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How do i stop overt thinking everything?

i have been over thinking everything for a few months now, whether it'll be if i feel sick i automatically think that its really bad and im going to die.. or getting stressed over nothing. its actually really not a nice thing to deal with.. or if i talk to my crush, i think in my head ive said something stupid and he wont ever talk to me again. someone please give me a few tips on getting over this. please!!!

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Try to relax, what your experiencing is anxiety. It will only get worse in time if you don't correct it while you can now. We all experience anxiety and stress from time to time, some more so than others. Your going to have to teach yourself not to stress over every little thing and take on the mentality in a sense of (whatever happens... happens). I know it sounds easier said than done but have faith. When you start to have racing thoughts and feel yourself worrying about thing's beyond your control, stop and take a deep breath and tell yourself... everything is going to be okay and so what if I said something that may have sounded dumb to another... nobody is perfect and it's not the end of the world. When you feel sick and your mind starts to tell you your going to die, say to yourself... no I'm not, it's just in my head, I am going to be fine. The mind controls everything but you have to control it, not let it control you, so to speak. Try to stay as stress free as you can, stress can cause a major overload on our brains and the only way it knows how to cope is to go into panic mode which in return causes a person to experience anxiety/panic attacks. I feel unless you learn to relax and chill out, your anxiety is only going to get worse and escalate into you having panic attacks because your borderline close already. Be strong. I wish you the best.

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thankyou x
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stop think what others will think, be yourself and see that you are well made as you are, think why you are afraid of death, maybe there is something

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Being overboard is not uncommon. Treating that is a simple thing now, with many fantastic results. If you have no insurance, they do have the health department that will help you get this resolved. GOod LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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This is going to sound stupid, but it's from my own experience:
... Eliminate all caffeine from your diet.
-- The combined total of all the caffeine in sodas, coffee, some teas, and definitely in energy drinks can make some people (like me) really paranoid, or hyper-thinking stuff, and increase any small anxieties you already have into much bigger ones.
It'll take a minimum of 3 days (maybe more) for your body to wind down completely, if you are really sensitive to caffeine. (Btw, I didn't used to have any trouble like this with caffeine before -- somehow it just developed over time. Go figure.)
If you do feel calmer without all the caffeine, either avoid it altogether in the future or limit it to how much you can get away with without getting all "wound up" again.
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If that doesn't calm you back down after being off caffeine for at least 4-6 days, then try doing exercise, or yoga, or maybe meditation -- all are good to relieve general stress, which can exaggerate normal situations in your head.
If none of these work within a couple weeks, or if it starts getting a lot worse over time, maybe consider seeing a counselor or some local support group for teens. Talking with other kids helps you see that everybody deals with stuff like yours, and that can be really reassuring.
These thoughts are all normal, but yeh ... when you find yourself gnawing at them, constantly, it gets old.
Hope this helps/works ... Good luck! :)

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thankyou, i tend to take things just a little too far aswell..
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I am going through the same exact thing. This sounds great to me but since you've been through it can you please talk to us about it? I mean how it happend and from where you got the strengh to face it, and weather or not were you alone in all this? Am sorry i asked too much but am really lost and stressed here
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You're welcome, livrose97. I've got those tendencies, too. I've been told "you worry too much" a lot of times. Lol!
@BlueLife -- no problem! The caffeine sensitivity thing took me by surprise. I loved the stuff, but years later it turned on me. At one point, just within a few months, I became really Ferret-hyper and a friend said "what's going on? Are you on something or what?" -- it took me a bit to figure out the caffeine thing, but it was definitely what was pushing my brain to a somewhat whacked space.
Beyond that minor "chemical" experience, though, I've had some really really tough spaces in my life, and sometimes had absolutely no one at all to turn to. (I have people, now, though)
That's when it's hardest, though -- when you're stressed and whatever else and you don't know if you're over-reacting or just responding reasonably to a really crappy situation.
When I was all alone, I joined a support group. I really needed the feedback and it really helped me. Also, it was a group led by a professional counselor so I wasn't worried about getting twisted up with bogus advice.
Nowadays, I have people I trust to turn to for feedback (or just to listen), but even so -- if I get into another bad space again, I wouldn't hesitate to find another support or therapy group. :)
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Is that what you were asking?
I talk/write a lot, so if I missed the point just let me know. :)
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Where i am frm there is no such thing :( an hour ago i've been through something and i swear i've had an energy drink before it. I felt so shaky and worried and all the bad thoughts hunted me down that i cried as i was praying asking God to prevent what ever bad thing is about to happen. I feel little better now but i know it doesn't last.
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Thank you for replaying this though. it's good to know .... not that am happy you have it too God No! but i men it's something curable and known you know :)
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Ok, I think I'm hearing you ..
Well, the energy drink can make any anxiety worse -- for anybody, to some extent, but to a really bad level for some people. You might want to avoid those completely and see if it helps, over all.
If you're still having trouble dealing with stuff (after calming from no caffeine), it's normal. But having people you can trust to talk to really helps. Can't you think of anybody safe?
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Hey, I'm glad to share. The biggest thing that ever helped me was to find out I wasn't the ONLY one! :D
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Am an orphane. I have no family but my hubby (who can never understand this) and my kids are way too young to share thm this burden
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that is sweet of you :)
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My parent (Mom) is long gone, too, but luckily my hubby is a rock and does understand. (Keeps me grounded when I start to "run in circles", as he puts it.)
But before him, and before I finally found a couple of (reliably trustworthy) friends, I was lost, stressed, and totally alone in the world, so I can kind of understand, I think.
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Are you part of a religion that might have either a counseling person, or better yet, a women's group?
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Sometimes, something as mundane as a sewing or knitting circle (or class) can be a great outlet, too.
(Just offering alternatives ..)
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You may have left already, but long-winded talker that I am, I just had another thought ...
You said you had kids.
If you had a baby in the past year or so, you might even have some issues with postpartum depression. That's "baby blues" to a lot of people -- but it's a serious condition that can alter your body chemistry and really really REALY mess up your emotions, mood swings, or even give you really depressed (or even suicidal, in worst case) thoughts.
It can happen no matter how many kids you've had before with no problems. It can strike immediately after delivery, or months later!
-- and the thing is, it is totally curable! Sometimes hormone medications, or other medications, but fixable. You'd have to see a gynecologist to check it out, and I'd recommend a female doctor if at all possible. Male doctors in many places don't really understand the potential severity of it, but women doctors more often do. In the US (here), women sometimes have to shop around doctors before finding one who "gets it".
.... Anyway, just wanted to put that out there, just in case. :)
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Time for bed, here, but I'll check back here tomorrow, in case you comment further. Take care! :)
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