This is more of an opinion, some won't think its okay, & some will... But, waiting is smarter. B/c most people who are 17 are still in school. Then some want to go to college. A child is expensive & could get in the way of studies. Plus it is already hard to live on your own w/o a child. On top of that you need to be able to care for the child.
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Last edited at 9:35AM on 4/9/2013
It's not really a good idea to have a child at 17. At that age, your body is still developing so it can be extra physically stressful (though pregnancy is physically stressful anyways.) You are also still in school and a child would be a huge hurdle for college, or even just finishing high school. It also takes a financial toll on you, as at 17 I seriously doubt that you have built up a reliable, steady source of income for yourself that is sufficient for both you and the child. Lastly, teenage mothers have to grow up suddenly, very fast. It's a difficult thing to ask of someone who still has a year or two of childhood left in them.
I'm not saying it's inherently "bad" to have a child at 17. A lot of people do so and have comfortable lives and do well with raising their child(ren). But at such a young age there are going to be more difficulties, and bigger hurdles, for you than if you had had that child a few years later.
Ill share a story with you. My brother is 20 years old, Married, and has a son that is about to be a year old in May. My sister in law was not mature enough to have a baby as she was only 17 (she turned 18 a month later) but, after she had my nephew she got a little more responsible. Now she's much more mature. Even though she still has a lot to learn she's doing pretty okay. I think that she will be a good mother in the years to come. it's a matter of opinion. I personally don't believe in a abortions but I don't believe I pre-martial sex
Yes of course in my way of thinking ! It's so much responsibility to take and don't forget you need to have a job and take care of your child and if your married it would be more difficult ... There's a lot of things it will wait for you , It's not easy like you think ! Plus your education (if your a student) .
Depends on how you define 'bad'. If you have hopes of a vibrant future, college, personal independence, then its bad for those things. If you are financially, socially, emotionally and in every other way prepared, which most seventeen yr olds are not, then its not so bad. Most intelligent adults would strongly recommend that babies be put off until later.
No, not if you're emotionally mature and financially ready for to raise another human being and be responsible for their development and safety and well being for the next 20-25 years. Most often teenage parents stick their own parents with a lot of the responsibility which seems selfish and unfair.
Not a thing, as long as you've finished school, can pay your own bills, support yourself and a child, have insurance to cover the birth, have a good child care program you can afford in place while you work, give up going out to party with your friends because the baby comes first, your time is done. If you can provide all of the above, you're ready.
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Last edited at 11:20AM on 4/9/2013
Other than the obvious, you mean?
At 17 .. No job or means to support one's self .. other than someone else like a parent or social services. This would suggest that this 17 year old would face a challenged future without a complete support system .. not to mention bringing a child into an already challenged future. Chances are a 17 is no where near emotionally equipped to handle the emotional, financial, physical or mental needs of an infant on her own.
There is nothing wrong to have kids at the age of 17 but technically and legally it has. If you are medically fit and strong enough to deliver a healthy baby then you can, but it is advisable to have kids when you achieve the age of 18 plus, by this time your body is mature enough and you too are mature enough to have kids and be a responsible mother. We do not fill the earthen pot which are weak and can't bear the weight of the water to be filled in it.
No as long as the baby got a family an what it needs. I just had a baby a few days after I turned 17. My parents where disappointed but their fine now. as long as you can support him or her and your mature.
That is young but it don't really matter. Hmong people marry around 13 or 14 well most of them. It just life changing. You don't have time to yourself anymore but it is all going to be worth it. It will be very hard. Just finish school find a job and have all the fun u can have first.
Many teenage parents experience poverty, lack of education and poorer medical care. The book Teen Moms-The Pain and the Promise states, babies of teen mothers "tend to have a lower birthweight, more childhood illnesses, more infant morality, poorer medical care, suffer more from hunger and malnourishment; they are exposed to more violence, and have more delayed development than children born to older mothers." Furthermore, god's word states, “flee from fornication.”—1 Corinthians 6:18.
Yes. There are lots of reasons why. You couldnt party(most teens thro 20's love to party) Most likley the farther would leave u wanting to party It would be hard! there is lots more reasons but i cant think of them right off the bat dont get pregnant it can mess up ur life wait tell ur at least 25!
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Yes, first off its dangerous to have a kid so young, it can cause complications putting you and the baby at risk, and having a child before your life even begun takes out a lot of opportunities you could have. can you go toi college, have a job, and take care of a baby at the age of 19 at the same time and be perfectly healthy? not really. i would wait till your at least out of college. having a child is an amazing thing, i have enough older relatives who have had children to know how beautiful it is, but having one so early can seem like a night mare. dont take the risk your beautiful, and you dont want to throw your future away like that. just wait a little longer :)
If you have to ask this question then you're already second guessing yourself. Why would any girl decide to have a child at 17? A responsible female would wait until later in life to have a child. It isn't fair to the 17 year old or the child. Making mature responsible choices in life come from getting some experience in life. Expect more from yourself than just being a mother at 17. Go to school and get a good education. Become self supporting and live a little before tying yourself to such a momentous life altering situation. Be able to offer the child something besides love. Wouldn't your child deserve the very best life has to offer? If so then wait before having a child. I have 2 children that I love to the moon and have been blessed with 4 great grandchildren. My son was 31 before he became a father. My daughter was younger but, not 17 and it was so much harder on her financially because she wasn't prepared for the demands of supporting another person. Take the time to really think over all that could be available to you and the child if you waited several years verses not waiting.