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What can I do if my boyfriend hates my family?

I live with a dysfunctional family. When my boyfriend comes over he hears fights between my brother and my mom. My brother is a heroin addict and frankly my boyfriend hates him. My boyfriend wants me to move in with him because he's worried about my safety and me becoming an addict. What can I do so I don't have to move out or loose my boyfriend?

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Unless you're 18 years old. You can't "move out" anyways. Tell your boyfriend to trust you. That you won't become an addict. It's silly to think one person is going to become an addict just because they have a relative who's an addict anyways.

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You have to sit him down and explain to him that if you were to become an addict, it would have happened long ago. Tell him to be patient and support you in any way he can and let him find his own way of coping with your family.

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A boyfriend's qualifications are be the one for you and be able to do what you want. If he gets along with you that means he's just some boy, if he likes what you like then he's your boyfriend and if he agrees with you on things, likes most of what you like and gets along with your people you should marry but not until you've found out that stuff. I mean I don't like my family but a good girl for me keeps in touch with them cause I won't.

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He's doing all he can to protect you. He fears your safety. But you cannot legally move in with him until 18, I believe. It's probably very awkward for him to be there and hear the fights. I'm pretty sure he doesn't hate your family. He just doesn't like the fact that your brother is addicted to heroin. But, so you don't lose him, I'd visit his house with your parents permission. The problem is that he's uncomfortable in your house. Have you tried to help your brother? Pray for him. You never know. He and your boyfriend could become good friends.

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