl it happens to the best of us. trust me people do weird thing during this time in their life so its normal to feel the way u do. i got your back though k(:

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Yeah, it is. We go thru this kinda drama at that age for the experience. You later find your place and where you need to be. For example, i only hung out with 3 ppl at that age. Always felt left out. As i got older, i learned i was a natural at music and found people who love the music i liked. We grew on each other, became a band and was awesome. So take that example and tell yourself, things get better in time.

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