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why does everyone try to change my believes but they get mad when I give my opinion?

I live in Utah and all my friends are Mormons and I love them but they are always trying to change me and make me Mormon too. they even write about it in my birthday cards... but I don't care, it doesn't bother me at all because they won't be able to change the way I think and i love seeing how other people think and know different cultures. But every time I say something about why I don't believe in god and explain what I think they get mad, they don't want to hear and they think that I am Satan or something like that. why is this? are they afraid of stop believing in god? if they are so sure about their believes they shouldnt worry and if they aren't, maybe they should listen and then decide what they think is true, right?

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When something is as untrue as a belief in god it requires a lot of work for a believer to maintain the fantasy in their mind. Most have asked themselves the same questions you bring up, but they shove it out of their minds and try to forget these questions.
Religion has a built in device to deal with doubt, the devil. They can claim that their doubt is just an anti-god that wants them to turn away from their belief, to combat this they would rather ignore the portion of their brain that rationalizes the world around them. When you tell them the reasons why you are grounded in reality, they figuratively employ the child's defense mechanism of putting fingers in their hears and repeating "Nah nah nah nah, I can't hear you"

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It is part of their indoctrination. They don't want to be tempted to "fall away" from their god.

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But if they are sooooo sure (they don't stop saying how sure they are their church is true) why are they scared of being tempted?
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If you don't mind, they are scared of being tempted? what do you mean?
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Why don't they want to be tempted? That would be a good way to prove to their god that they really believe in him
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What I mean is, they believe what they want to be true. In an attempt to ignore a logical argument and protect their integrity, they shut you up/ don't listen to you/ say you shouldn't be preachy even though they are the ones who try to force their religion on you. I go to a Catholic school(my entire school career) and I've had so many debates(that weren't started by me) that I think being logical makes them behave even more illogically. I get threats if I keep not praying, called a devil worshiper, told to suck Satan's "scepter", etc. Very mature, right?

By the way, a book you might be interested in is Letters from the Earth by Mark Twain
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Well, we r always tempted. Its part of life. :) and, we become stronger when wr overcome temptation.
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Right, kilgore....those kind of comments sound so very loving and kind to draw u, right? And, this is the God we serve? NOT! Sorry for your unloving experience. It was not of God, i can assure u. You are loved very much.! I love u, too.
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Thanks Kilgore, I loved when you said that logic makes them be more illogical and thanks for the book recommendation, I'll read it!:)
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mariamembil.it sounds as though it does bother you somewhat. and why wouldn't it? it seems natural to feel some resentment at constantly being told that the way they believe is superior. also, being told in whatever way that their beliefs are so much better than yours that you don't deserve to really be listened to is insulting. whether or not they mean to be, the essential message is; if only you believe what we believe you'll be a better person. I'm sure there are many very nice people that you associate with. but it seems there's an inherent snobbery in people that constantly want to change you, while what you think is not really worthy of their attention. sorry about the ranting, but that type of thing gets on my last nerve!
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lololoves-i guess I missed the part where kilgore trout( love that character) said he was trying to make loving statement that characterized G-D. however, this has been an interesting give and take. appreciate all views.
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Janiepa106, you are right. It does annoy me sometimes. Specially when I give my point of view and they get mad. for example today I had an argument with a friend just because I said that I was in favour of gay marriage and he started saying that I'm always trying to change his religion when I wasn't (I can't see the relationship). Everytime I don't think the same way and they get mad, that really gets on my nerves. Specially after hours and hours of listening to their Mormon stories.
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Well, it's too bad. This is what rules in my book....LOVE. I was watching the "prayer breakfast" on tv in my area a couple of weeks ago. One man spoke and said that he found Christ but his wife was not a believer. He tried to talk with her about it but she didn't want any of it. So, he didn't talk but showed her by the way he lived his life. Over a year, watching him change and seeing the new love in him, she knew it was the "real deal" and became a christian, too. That is the best way. Ask your friends to kindly back off becasue it's driving you farther away. I bet they will. ;)

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It doesn't bother me at all and believe me, Mormons are the nicest kindest people I've ever met but it still won't change my mind. I love hearing about their religion so what I don't understand is why they don't want to hear about mine
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Well, there are two sides to this: number one, because of how they believe, they're afraid that you're going to spend eternity in hell for not living for Christ, and they don't want that to happen. But on the other side, the Bible says to "kick the dust of your feet." In other words, if they won't accept it, move on. But that doesn't meant they won't stop praying for you (which I hope they don't stop doing!)

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In fact, I don't think they think I'll be going to hell. I'll be going to te terrestrial or telestial kingdom instead of with them to the celestial kingdom. And I know this because I listen to them even though they don't listen to me.
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And thanks for answering:)
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Evangelists pretty much lack respect for anyone else's beliefs but their own. Many wrongly assume that everyone REALLY believes in their god "deep down" and thus must profess unbelief just because they want to "sin" or don't want to be under authority. It's nonsense of course, but their bible tells them so; the arrogance of thinking your particular beliefs are really apparent to everyone never seems to occur to them.

Honestly if someone is so hypocritical that they try to sell you their belief system but won't listen to anyone else's I don't think they're worth the time.

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Yeah but they are my friends and even if they weren't I would have to see them a lot of time. And when they are not talking about religion they are the nicest people I've ever met.
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Thanks for your answer by the way:)
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