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Help please! How do I get my 12 year old out of bed each morning?

it's a fight every morning! I wake up at 6am to get her up and spend 30 minutes trying to wake her. she physically will not get out of bed. I have tried threatning taking things away, talking to her about how disrespectful this is considering I wake up with her every morning. her friends mommies don't get up with them. I'm so frustrated and I told her from here on out she will be getting herself up and she threw a fit and started crying that she likes me up with her in the morning. is this too harsh? I honestly think she's to big (12 in junior high) to depend on me to wake her up every morning. please don't bash, I'm at a loss and just need a few good suggestions. I hate fighting with her every morning.

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This worked wonders for a friend's child of the same age:

Inform her that, starting Monday, you will simply wake her up but she is responsible for getting up and getting ready. No fighting, no threatening. Tell her exactly what time she's leaving the house. If she's late to get up, you simply take her out of the house in her PJs or with unbrushed hair or whatever it is she hasn't finished. Even if she refuses to go to school, get her OUT of the house. Make her get outside. She'll make sure to get up on time from here on out.

She is too old to be fighting over it. I was getting myself up at 5 at that age. She's probably doing it because you're giving her so much attention. One wake up call should be it. You can set a REALLY obnoxious alarm in the room too - at the other end of the room from where she's sleeping, so she HAS to get up to turn it off.

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Tried the alarms but not your other suggestion! Thanks, I will try this
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bradahh
Great advice! Haha! A 12 year old girl would freak if you make her go out in public with unbrushed hair!
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or walk in her room with a wooden sppon and a metal pot and start banging she will get up mad as hell but aat least shes up
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lol ;)
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Or get the hubby or other siblings to help simply flip the mattress off the bed. Want to go back to bed? Sleep in the floor. (I bet at least one parent has done this.)
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i did that to my sister like 2 weeks ago i laughed until i almost peed my pants i was going to b late for work messing with her so she fell asleep on the sofa and i flipped the whole sofa she was mad the whole ride to work im laughing and shes mad
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or throw ice cold water on her she will wake up no lie .. every one had that one done
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My parents would get the dogs super excited and then throw a treat onto me if I slept in. Crazy dogs are a sure-fire way to get someone up!
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Pull off all the blankets and pour water on her face if I gets WAYY outta hand

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Make sure it's ice cold
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No, you are not being TOO harsh. I get outta bed at 6 each morning. I can get outta bed a 3:30 in the morning W/o fighting. you need to be Swift in your actions.

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Swift in my actions? How
So?
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stage a fire drill in your house my family do it idk you
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XD nice one
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thank you
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I think it's really a great thing that she want's you up with her every morning, i guess she miss her Mom. How ever to try to solve this issue i suggest that you spend time with her at night and try to make her sleep early, eat healthy food can be a good help as well. Try to create motivation for waking up early like making her favorite pan cake or maybe going on a spin before you drop at school. Or watching something funny together. promise a new activity every morning till she automatically wakes herself up everyday.

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my mom still calls me up in the morning..../.but i don't make much of a fuss......but some days , yes, i would feel really tired and all......
when i was bit more younger, i used to be just like ur daughter..... it would be such a mess getting me off bed.......but if there is school i usually find it okay to get up.......
try switching off the fan/ac or what ever it is that which makes her comfortable and leave after calling her a few times....my mom used to do that to me.....even though i used to put the switch back my mom used to come back and switch it off again...... but then i would probably be up..... u could also try sprinkling cold water on her face.... she might make a fuss, but just laugh and keep a smile...... it might solve it......:]
good luck.........

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haha good luck. we teens/preteens like our beauty sleep
just give her a dollar every day she gets up without a fight. its like dog training but for teens, dont tell her what your doing otherwise it wont work. My dad taught me the trick and it worked for my older brother, so it could work for you. and soon she wont need the dollar shell just get up

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Don't wake her up, but she gets in trouble for being late. Makes it up to her.

