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There's this kid that my history teacher moved into our class. I don't know why he moved him in there, because its an advanced placement class, and he seems like a real idiot. He sits behind me and talks about my long hair, or something about my head being in then way. He puts his feet on the book rack on the bottom of my desk and shakes it. Should this be considered bullying? It seems harmless but it bugs the crap out of me. He was shaking my desk again today and I yelled "Dude quit!". The teacher told him to get his feet off of my desk but he didn't do anything when the idiot mocked my voice. I hope that he teacher didn't move him in there just so he had someone to talk to about sports (the teacher is also a coach at school). Should I ask the teacher if I should move? If anything between me and this kid gets serious should I fight back if he throws a punch? Or should I talk to a counselor about this? Please, please help me

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The kid is obviously crazy about you and has been trying to get your attention the only way young guys know: Stupidly. And now he's on your mind so much you're writing about him on Ask.com. Mission accomplished!

Give him some attention, but use good friendly behaviors. If he buys the clue and acts friendly like you didn, problem solved. If he continues to be a jerk, Ask the teacher to move you.

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...you know I'm a boy right? He makes fun of my long hair. Guys wouldn't do that to girls because 99% girls have long hair.
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Hey, it wouldn't be the first case of a guy being crazy for another guy in school. I stand by my original advice.
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Ha ok
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Michael292

I would talk to a counselor about it if the teacher doesnt do anything about it, and if he wont let you move

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I'd talk to a counselor and get it worked out. Or talk to your teacher and/or principal.

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Bullying is when people say mean things to you & or punch you and stuff....that dude is just annoying u. Ask the teacher if you can move.

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He does say mean stuff to me. "Look at this ugly white ass n*gga with his stupid ass hair" He said that when he was sitting right behind me, i could here him and he know it.
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Ohhh then he is bullying u.
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I'd talk to a parent or other close adult. If they thought it was worth of a visit, I'd talk to the counselor.

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I told my mom and she said he sounds like a big dumbass. He's a swagfag...and just so, so stupid. I told my mom that I'd yell at him saying something like "You should probably talk with your mouth instead of your ass because everything I hear come out is sh*t!" I don't care idiot get i trouble. All I care about is getting the message to him that I hate him
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*I don't care if I get in trouble
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Fill his locker with live snakes :)
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He maybe mental or somthing from what i know

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Ask your teacher if you could move, explain that you are distracted. If this doesn't work, go tslk to your counselor.

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That is considered bullying, if he likes seeing you get upset. Just tell the teacher that it happens maybe she/he will help.

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That's not bullying. It's just a nuisance.

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I wouldn't call it bullying. People use that word much too loosely these days. It doesn't sound to me like he is trying to intimidate you. He's just trying to get your attention. Try talking to him about something unrelated to class or his behavior. He probably feels awkward around girls and doesn't know how to act so he is acting stupid and immature. If he keeps doing that stuff ask the teacher to move him or you to a different seat.
Oh, wait you're not a girl. never mind. just tell him to knock it off or you'll kick his ass after school. Don't go running to the teacher. Quit whining. Just handle it. Are you going to go running to mommy or whining to the teacher anytime you have a problem?

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...I'm not a f*cking girl
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And NO I don't go running to my mommy. this kid just really gets on my f*cking nerves and I might just kick his ass. But if this kid doesn't stop, and the teacher refuses to move me I'm definetky oing to beat him up. I'm not a baby, I just don't want to be disrupted when I'm trying to hear the lesson he's a distraction.
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But if I fight him I probably won't win because he's in athletics and I'm a bookworm so, if I tell him i'll beat him up he won't believe me and I'll probably be the one ending up with cuts and bruises
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I know that if you get into a fight you will get hurt and you have to do what you can to hurt him so that he knows he can't push you around without consequences. It's also likely that you will both get in trouble for fighting because adults nowadays are trying to raise a crop of helpless little wusses. When I was a kid fighting was part of growing up. There were those kids who wouldn't let up until it got physical. Some kids would try to push me around. If I let them get away with it they kept it up if I fought back I got respect. When I was in high school a whole gang of kids was harassing me. I went up to the one that was doing it the most and told him that I would catch him alone and beat him severely. They all left me alone after that. Yes, I don't care what anyone says, sometimes violence or the possibility of it does solve problems.
If you do end up fighting don't just hit him then wait to see what happens. Go in like a windmill and don't let up until is unable to fight back. If you lose the fight at least he (and others) will know that you aren't an easy target.
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Maybe consider some training in Martial Arts. The better able you are to defend yourself the less likely it is that you will need to. Martial Arts also teach co-ordination and fitness.
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One more thing: I had long hair too and got a lot of verbal abuse because of it. I felt like how I wore my hair was my business. I just liked it long. It wasn't a political statement but some people took it that way. Some jerks will pick anything about you that is different and try to exploit it.
I hope you don't have to fight him but if you do, you catch him by surprise don't say I'll see you after school at such and such a place etc. if you do that all his friends will be there and he gets the advantage. It's not a performance.
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Sorry about thinking you were a girl at first. I totally misinterpreted what was going on. I thought it sounded like an immature guy that had a crush and didn't know how to act.
He is bullying you and you have to stand up for yourself or he will not stop. Most bullies are cowards and they're trying to impress their friends by picking on someone who appears weak. Don't allow yourself to be a victim.
Let me know how this turns out for you.
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If it was me in your position I might be tempted to stand up, turn around and upend his desk with him in it. That is a little rash though. I'm not saying you should do that. It would get his attention though.
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Hey there, I know it's been a while but I told my teacher and he moved the kid. I haven't had any trouble since he's moved him, except when we have a sub and he decides he wants to come back over to his old seat to sit with his friends. He probably won't be in advanced history next year so I'm looking forward to that. Thanks for your thoughts on my problem. Some of it helped and I would've liked to be the sh*t out of him but, my parents would get really pissed at me because I'm not "a trouble maker" thanks though dude :)
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You're welcome. I'm glad the problem got solved or at least lessened in some way and that you didn't have to fight him. You do want to avoid fighting if you can but you don't want to let people push you around or intimidate you. It sounds like you handled it the best way you could. The world is full of jerks and it's frustrating when you're just trying to do your best and someone keeps hassling you.
Thanks for getting back to me. Good luck in the future.
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It must have been annoying that people thought you were a girl. Your username doesn't even sound like a girls name. Sorry about that.
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Haha yea man it's fine
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Bullying comes in many different ways. If you feel you are being bullied, then you are. Tell your mum and then talk to your teacher again about how you feel.

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He may like you if he keeps annoying you about your hair and head. He probably didn't realize he was annoying you when he vibrated the book rack. Some people do that because they can't sit still. I'm the same way. But now that he knows it annoys you, he may keep doing it. If the teacher won't do anything about it, you should talk to your guidance counselor.

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I used to have long hair... i know how you feel with the bullying... sorry to hear that

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