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What do you do if your BEST and most closest friend ever is bulimic?

my best friend told me she was bulimic and I have no clue what to do. I know I can't control her and I can't tell her to stop and that's that, but I don't want to loose her.

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You do whatever you have to do, tell her parents, tell the school nurse, tell whoever you have to, be proactive, don't be afraid about losing the friendship there's much more at risk here, your friend will not understand what you've done now but they will thank you for it later and you will be better friends as a result of it...

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But we don't live in the same state anymore. I moved a couple monthes ago. I have no connection with her mom or the school
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You don't need a connection to the school, all you need to know is what school it is and I know you know that, get the phone number, call the school nurse, you don't even have to identify yourself, tell them what's going on and you're concern and then hang up the phone...
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John, you are absolutely right!! Her life is in danger, and if this girl is really a true friend to her, she'll follow your advice.
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We'll see, you never know with these kids, if anything they are unpredictable...
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@kookie and sarte, so right!! Sure hope she does do something...
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You should tell her parents.

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I moved states a couple mothers ago. No connection
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Support her or him because if u just abandon him or her they'll just become worse

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I am. But she won't respond after I tell her I can't make the decision for her, but it's hurting her.
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You won't lose her. She's uncomfortable with her body image, so she became bulimic. Talk to someone about it. Most schools have an anonymous support line where you can tell them about your concerns for this one person, and they'll try to help.
Trust me, the last thing she wants if for you to be too concerned and involved. If you're really worried about her, tell her parents that you're concerned about her. You don't have to tell them about the bulimia, but if you do, ask them to keep that part confidential, because you might be the only one she's told and if her parents bring it up she'll know it was you who told them.
Best of luck.

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i have been anorexic for a year now and my friends always made sure i would eat and it drove me crazy at the time but now im thankful that they cared enough to say something. it felt good to know that someone cared about my health. so letting her know that you really care about her and love her, and dont want her to go anywhere is really important. If it gets to the point were she is throwing up all of the time and isnt looking good at all you should think about telling one of her parents. Its important you pay attention to her, she needs help and you could be the person to save her life.

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Kenzierlee, am so glad to hear you are listening to your friends, and that you are sharing your story to help others!:-)
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My sister has the same problem along with many others. Best thing you can do is let your friends parents know, make sure they get her into a place to talk to someone before it gets severe. Tell your friends parents as soon as possible it's important you let them know so they can get their child some help. Try helping your friend out too, chances are if you're best friends you are trusted more than most people by that person. Try to help your buddy out. Hope this helps. Just let your friend know you want the best for them and being bulimic can lead to many different things and you want to help out. So yeah, let your friends parents know, help your friend through it, make sure your buddy knows it can lead to much worse things, if your friend is bulimic because of a thought of being fat or being told that, let them know they're not fat that everyone is beautiful in their own way. And if someone is calling them fat... Well ill let you handle that however you handle a** holes

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I moved a couple monthes ago. No connections with the family
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No connection at all? Is there a possibility to ask your friend for her mothers cellphone number? Or do you have her home phone number?
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He doesn't have a home phone, and she wouldn't give me her moms #... She's the person that starts acting awkward around you when you ask for something like their address(postcard) or deffinately their moms #
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O, tell her it's for her own good you need to tell her mom about it. It's important.
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Tell her parents, they can help her and seek proffesional help (if she fights with her parents a lot, don't tell them). What you can do as a friend is just be there for her and hang out with her directly after meals so theres less of a chance she'll purge.

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Complement her alot. If she is bulmic she obviously isn't happy with her body image so the best thing you could give her are compliments. Not too much though or she won't believe it. Good luck with your friend :)

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Thanks! Surprisingly out of all these answers, this is the best one
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Look it'll be hard but you have to tell he parents it is putting her life and Health in danger if you don't she will spiral out of control pull her mom or dad aside sometime at her house and just tell them she may be a little mad at first but she will thank you for saving her life when its all said and done good luck :)

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If she is really your best and closest friend, you'll tell someone. You could be the voice that saves her life. Listen to what Sarte told you, he is 100% correct, she could go into cardiac arrest from her electrolytes being off balance. If you are her true friend, you'll tell now.

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Great answer kookie!!!
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Hey :)
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