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How do I tell my friends and family I'm atheist, and more importantly should I?

I'm mostly concerned with telling my grandma who is the super religious type, goes to church ever Sunday, prays before every meal kind of person. And my best friend and her mom, I've known my best friend sense pre-k but her family I'm is the church every Sunday pray before dinner type. Her mom is like my second mom but recently my friend had a "crush" on this guy who is an atheist and her mom called him an immoral prick. I'm not worried so much about telling my dad because he has already told me that my religion is my choice and that no one can make it for me and that's why we don't go to church. I'm just not sure how to tell them, or if I even should.

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Tell them all, and let the cards fall where they may. Better to tell them, than to lie about your beliefs or lack thereof. It's deffinately better than them finding out through the grapevine.

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Just tell them,if they really love you they will understand :)

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I think that they should understand, I mean you're entitled to your own opinion and religion is a very hard topic and you're young, they should understand!

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Yes & tell them.

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Just tell them, straight up. It's only a belief. They'll get over it. It's not like it makes you a worse person than they are, even if they think differently. As I said, it's simply a belief.
You should tell them yes, else they find out a different way. Let them deal with it.

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Tell them way you think you are... Its going to be hard on them at 1st like it is for you right now, but If they really love you and you love them y'all get past the difference.

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tell them. if they dont accept you, then thats their loss.

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Well dont worry I have a freind just like you shes one 2 but she to hasnt told her parents so all you have 2 is stay calm and dont worry just go and talk to them yhey will understand and 1 q and a real qick y dont you believe

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You should be able to freely express your opinion. However religion is such a touchy subject you may want to keep it to yourself to not create any problems.

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Yes, better to tell them. And to let them know, than them find out.!(;

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You should tell them. They should accept you for you and what you believe in.

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Tell your parents, wait until a while before you tell your friends and grandma

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Ask yourself, whose business is it anyway? If these folks love you, they will love you regardless. Save yourself trouble, if there is likely to be some. I too am an atheist, and I've never had a need to proclaim it to anyone. Your beliefs are your business.

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You tell whoever you want to tell, when you are ready to tell them. Some will tell you that you are wrong and some will accept you as your are. Just make sure you let the ones you love know that no matter what you still love them.

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it's your choice I mean its not really gonna change anything between you guy or at least it shouldn't unless they're judge mental I told my family in atheisist and they don't understand why but they accept it although they weren't happy about it at first

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In my opinion your religious beliefs are between you and your deity. You don't owe people an explanation. You can be respectful of their beliefs and hopefully they can be respectful of yours. You share only what you wish.

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I have to agree with everybody else. Just tell them.

One thing you might like to think about though is calling yourself "an atheist". The word has unpleasant connotations in the US -- look at the way it's bandied about on Ask. Labels aren't all that important. Why not just tell them you don't believe that stuff any more.

If you've had religion drilled into you since you were a small child it's going to take a while to pump your subconscious clean. When you finally get there you'll have a wonderful sense of freedom.

Good luck with your "coming out". :)

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Is it really that difficult to just say you no longer believe? It just seems to trivial to me....I mean you have to choose to believe so what is the big deal about choosing not to?
I am very glad I never had this problem.
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I think it's a big deal for somebody who comes from a religious family, Yosey. When I first joined Ask I was staggered by the intensity, and intolerance, of religious belief in the US. On this side of the Pacific it barely rates a mention. Nobody gives a hoot whether you're religious or not and religious bell-ringers gbet pretty short shrift. From what Taise says, it's pretty much the same in Canada.
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I must be Aussie/Canadian then.........I just do not get it......
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