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I am pregnant and my boyfriend of a year and a half keeps asking me when are we getting married by the way i am pregnant with his child

i just don't know what to do because i already have 2 kids that aren't his but he does take care of them he is a little older than me he is 40 and i am 29 i don't know what to do and don't want to make a mistake

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FunnyLittleFrog

How come you didn't ask yourself this before having a third child, or with the second one? There's so little information here, no one is going to tell you to get married, although honestly finding such a good guy is very lucky and you should hold on to him. But, again, you know what's going on better than anyone.

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i just have plenty of doubt because it seems like our relationship has been up and down and has ran its course
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You have already made the mistake. You need some counseling. Do you have a pastor ?

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why do you think i already made a mistake? and i need couseling? yes i do go to church
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Probably the mistake was premarital sex.
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but really who doesn't have premarital sex we are in 2013
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If you love him marry him. If you have doubt don't marry him. Don't stress over the person telling you to get Counseling.
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If you really care for him ,the the marriage is not going to be much different.

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Don't marry him. Trust meh! But if U truly love him and U don't give a damn bout people say, marry him

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why you say don't marry him and what would people say
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Just goes to show ya, can't take advice from just anybody.
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If you really think he cares a lot about you, and you do love him, than marring him would be a good thing.

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if you love him and he loves you and he takes good care of your kids treats them like a dad does go Ahead and marry him ..IF YOU TRUST HIM and you don't think he will abandon you go ahead its better to start a proper family than to regret later.. i would say than stop thinking and Go Ahead!!!!!...its honestly difficult to manage alone

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i just don't know what to think
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than wait a month keep a close watch on him with out making it obvious if he seems to be caring going the extra mile to do stuff than also sit have a chat with him ...it seems your not sure if u love him yet? ...is that what is stopping you or ur afraid to get in a commitment...Can u explain what is stopping you
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i am just not sure about my feeling yet because our relationship has been up and down even though i know that relationships aren't always smooth sailing this pregnancy was a surprise to me i do have my own apartment and he has his own place but i am always at his place
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Ah i see so you do enjoy his company but your not sure if you should go ahead with marriage because of the ups and downs in your relation ...ups and downs and arguments do happen in a relationship that is normal but if its cheating on each other than that's not normal if you have someone else in mind or are looking for Mr Right...you should than be in no hurry your young he will come one day OR probably this guy might turn out to be Mr Right later....Or is it the age factor that is bothering you or stopping you or making you think of others opinions If your not satisfied with this person wait patiently or surely is interested in having a family with you that's the reason he got you pregnant for Sure but he has no idea your still thinking...Dear gurl i suggest talk to him tell him you need time to think than for him to keeping pestering you about marriage that might eventually turn into you disliking him
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Well how long have you been with him and you don't know what you think and feel?Why go ahead and have a child with someone if you are not sure about your feelings?Children are a big responsibility and require a lot of your time and effort.I think you're lucky this guy wants to marry you and willing to help you raise your other 2 children.We can't tell you what to do because simply put we can't tell you how to feel.The choice is yours and I wish you lots of luck

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its kind of late now she got pregnant....
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I'll say.Children are so precious that irresponsibility freaks me out.
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You have already made mistakes and say don't want to do any mistake, You will do a greater mistake if you will not marry him now.

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Hun just because your pregnant doesn't mean its a good idea to rush into marriage clearly he seems to think since your pregnant lets rush into marriage i feel if he loves you he will care for your other children like its his own and i think you should wait until you have your baby and see how he is and how he treats you and helps you along the way during your pregnancy and it can be alot of stress planning a wedding while pregnant

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You've made enough mistakes in life, why add one more! Your going to marry the drunk you have been posting and complaining about for the last month or so! WHY, you say he loves you ill bet, wrong, time to think about the kids you have, if you really love them you will not subject them to the life of hardship a drunken daddy can provide!

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