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What to do about Parent Problems?

My friend and I want to go on a camping trip, and my parents are fine with taking a 3 day vacation, but her parents aren't. They say she has a commitment (Safety Town orientation), even though she can do the orientation on another day. They won't let her contact the head director to ask if she can skip it or take a test to prove she knows the information. She's asked about 3 different times, and they are really getting upset at her, but she just wants to know why. I feel really bad for her, because we both want to go together, and it would be a great opportunity to spend more time with her, but her parents aren't helping. Is there any way to bring it up gently, or find out what's really going on without them blowing their top?

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Sometimes adults will tell a gentle lie to their kid because they think it'll go over with less drama than telling the whole truth. Maybe your friends parents just don't like you or don't trust you. Maybe they don't like your parents and don't want to have to deal with them with both of you on a trip together. Maybe your friends parents just can't afford the trip and don't want their daughter to worry that the family is going broke. Maybe they don't want your friend thinking she can get out of any commitment she makes by just saying "I'll do it later". If your friend is asking her parents again and again and they're getting annoyed, she should stop asking. They are parents, not friends, and they get to make decisions without justifying them to the children. End of story.

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Just schedule it for another day. The reason it's probably "blowing their top" is because she's already asked 3 times, and there is probably a 99% chance they'll say no the next time!

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Well, we're renting out my house that weekend, so we really can;t schedual it another time.
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then try not to do it this weekend, maybe next weekend.
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it's during summer
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well, if you're renting out your house that weekend, and her parents won't let her because she has to go to an orientation, then you guys won't be able to do it then, but you could try another time, one that fits both of you.
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But the orientation can be on other Saturdays, that's why I'm a bit confused on their motivations to why they replied no so quickly.
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As much as the two of you want to go & be together (sounds like fun!), you really can't get in the middle of it. This is between the parents and child. Maybe they have their own reasons, and you're just not aware of them. So, maybe you can do this with your friend another time.

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