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How do I choose where to live?

My parents are getting divorced, and its up to me where I want to live. My older sister is living with my dad and my younger one is living with my mom, but I don't know where I want to live. If I live with my mom, it will hurt my dads feelings and if I live with my dad it will hurt my moms feelings. I don't know how I'm supposed to choose!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!! P.S. For some reason I can't live half and half.

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That's a tough choice for any kid to make. I didn't want to choose one parent over the other either. So what I did was choose to remain in the same house, go to the same school, and continue to see the same friends. That meant choosing to live with my mom. But I never felt as though it was a question of rejecting my dad either.

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why not live at both half and half

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it depends how far away they will live from each other, if they live close then try to ask them to let you spend a week or something with one parent and the other week with the other parent i am sure your parents will understand

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choose which parent that you're closer to, or which one you think needs you more.

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Are they living in different areas? Is one of your parents keeping your original house?

Because if one of them is living in the original house, you could choose that one because then you could go to the same school and you won't have to leave your friends. I'm sure the other parent would understand that way.

If not, which place would you rather live? Lets say, [figuratively speaking] that your dad is going to live in California and your mom is going to live in Idaho. Personally, I would choose to live in California because it's awesome.

So think of it as more of choosing between places, not choosing between the people. Hope I helped you out. :)

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Think of which one of them you get along with the best. If they do not live that far from each other (like in an other city or something), maybe you can figure something out to be with both of them, like with your mom in two weeks and then with your dad in two weeks :)

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Question 1: Who do you feel you'll be the happiest with or Question 2: Who needs you the most?

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Why don't you stay with your mom for a couple of days, then stay with your dad, and like every 2 weeks or something you switch around?

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I am sorry you have to choose and that is a really tough thing to do. You should go where you will be most comfortable being. Both of your parents love and want you to be where you will be at your best. Even if one is disappointed that you didn't choose them, they will be more concerned about what is best for you, and that you are where you are most likely to thrive. Even if you don't live with one parent you'll be able to talk to them everyday, and visit with them.

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You need to stay in the environment that is best for you not which parent is best. But I guess really that does mean mom or dad. It sounds like both of your parents love you a great deal and they only want what's best for you. Just don't make yourself sick over this decision. Also, just trust your gut. I hope they live close enough so you can still see your sister though. That's going to be hard

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