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pour a bucket of cold water on her head. guarantee she will get up.

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bradahh
That was getting off easy in my parents house.
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heard that on getting that ass whipped
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bradahh
Oh yea! Many of busted paddles, lips, and egos in my parents home. That's what's missing in today's society.
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start slamming things im old school like the 90's my parents went hard on me and im a girl .. kinda glad
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mateo, late 50s and early 60s with my mother beating the hell outta me
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edward, im a girl they went hard yet easy i like to sleep my parents noticed that pots and pans were my friend not going to lie i had a moment or 6 where my dad beat me until i was bleeding and skin was falling off i got beat with a bull whip , yeah those hurt ... pain is nothing
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I hear ya. my mother used a switch and no matter where it landed, it drew whelts and blood. she didn't care where I was hit with it. last time my beloved mother hit me, I was13 years old and she hit me across the back with a baseball bat. reckin I outgrew switches, lol
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put her on a bed time so that she will be able to wake up if you go to sleep late your going to want to sleep late but when you go to sleep early your going to wake up early it always happens to me I'm sure it will help

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Her bed time is 930 every night and we stick to it seeing she has a 3 and 4 year old siblings that go to bed at 800. We have that one on one time before she goes to bed too.
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When I was that age I was going to bed at 8:30 at the latest... And are you positive she is Sleeping? Make sure here electronics have a bed Time too! Make sure she isn't staying up doing something else after she closes her door
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I would say you need to be a little more harsh. I was afraid to pitch a fit with my parents at that age... Too many busted lips had resulted from attempts in the past. At twelve it's time to start learning some responsibility and self reliance. You're not always gonna be there to do things for her...she'd better start learning that now. I'd say tell her she has three times that you will try and wake her up...after that she is on her own. No fussing, no fighting...she is not a baby and you're not an alarm clock. If she fails to wake up in time for school there are punishments. She shouldn't get rewarded for doing what's expected of her. Her reward is knowing she is doing better on her own or a sense of teenage independence. (if there was such a thing) Stick to your guns. Good luck.

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Make sure she's getting enough sleep and it isn't bad temper brought on by tiredness. The average kid her age needs between 8:30-9:15 hours sleep so if she needs to be up for 6am she needs to go to bed some time between 8:45pm and 9:30pm. Maybe encourage her to settle in with a book at 8:45-9:00?

Teach her to get organised so her morning is relatively stress-free (get her to pick out her clothes and pack her school bag the night before). So all she has to do is eat breakfast, wash, get dressed and go.

Get her an alarm clock!

If she has a younger sibling or siblings who are still at home this might be motivated by her feeling jealous? Is she getting enough positive quality time or is she feeling a bit left out and is using this as a way to get attention? Make sure she doesn't get any kind of dramatic reaction out of you (if she's uncooperative in the morning the results will be *boring*) but make sure you set aside some good one on one quality time when she's behaving well.

It's nice to see your family in the morning - when I was that age I had an alarm and got myself ready for school but my mother would also bring me some juice and say good morning.

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She goes to bed at 930, this means she gets into bed at 9 and reads for 30 minutes before going to sleep. Sometimes she can't even last that long and falls asleep. She has everything packed up and ready to go as well. She basically has absolutely no drive in the morning. We have our one on one time every night after her sister an brother go to bed at 745ish or so. Thank you for your suggestions though. :)
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You're not being too harsh at all, seems like she knows if she throws a fit and starts crying she gets her way. maybe you need to put your foot down a little harder

