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Im 40 years old I'm newly single and dating once again. It seems Most women have children that I want to date. Is that a deal breaker?

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The best way you can judge a woman (with children) is how she takes care of them. Does she go out a lot a night and leave them with Sitters or does she devote her time and energy to their growth and well-being? How she treats her children and runs her home is how she'll treat you. She treats them with honor it means she'll treat you the same. Plus women who have children have much different insight. They are responsible for the lives of another. Thus is why my husband said he fell in love with me. He said my child's bath toys were all set in a basket by the tub and his room was all organized and kept clean and he said the house was full of love . However , be realistic. If she had quite a few children and the ex is calling and showing up drunk and it all seems like nothing but a mess of drama, that's what life you'll get. So at first just quietly observe (notice I said quietly -don't interfere with opinions if discipline!) and watch carefully how it just "feels" to you. If it feels good and right, then give it an HONEST try.

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Correction-don't interfere with opinions and discipline with her children. Many men try and discipline another woman's children . Don't do that!! She is protective . If the relationship develops, then later you can offer opinions on it if she asks.
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Absolutely wonderful advice!
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Well done, Sincerity. And blade, you are right on both counts !
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tattoogirl
Awesome advice girl!!
If I could give you 100 stars I would!! :-)
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cowgirlfun
@Sincerity, once again gives AMAZING advice!!!! :)
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Thanks Marjorie :)
It's a great way to start the day
Being told I'm right that is
Very unusual event lol
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Seriously3
Great answer, Sin.
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Thank you friends so much for the kind comments! :-)
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Awesome Sincerity!*******
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Thank you Whitt! You're always so kind to me.
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Your answer rocked my world. That doesnt happen often......
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Thank you 4eva.
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You deserve Tons and Tons of kindness Sincerity!!!:-).
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Big GIANT star for you!!!!!!
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Thank you pitbullmom. That's a great compliment from you!
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awwww shucks...... ;o)
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TheHarem
Sincerity.......I just came across this question by accident and read your answer. If I told you your answer was amazing, I would not be doing it justice. So I'll just keep my mouth shut and add another star to your pile. :)
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freddymercury, you are the only one that can decide if it is a deal breaker. The woman is not going to give up her child after all to date some one, so if you can't deal with a woman that has a child, then you should not be dating them. There are a lot of 40 year old women that do not have kids.

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good answer!!!!!
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australis
excellant answer
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That is entirely up to you. :) Is that a deal breaker for you?

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It shouldn't. It's more like an option to you. Take it all or have nothing at all. You should be running away from a women who dump her own kids for you or any other man frankly speaking. If she kept them that shows you of what she is made of. There are many women who are single and don't have kids FYI.

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I believe that you should look for the woman that you want with or without children. Jus 1 or the other don't put women through that sort of Rejection.

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Well if she has kids that's part of the package.

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a deal breaker is an individual list. You need to decide.

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Hi everyone I see your profile pic
The song lyrics..
'So take it! Take another piece of my heart now haven't lol
If your profile pic isn't
Janice Joplin it's an amazing
lookalike.
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*everytime not everyone
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Break it, break another a little piece of my heart now darlin yeah yeah yeah.
lol.
its Janis.
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My fav Janis track. Breaks MY heart listening to it. Even more so seeing her perform it.
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I love watching her passion in performances. I missed talking to you on here, I'm glad you're back.
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Thank you my cherished friend. A sad day when the world lost Janis.
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omgoodness yes.
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You know what? I'm gonna youtube her.
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didn't I make you feel, like you were my only man? Didn't I give everything that a woman possibly can? honey you know I did!!!
LOL, I love JJ.
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I wanna do Piece Of My Heart at karaoke.
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do it. I wanna hear you play & sing.
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I gotta learn the chords first. I learn by ear, tho, coz I can't read music much.
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Look no farther for an answer than Sincerity..
Deal breaker? Not giving her a star and acknowledging those who've taken the time to answer your question

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tattoogirl
Very true blades!! & morning!!!
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You tell him, blades!
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Well said Blades!!:-).****
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Free stars to whom ever answers the question lol!
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Stars all around my treat!!!!!!
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Lol pitbullmom!
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tattoogirl

I could give no better advice than Sincerity!!! :)
She hit it right on the mark!!!

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Hi Tat
Sorry I missed you
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tattoogirl
Np blades...we are cool !!! :)
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Thanks how is you week thus far?
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tattoogirl
Well after work tue night I knew I add to do something on Wednesday that I did not want to do but it had to be done. So I got myself all worked up & got a massive migraine. Wednesday I spent all day in bed until I had to go in get this done so I got it done. I woke up better today. Now I'm going to work soon have to work till 8 o'clock tonight so I'll be getting ready to leave soon I hope. I hope your day goes well and I will see you tonight probably later on ! Actually depends on how my day goes...gotta be back there tomorrow at 9am!!
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Sorry Tat..
sending good thoughts your way for a great day and less stress
Rest and get felling better
Bye friend
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Sincerity already has the answer you need!

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Morning cowgirl! How are you? I can see you are rooting for the wrong team!? lmao!!! :-P
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If you feel like you are ready to become a father . and want children.

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Why would you want to date her children?

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Funny!
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It depends on how se takes care of her children of children. She she has several kids just think about the long term how do you fit into that life? At times women has drama with the kids father and if she's a real woman it wouldn't involve you. You have to think about what you can and cannot deal with but don't judge only because of kids without knowing the situation. Also, if your just dating and you don't see anything long term than just play the field and date. :-)

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If you are asking you aren't ready for the package. At that age you will find women with children, date ones that don't.

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If it wasn't, would you be askin?

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i agree. This guy is unsure.
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Remember what I said about slops?!?
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EEw, that's more than gross.
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hehehe!
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lol.
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Man, you shoulda seen your face!!!!! lol.
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You should av seen my face!!!
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I'm grinning again. lol.
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