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Should we ever doubt or question our emotions?


Or should we always trust our emotions, despite what others might say? I am often told, whenever I feel hurt, upset, angered, or betrayed, that I am just making a big deal out of nothing, or I'm blowing things out of proportion. Do our feelings sometimes need to be evaluated, or questioned? Sometimes, I hold thoughts back, as I'm worried about coming across wrong, or I'm afraid I might be "blowing things out of proportion." How do you know when your feelings are right, or valid? I hope this makes sense... Thanks in advance.

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Our emotions help us to configure the emotional relationship that we wish with people.
If we did not share our emotions, we will be left unable to express our feelings.
And then we will not communicate effectively with others,
We have to get our emotions out of whether these feelings of fear, anger, weakness, tightness, discomfort ...
Non-disclosure of emotions may contribute to the explanation of things and behavior incorrectly.
We are responsible for our feelings,not for the feelings of others.
We must not feel that we must make others happy, our love for others does not mean that we deny our needs and always strive to meet their needs.
We are not always responsible for the feelings of others, each of us is responsible for his feelings, we must not lose ourselves in the relationship,
We must respond to the needs of others by sympathy not out of fear or guilt or shame, here we accept responsibility for our actions and our actions,not for the feelings of others.
Our feelings needs requirements,and the decisions of other behavior,maybe we do not like and raises some bad feelings we have,but not the cause of bad feeling to be sad or angry.
The reason to this feeling is our underlying needs and all our judgments and our criticisms and our interpretations of the behavior of others is only an expression of our needs,
If we controll our feelings by our needs and we expressed our feelings clearly.
Then it became easy for others to respond to them.
Words I love to Conclude.
It is time to find out about Islam. It is time to find out about the truth by using your own Mind.
A Time for Thought.
A Time for Change.
A Time for Action.

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always doubt. sometimes your emotions are expressions on your opinion or feelings on a certain thought or past occurence and is typically a conscience reminiscence on an older event that can help you better carry out a process rather that repeating a past negative activity.

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I've re-read this several times, and it doesn't completely make sense to me. Why should we always doubt our emotions? That's like saying we should always doubt ourselves; our emotions are a part of us. Can you elaborate?
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Well, that depends on you. I say balance the two.

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I'm sorry, but that really didn't make any sense.
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no we shouldnt sometimes our emotions are best for us. and never be affraid to tell a questtion even if you think its dumb.

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Absolutely there are times when we need to question our emotions. It is OK to express yourself at all times, but sometimes when people are too emotional the message they want others to get can be lost. Try to think about the situation from different points of view and then try to explain why you felt hurt, upset etc... if you give yourself a minute to calm down and think you might find things aren't as bad as you think. Even if they are as bad as you think, you still have to calm down, think reasonably and consider what to do about it. Good luck :)

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The thing is, I usually approach my parents very calmly, even when I'm deeply hurt. (I hate confrontation, and yelling, so I am typically very calm...) however, I feel like 80% of the time, I'm told I'm making something out of nothing. It hurts, but I wonder if maybe I just always do? If you're still upset after a few days, can your emotions be considered valid then? It's been several days...
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Thanks for your answer, btw. :) it actually made sense, and explained.
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rbeezy:, that was a heck of a good answer :)
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As girls, our hormones tend to get in the way of reason, so though it's completely normal to get a bit dramatic, you do need to occasionally take a deep breath and think things through.

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I always say: Dont listen to your emotions, and question your feelings. And only accept your emotions when they are supported by a feeling that has been questioned and accepted.

Now, sometimes its better to remain silent. The best way to know when you re right to fel an empotion is that first, you need to calm down. second, you need to analize what you re talking. and third, you must be able to talk about it being serious and not upset, sad, excited, worried, etc. In other words, being serious and no emotions. Gby

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The heart is the most deceptive above all. Our emotions can lead us to feel things in the "moment" that we wouldnt normally feel.
So yes, we should keep a tight rein on our emotions & tongue.

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What if I'm calm and honest when I express my feelings are hurt? I'm typically not one to yell, I hate confrontation... If its a few days later, can you know then? That your emotions are real, and valid, I mean.
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you have the right to feel how you feel & talking about them will bring about hopefully an understanding. we all are emotional at some point over certain things. We're human after all. I was just quoting scripture about the heart. You could very well be justified in feeling the way you do. Pray about it & search the Word. This should help. :-)
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I think our emotions are very important to look back on after the fact of something happening in our lives that makes us emotional. When we reflect we can decide if we are too much to the right or left. Your emotions are important and should be respected

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Thank you. They usually aren't. :/ I am rarely validated it feels.
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Your emotions are different then anyone else's and people should respect them if they care for you. If not maybe they need to be told this is important
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Perhaps, what mood am I conveying now? If you guessed excitement, you are wrong, if you guessed boredom, you are right! Kidding, I dont think we should doubt our gut feelings or emotions. I've never regretted going with my gut feeling. I mean, if I went with my gut and failed, then at least I enjoyed the way, right? Imagine how foolish it would be to fail because you didn't go with your gut feeling.

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Totally question emotions. Emotions very often lead us astray. Acting on emotion rather than thought very often had terrible consequences.
So many divorces because people were sure they were in Looooovvve and found their soul mate. So many people in jail because they lashed out in hatred, anger and jealousy.

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Hi, Shaylen.
Emotions are what drives us to do things. It's our trust and disgust, our will and despair, our love and remorse. This is a great thing to have but sometimes it gets so intense that we lose our ability to think logically. If that's the case, don't act on emotion. But if you can really give thought to things and it all comes back to what your emotions tell you, that's when you know they're right.

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Thanks, Marcus. This answer was the most helpful.:)
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Don't thank me, thank... SCIENCE!
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Lol ok then, Marcus:P *smh*
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