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I know I need to! She has a 3 and 4 year old siblings too. Maybe I'm babying her too much?
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Maybe a little, right now all I can say is she's sitting an example for her siblings.
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That's what I said.
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To my daughter and husband. Ugh.
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She's only twelve, better to teach her now while it can't hurt her
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Dr lawless has a book how to have a new kid by fri he has a lot of great ideas like someone else said take her to school in pjs another idea he had is let her sleep in and take her to school late and let the school do what they do for being late (detention or whatever) my son is 5 (6 in June) he refused to get dressed one morning told him he better get dressed or going to school with nothing. Time for the bus came I carried him downstairs he had his clothing in his hands and put him on the porch in just his underwear he got dressed pretty fast! Sometimes tough love is what you have to do. Stick to your guns momma! Say what your going to do and do it! No chances. If you don't get up in 2 min then this is going to happen and in 2 min do it. Also if she is having a hard time getting up maybe she needs to go to bed a little earlier too some kids need more sleep then others

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my mother used to come in my room when i was sleep and start slamming pans together to get me up just as i was getting into a good sleep that was the last time i was every over sleeping im 21 and when i feel like im bout to over sleep i remeber my mom doing that and i jump up and get ready

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Try music have her alarm clock have music or whatever song she enjoys

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Take away all fun time

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Seduction

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Make sure there are no "late night distractions" in her room. No TV, no computer, no phone, nothing that is more fun to do than sleeping. (We've had to inventory all the flashlights in the house so there was any late night reading.)

You will also have to have a rule of "light's out" at 9:00 pm. So your bedtime routine might need to moved up

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Its not too harsh. Shes twelve. She needs to start growing up however much she doesnt want to. Get her a nice alarm, let her pick it out. Sit down with her and explain exactly what you expect and what the consequences will be and STICK TO IT no matter how big a fit she throws. Grounding, loss of electronics, loss of allowance, etc. Shes plenty old enough to get out of bed on her own tho ONE personal wake up call wouldnt be bad if you have the time. She needs to know that you arent there to cater to her every whim tho and that with age comes more responsibility.

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Cold water on her. Tickle her silly till she gets up.

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Small glass of cold water in her face should do the trick, I also like pulling all the blankets and covers off the bed. If your trying to get her to do it herself, place 3 alarm clock in her room, away from her bed and synchronize them to go off in the morning. This way she has to get out of bed and shut each of them off.

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I was one of those kids who COULD NOT wake up! Both of my parents were major early birds. Many times I would dream I was up and getting dressed only to open my eyes and see the ceiling! My mom would yell and scream and I truly wanted to wake up but I wasn't successful. HOWEVER, something really worked. She got me a clock radio. I was able to to wake up enough to roll over and drink the orange juice I put on my night stand the night before. My blood sugar was raised and my brain started to function. I did much better. To this day, and I'm a grandma, I struggle with waking up and juice is the ticket. We do WAY too much for our kids and cripple their independence for their future. You are NOT harsh at all. My favorite helpers throughout the years of raising children were two books. Parenting With Love and Logic and Parenting Teens With Love and Logic both books by Foster Kline & Jim Fay. These books and classes, if available in your area, prepare children and adolescents for responsible adulthood. It's a real fun way to parent. You can also access information on loveandlogic.com Blessings to you, Grandma

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i read a fact once, that if you put a sleeping person's hand in warm water they just pee in their clothes without feeling.. so do it once to let her try it and then always warn her that you would do the same if she doesnt wake up.

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Wake her up once and inform, her that you are not responsible for the consequences of her actions.If she decides she doesnt want to get up and go to school,she will of course ask for a note, dont give her one.Explain to her that everyday she is late getting up (set a time) that is one day she is grounded,to her room--and i mean remove the phone,the stereo,any game boy,ps3 etc. she is allowed to work on her school work,no sleeping,until bedtime. her dinner in her room.if she has no school work,assign her some-give her a book and make her write a report on it. If my room wasnt clean by the time my dad got home,id get woken up at 3 am to clean. When I was having trouble getting up,,my parents did the same to me. I was grounded to my room without tv,,stereo,gam,es,etc.i figured i could sleep,lol not a chance.i learned quickly. parents are too easy on kids these days.

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