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Why do a lot of girls have the common misconception that all guys are jerks and pigs ?

Keep in mind I'm not saying all girls think this. I have just been reading some comments today and they sort of bothered me because every girl deserves there mister right and if certain girls think this they are going to miss out .

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After being treated a certain way, by many different guys. We tend to think that. The scum, give you all a bad name. Same goes with girls though. We're no angels, and some are better than others. The bad ones give the "real" ones bad names.
Vicious cycle.

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Good answer .(: hey I need some advice you got a minute I would really appreciate it .
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Yeah, it cuts both ways. I think a lot of it happens during teens simply because kids don't really know how to relate to each other and may be showing off for their friends.
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Not always true Dodgy. I've met a lot of guys in my life, and oddly enough the younger ones sometimes are FAR more mature than the older ones.
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Go ahead Shane, what's up?
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Ok so I broke up with this girl along time ago she hurt me really badly and we didn't talk for 5 months then out of nowhere she contacts me today and says " Shane do you have a second I really need you "
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It continues hold up .....
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Her"Hey Shane I know I hurt you a lot and you probably hate me right now but if you have a second I really need you..."
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Me "What's up ?"
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Me"By the way I don't hate you . The negative and positive feelings have passed . I honestly don't feel anything towards you .However I'm still willing to help you ."
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I'm still listening. Let me know when you're done. And what you want help with.
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Her"Then nevermind you wouldnt care but thanks....I guess..."
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Me"What do you mean I wouldn't care if I didn't care I wouldn't have responded . So what is it you can tell me and talk to me I'm just going to not get to emotionally involved I was there when your mom got hurt so why wouldn't I be here now ? So what's up."
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Me"Listen if you want to talk then talk if you don't then don't play games or waste my time."
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Sounds like an emotional abuser SJ. I'd delete this one from your life permanently. Change your number, delete her from Facebook. Honestly (from just the little bit you've told me), she's not a good person to have in your life.
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She responds the next day Her-"Like I said I don't play games Shane...Two weeks ago I was diagnosed with lukemia...but I need someoe who will be emotionally invested so I won't waste anyones time... Thanks for responding." Keep in mind she barley told me about this today .
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Me"I'm responding out of kindness and because I still care . You can't just expect me to open my arms you hurt me pretty f in bad and I finally got over it and then you start talking to me you can't expect me to feel the same what you did really had an effect on me and you know you were wrong that's why you opologized . "
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Hold on CJ I want to fid out what happens next!!
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Her"Okay but you can save your kindness appreciate the hmm cordiality....I'm sure your hurt is way much more than mine...bye"
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^ agreed
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Me"See what your doing your using that against me and that's pretty messed up please leave me alone I'm sorry your dealing with that , but please find someone that is emotionally invested . I'm not going to be able to do that and I'm not just another option or a fallback I'm worth more than that . So please don't respond just leave me alone . I wish you the best of luck ."
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What did she say next Shane?
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I'm sort of wondering if I did the right thing I feel I did I just want a bit of advice .
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She sounds like a b!tch. No offense.
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She probably doesn't have leukemia and is just saying it to get your attention.
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I agree also that it is probably for attention ^
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SJ, serioulsy. Even if she is sick, she's not your responsibility anymore. You already tried that path. It didn't work out for you. And these text messages are even more proof, if you try again, it's not going to be anything positive.
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Thanks Cj. That helped trust me . I just needed a bit of reassurance . I just have this thing were I don't like to push people away when they need help or advice during hard times . I'm not going to play chase with this girl or. Contact her trust me I was done with her along time ago . With her I followed both heart and mind and made a decision based on my thoughts , feelings , and logic of course . Thanks for having my back I really do appreciate it .
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Well good night or more so good morning .Time to move forward. Lets see what "tomorrow" brings . Bye (:
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Night babe.
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Cj, spot on!
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dang, Shane, you're ligit
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Lack of experience. They meet one or two "jerks and pigs" and assume the rest of us are like it. Hopefully their opinion improves when they meet some thoughtful boys.

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Star for you kind sir * good answer that is true .
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I blame Kanye West--our image took a collective hit after he interrupted Taylor Swift's acceptance speech, and it's been all downhill from there.

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This is something that's been going on LONG before that happened.
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No, we were good before that.
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I think we should publicly execute him. :D
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I'd settle for a judge requiring him to surrender all of his future award ceremony presentations to Jamie Foxx.
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Yeah!! Jamie foxx is AWESOME!!!
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All the guys I've met are jerks...or just shallow. None of them care unless you're pretty and popular. It kind of sucks for the girls (such as me) that you have to get to know well to actual have a proper opinion on. Oh, and I like your music taste. Sorry, it had to be said :P lol

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Haha thanks (:
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Because where just girls, that's what we do!!

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Dude. Honestly, i don't have any respect for the people who think guys are jerks and pig. And it doesn't bother me at all. Because one guys mistake doesn't stand for everyone.

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Far more than just one..
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Doesn't matter if it's a hundred. Judge the individual based on the kind of guy he is, not because of what someone else is like.
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I agree
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Girls tend to jump to conclusions, a lot of guys aren't chivalrous or thoughtful but a lot are. Don't take it personally, and you're right they are going to miss out if they refuse to open their minds a bit. Most it's partially their issue the guys THEY chose to date, lately I've seen girls at my school go for the backwards hat, sweaty dumb-@$s, obvious jerk kind of guy. Swag isn't going to pay the bills. They usually ignore the what-a-nice-guy, does nothing with his friends on weekends type. I'm a girl btw.

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"Girls tend to jump to conclusions" wtf? Not really..
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people in general jump to conclusions.
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when one of our kind see another in booty shorts, too much make-up, low cut top and push up bra they usually think -slut- low self-esteem or self worth.
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I didn't know you where the advocate for all girl btw MsStina
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alexx- Not just girls think that, guys will think that too. Like you said, people in general do. Not exclusive to females. I advocate fairness :T
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Because they never want to go out with nice guys (like me) until its too late.

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that is not true, all I used to date were "nice guys"...turned out to be heartbreakers too.
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The fact that you said "nice guys" in quotations just proves my point further.
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The bad ones ruin it for the rest.

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Well if you know that then why let them ruin it for you .
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I'm a girl, so it's not ruining it for me. I'm not "letting" anything happen. I'm answering your question, which refers to the people with the misconception that ALL men are pigs.
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Some girls that say that go out with Douchebags and don't go out with the nice sweet guys
I been with a jerk but I'm not saying that all guys are

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wait...... WE ARENT JERKS.......dude, that question was a double sided blade,why do girls think all guys are pigs and jerks.... why do all guys think that girls are rude and mean, not all guys are jerks, not all girls think wrongly of guys, I'm a guy and lets face it, humanity itself needs some work not reguarding the gender. line guys and girls were made to find the perfect ones for each other not to debate the effeciency created by eachothers existence. :I

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cause they've been with all the wrongs guys, personally as a chick I think that not all guys are jerks, and that most of them are really cool, it just depends on who they've been with and how you treat them

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The real question is, why do girls still seek guys, knowing they are pigs and jerks? Perhaps (just perhaps) it's due to the "sour grapes" anticipation; we are afraid of taking a risk, so we say, "oh, they are just sour grapes anyway." It keeps us from having to take a risk, if we discount the value of the object.

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By being treated like I was (look at my latest question to under stand) people like me get a bad view on guys and they just don't want to get hurt anymore

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