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I've written too many descriptions on questions on how to beat my bully, if you want to know what he is check those because I've wrote too many of them and receives answer but never help that works.

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I've read your descriptions from previous posts. I'm sorry you are going through this.

You're brother's abuse is horrendous. From what you describe, your parents allow it to continue. That means you will need to go to others for help. You must sit down with a teacher, counsellor, or administrator at school. Tell them everything. Tell them about the broken locks, and how he prevents your escape. Tell them about the lack of parental response. Tell them about your injuries. Arrange that you can go to the school nurse/medic to report any bruises or other physical damage. Have them keep a record of all incidents and proof. They may even take pictures. When your claim is irrefutable, they will be required to act on your behalf.

This won't be easy. You must get yourself safe, and you can't do it alone. I know people mean well when they say fight back, but he is three years older and much larger. You need adult intervention. Expect your parents to be angry and embarrassed. Expect revenge. But also, expect the school and authorities to do their job and get you safe.

This is not your fault.

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report it to a adult and if that dose not help then go to bigger authorities

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Kick butt

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no all that does is make him look like hes the bully plus if you sink to thier level then they get away with it and you get into troble dont do it!
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never mind i just saw one of his pasts quistions you should kick some butt.
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:) nice
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You need to stand up and strait up tell him that you aren't going to take hisc cr@p anymore. Go to an adult and lose your fear. Bullies bully people who are weaker and scared.

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Kill them with kindness, and if that doesn't work, kill them......haha im jk about the killing part xD

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You gotta smile and laugh at what they say. It works after a while it just becomes funny to see how annoyed they get so you wont get hurt. :) Or you could tell someone about the bulling.

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Kill em with kindness. Don't underestimate yourself and fight the bully. Go to the bigger authorities. Your choice. :)

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You Really Need to tell the Principal at School because I read your other question about bullying & you really need to talk to a school counselor or principal & try to put a stop it all of it, bullying is a Terrible thing & nobody deserves it & if your dad doesn't understand you then u need to tell another adult in your family to help u, I'm really sorry this is happening to you, I hope that your brother will stop & understand what he is doing to u which is hurting u, I do hope things get better for u & he will probably end up in jail when he is older by the way he acts it seems, I'm really sorry & I wish Good Luck to u, I hope things get better for you...

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Videotape it secretly over a couple weeks and then send it to Dr. Phil and put it on YouTube along with what you have said here. Then see if your parents start caring.

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Go to the police station and file a restraining order. If they come anywhere near you and even talk to you then report it and they go to jail. A restraining order keeps this person from having any contact with you in any way. They can't call, text, send notes, be within a certain distance from you. They can't even send their friends to talk to you because that is also breaking the restraining order. It would probably scare your bully away as well, because most of them are chicken any way if you show them you mean business by going to the cops then maybe they will back off. And, if they dont, a restraining order sure will keep them away, and if not then this Bully can take a one way ticket to jail, or juvenile jail depending on the age. I know where you are coming from I had lots of bully problems and i took this approach toward one of them and it worked. Maybe it will work for you too. And before you do anything go talk to your parents if they don't already know. They can sometimes help more than you think.

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Hi wallabygod I found that talking to every teacher and principle never truly helps all it does is make the bully want to hurt you more. But you still have to do it in the end if people don’t know they can’t help you. Talk to your teachers and parents about it let them know what they are doing and keep telling them every time they do it. If they push you go to a teacher and tell them if they do nothing go to another teacher and tell them what the bully did and that the other teacher just let it happen. Once you get home tell your parents. You can also ask your parents if they could enroll you in a self defense class that can give you chance to let your emotions out and gain confidence. Plus you have another adult that you can trust. You can lean on your friends for support and if you are in the middle of your bully hurting you they can go get someone to help you like a teacher or an adult to help. If you feel like you have no friends or like your friends won’t help then just try to make some or you can just talk to them and ask them to help. I hope this helps and that you can stop having bully problems soon. By the way never sink to their level all it does is get you in trouble.

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Does your school have some sort of anonymous text a tip? If not just talk to your counselors.

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I read your other post pertaining to your brother being the bully. I am so sorry you have to endure that treatment from him and have for a decade now. You don't deserve to go through that. The only way I see this as ever being resolved is to have a serious and deep discussion with your mom and dad about how you feel inside from being bullied by him. They need to put a stop to his behavior, from the way you describe his actions, he seems like he has serious issues. It's one thing for brother's to rough house and play fight but he is purposely verbally and physically abusing you and that is not right at all nor is it acceptable by any means. What makes the situation even worse is that you live with him and there is no escape from the torment. Please listen to me when I say... (do not let him break your spirit down) and ever contemplate suicide again or even think it. When bullies see that how they are treating you affects you, they love it, it fuels them even more to keep on doing it. Your honestly going to have to talk to your parents and express to them just how much all of this is hurting you and eating you alive inside. They need to listen to you and take your feelings seriously and if they unfortunately don't, you need to report what your brother is doing or it will continue on. I truly hope thing's will turn out well for you and the abuse ends.

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I'm late coming to this, but if he's physically hurting you, have you considered the police? It's never legal to hit someone without their express consent.

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The following is the website of the US Department of Health & Human Services. It has tons of information, videos, etc. about bullying: http://www.stopbullying.gov/

In addition, see "GET HELP NOW" at the top of the page.

However, bullying behavior from a sibling is abuse and requires a different kind of response: http://www.med.umich.edu/yourchild/topics/sibabuse.htm

For immediate help: The National Child Abuse Hotline--Call 1-800-422-4453 or 1-800-4-A-CHILD.

Another resource for information (Sibling Abuse Survivors' Information & Advocacy Network): http://sasian.org/

Hope that helps.

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Love is always a narrow path to take,
And hate is the widest. But beating some one black and blue does not make you the wisest.

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You need to notify the principal or counselor about this ordeal. And if nothing happens then I know violence doesn't solve anything, but you might need to by then reconsider on fighting it out with your bully. And you could have your friends with you mainly wherever you go that way maybe your bully won't bother you as much and just like diminish away. Meaning leaving you alone and start being more mature instead of acting in a immature manner of childish acts....

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