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I'm in medical school and my boyfriend want me have a baby for him or he will leave me... what to do because I love him soooo much?

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Say goodbye and move on.

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Stay in school and say goodbye...star
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yes. yes. yes
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You need to have the baby if you are ready. However, it is good to make him understand how you feel about the issue and also in relation to your studies. You can still have the baby and continue with your studies or opt to finish school first.

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The problem is that I'm not financially stable to have a baby now and I want finish college first but if I don't have the baby now he is leaving
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He will be back, finish school.
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Please don't let him do this. If he's right fir you he won't try to push you. GED support you going to school.
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Is he going to school? If you're smart enough to be in medical school, you're smart enough to know the answer to your own question. Stay on the birth control. Don't toss medical school down the toilet because your boyfriend wants you under his control. Having a baby is NOT something you to FOR your boyfriend. You do it for you, when YOU are ready. Use your smarts and stay on track with medical school.

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Thanks I know the right choose but my heart is getting in the way of my senses
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He met me in med school ....he is in college but he works as well and is 10 years older than me
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Well, stay strong. As you say, you know the right choice. Sometimes I know what I need to do in a situation, but I still need someone to back my decision. If he loves you, he won't really expect you to do this now, and if he doesn't . . . best to know now. Good luck. And I also hope he cuts you some slack.
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Deepdark that is great advise!
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Tell that you can have a baby with him....(in ten years) just kidding tell him that you love him but your not ready to have a baby. Hopefully he understands if not he's it worth your time. I feel like ether ways he's gonna dump you so... Yeah

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Thanks very helpful....being sarcastic
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It wasn't helpful? Lol:)
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Sounds like a lot of work to me. Here is an idea, graduate from med school get lots of money then love boyfriend sooooo much and have baby. Its known as a 'win win' situation. people get to call you 'Doctor' and then you can also buy boyfriend a Ferrari to make up for the long wait ... I'll have mine in red.. Revlon red ..... think twice....;-p

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A smart and intelligent woman would stay in school and say goodbye and move on.... you'll have fun in school and meet a lot of people...and don't have a baby until you have your degree... be a smart and intelligent woman.

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Well said Sweet
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Wow, you're boyfriend does not sound like a good guy. He doesn't understand what you're going through and how busy you are with school. If he tells you to have a baby of he'll leave you, then he's extremely selfish and not at all worth it. Education is more important than starting a family when you don't want to. Leave him, don't worry you won't regret it.

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He wants you pregnant in order to control you &/or sabotage you.

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if thats the way he thinks, he's not worth keeping, move on.

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It's time for him to go. I've known so many women who put their studies on hold for some jerk and never picked them up again.

Have a listen to Peggy Seeger (Pete's sister) singing "Gonna Be an Engineer". She underlines beautifully the situation you're facing. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qr8jFMXTioc

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My son & I LOVE that song! Everyone should listen to it! Good for you...
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Thanks, Sue., I first heard it sung by Pete Seeger but it was Peggy who wrote it. It certainly spells out a common problem.
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If he really loves you, he will support your decision to postpone children until you have finished your education. If he puts himself and his desires above you, then you have your answer I would think. Don't you?

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I agree Ravin.. It's difficult to speak or hear the truth sometimes.. But her life will be unfulfilled if she would leave school
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Thank youBlades. I hope you are better.
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Your English/writing skills are very poor for a med student. Anyway, if you're pregnant have the baby. If not get rid of him if you're not ready to get pregnant and be a mom.

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Med students aren't the best at English hehehe
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Ha ha so true, ever try to read a doctor's hand writing? That's probably why!
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The last thing you need right now is a baby. The 2nd to last thing you need right now is your selfish boyfriend. Put him on hold, at least until you finish your studies.

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You need to finish your schooling and get a job in your field of medical training First!
For him to threaten to leave you if you do not get pregnant is not only pathetic but Very controlling!
Why would you even consider meeting his Demands? That is exactly what they are.
What will his next demand be???
He is a Control freak, that in short should be a Huge Red Flag!

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Do what you want not what he wants

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I'm want him and my career
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Leave him if u don't want a kid

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You so young but speak volume....I did :)
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If he loved you he would NOT pressure you or give you ultamatums. He would respect you and wait till you were done with school. Ditch him.

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